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Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 3:44:46 PM

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This was opined in a thread recently by a female friend of mine. Or, at least, that was how I read her post. Frankly, I don't know. I *have* had female friends tell me that they know when one of their fellow lady-pals has started on a course of regular bonking because they've started to look, variously, 'blooming', 'happy' and 'bouncy'. One frequently-heard, weird little observation, is that one can tell a woman who's started bonking regularly by her complexion. Rosy cheeks are the order of the day.

On the other hand, men who've started bonking after a long period as ships at sea with nary a port at which to dock: not much difference. The internet is always there to alleviate excesses of that unwholesome energy. When they start bonking with a new partner, though . . . they'll certainly look happier, but at the same time, ever so slightly *hunted*.

What do you think?

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 3:56:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

This was opined in a thread recently by a female friend of mine. Or, at least, that was how I read her post. Frankly, I don't know. I *have* had female friends tell me that they know when one of their fellow lady-pals has started on a course of regular bonking because they've started to look, variously, 'blooming', 'happy' and 'bouncy'. One frequently-heard, weird little observation, is that one can tell a woman who's started bonking regularly by her complexion. Rosy cheeks are the order of the day.

On the other hand, men who've started bonking after a long period as ships at sea with nary a port at which to dock: not much difference. The internet is always there to alleviate excesses of that unwholesome energy. When they start bonking with a new partner, though . . . they'll certainly look happier, but at the same time, ever so slightly *hunted*.

What do you think?

I do not think there is much of a difference in need, but there is much difference in upbringing and expectations from society, and so in how men and women deal with the problem.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:02:44 PM

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I don't think the differences are gender-based. I think people in general just differ in this regard, some men and women able to handle being celibate better than others.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:09:23 PM

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I was shocked that a cop friend knows if I have a good 'un when he notices my lips [upper!] look more bee-stung, even during a workday when I haven't been smooching.

I would say my men look happier and sated-but-excited, slightly thinner with more defined cheekbones from all the calories they're burning off from running horizontally, so would say they look more smug/pleasingly toyed with/ridden hard and put away wet and looking forward to the next saddling, than 'hunted'. I hope!

So first I would say it would be doing without 'relationship sex' rather than just sex. I find sex without a relationship far, far less satisfying, and good men that I know feel the same, no matter what terrible 'romcoms' or indeed this site would have males believe.

Who it's harder on? Couldn't say, but from the numbers, males either tolerate it less or settle for less, so perhaps hence the 'hunted' look.
I've always had a thing for Cassiuses...

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:13:47 PM

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This is going to be a subjective thread for me. I see women with bubbly personalities that could be construed as "bouncy" and "happy" whether they are getting sex or not. I am personally in a period of my life where I could take it or leave it, but I am still a happy person. So yes, I believe women can do without sex better than men.

I don't know if it is the sex itself or the relationship with the person they are having the sex with. I'm not sure if we could see that in long term marriages or not.

Sex is a great stress reliever but a hell of alot more fun than a workout.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:21:15 PM

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I think if a woman doesn't have sex for a while, she tends to forget about it, it seems the sex drive goes away (luckily it always comes back) but we don't obsess about it, for guys it just seems that they are getting randier and randier...

I'm willing to bet if you take the average guy (of course there are always exceptions) and the average woman and put them in chastity, after a while the woman will just go on as normal, while they guy will be willing to do just about anything to get sex.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:28:37 PM

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This would be a very good example of how I don't relate to my gender.

I can go long periods without sex, masturbation can curb any urge I might have. If it was enforced, I'd probably go longer and just relive the wet dreams of my earlier teenage years.

It's possible that my age plays a factor (41, not that old really, but not super young and horny either). I appreciate what I have. As a Dom I'll take more as I feel appropriate, and that also needs to account for the receptivity of my partner. I'd rather go without than do something wrong or inappropriate for a quick serotonin high.

Is that too girly of me?

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:31:16 PM

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Lol, not me!
The longer it's been without a good man, I have to be careful not to settle and make bad decisions, 'just' for great sex, and all with a hair-trigger response like an adolescent boy's when I haven't had good lovin' in weeks or [le sigh!] months despite perfectly good orgasms.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:34:44 PM

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I do poorly without it.

I feel distracted more often, and am more likely to use porn if I'm helping myself. I tend to objectify more than I would like. I wouldn't say I get intrusive thoughts, the urge to touch, or anything creepy- I just notice what I like more.

idk- I've always felt like men who "do poorly" without it make a lot of excuses.
I'd love to get laid everyday.
But I'm not in the grocery store oogling everyone.

I also have to say- it REALLY effects my self confidence.
Current beau is going through a bit of depression- so it has been a while for us and it starts to get in my head and I start to have some really negative thoughts about what I look like and who I am. I probably focus on working out more, wear more make up, and care about my clothes more when I'm not getting it.

So I guess, while I feel I do better than most guys, I really would stress the longer and longer it was, and would have a hard time going about like everything is normal. Just its in a different way than a guy would. Sorta.

In my current relationship, I'm the more sexually inclined one- he's a sex camel.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 4:35:59 PM

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By chastity, I mean also no masturbation.

I went through periods of my life where I just couldn't be bothered and forgot all about sex, most guys couldn't believe it and thought I must have masturbated a lot, I was just "Not really, I just was quite busy with other stuff, I was single, didn't think about it!" They couldn't related and told me they'd go crazy if they couldn't at least masturbate.
Maybe I'm odd, but my sex drive was always sort of linked to a person, if there was no such person in my life or we were apart due to simple geographics, well, no big deal, but if somebody came into my life again, it always came back, big time.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 5:16:28 PM

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I went through periods of my life where I just couldn't be bothered and forgot all about sex, most guys couldn't believe it and thought I must have masturbated a lot, I was just "Not really, I just was quite busy with other stuff, I was single, didn't think about it!" They couldn't related and told me they'd go crazy if they couldn't at least masturbate.

You didn't seem cranky during that time, Lady C. Well, no more than usual, anyway.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 5:46:09 PM

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Yah, I never "just forget about it"

Its tied a little too close to my self confidence actually- and this gets brought up in therapy often.
Our sex life to me is hugely important, in the top 3 most important things probably.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 6:02:46 PM

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I'm in line with LadyC. When I am in a satisfying relationship dynamic, I think about sex often, I want it all the time, I sleep better, and when I walk, I wiggle my sugar shaker a bit more.
When I'm not in a relationship, the sex drive goes on the back burner. I can't describe it, but it sorta hibernates. So. I don't suffer. I don't get agitated or restless. I just find other things that make me happy.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 6:39:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

I don't think the differences are gender-based. I think people in general just differ in this regard, some men and women able to handle being celibate better than others.

When I think of myself, my various partners in life, and my friends, this is the conclusion I come too as well. I know men who seem fine with not having sex that often and I know women who start climbing the walls without it. Although I suppose it could still be the case that most men are wired to crave sex more than most women. I suppose what can be said for sure is that it would be a mistake to draw any conclusion about any particular individual based on their gender alone. With regards to this topic, I am much more like the stereotypical male. I have often had situations in a relationship where I needed sex more than the man I was with. Thereby debunking the myth that all men think about sex all the time. oh, and p.s. the part about glowing skin is true.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:17:33 PM

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Your friend is right. At least on the female side for some people. It's not even something you have to see. Do you have any idea how many people wrote Me to say how much happier I seemed when I took up with the new submissive? That's not just sex, of course, but I'm sure it's part of it.

As to how people handle celibacy, we were talking about this at home just the other day. Different angle, but in My opinion, if you can't or won't do ok without long periods of no sex, you're not cut out to be a military spouse. It's why I do ok on the matter and some people don't.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:19:59 PM

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When I am in a satisfying relationship dynamic, I think about sex often, I want it all the time, I sleep better, and when I walk, I wiggle my sugar shaker a bit more.

The next time the discussion of personal tag lines comes up, I'm volunteering "wiggles her sugar shaker" for you.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:24:50 PM

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except for all the woman on collarme

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:29:39 PM

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except for all the woman on collarme

Would you like to explain this bit of idiocy or is it just trolling?

Please note, that is not a personal attack. I'm questioning the statement.

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:32:43 PM

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most woman on collarme do think about sex all the time thats why they are in here

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RE: Women can do without sex better than can men - 2/28/2014 7:36:24 PM

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Women can do without sex better than men...

Gee it has been three years, 4 months and a few days for me. Dont really miss it. But then considering the number of surgeries in that period, it is little wonder that it never crossed my mind

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