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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Maybe its because I'm generation "Jersey Shore" but I'm not that choosey.
I mean- I am not going to sleep with any tom, dick or harry, but my standards aren't impossible and require just not being a shitty person. Once I feel I know and trust you enough to not be a shitty person- you're good. But I also have NO PROBLEM with women who have one night stands or are just out get sex. And I'd be lying if I said there weren't times I had sex just to have sex. I do not find it all that emotional. I don't feel a great connection. I've often just had friends who I turned into friends with benefits, and there has rarely ever been any emotional fall out when either of us get a partner. It doesn't take a special connection to have sex, for me.

In truth- if sex were safe and STD's were no concern, or murder or rape were no concern-or slut shaming- I'd have sex with a lot more people.

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Maybe its because I'm generation "Jersey Shore" but I'm not that choosey.
I mean- I am not going to sleep with any tom, dick or harry, but my standards aren't impossible and require just not being a shitty person. Once I feel I know and trust you enough to not be a shitty person- you're good. But I also have NO PROBLEM with women who have one night stands or are just out get sex. And I'd be lying if I said there weren't times I had sex just to have sex. I do not find it all that emotional. I don't feel a great connection. I've often just had friends who I turned into friends with benefits, and there has rarely ever been any emotional fall out when either of us get a partner. It doesn't take a special connection to have sex, for me.

In truth- if sex were safe and STD's were no concern, or murder or rape were no concern-or slut shaming- I'd have sex with a lot more people.

while I am picky now, I wasn't as picky at your age & sex wasn't always emotional for me then either.. and guys at 25 were much more attractive too, lots to choose from & super easy to meet them.. but as men age, well.. many men do not age very well (and they tend to go thru a mid-life crisis for several decades).. part of the reason I am picky is that I don't find many sane, age appropriate men (for me) that I am attracted to.. so, enjoy it while you can!..

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Maybe its because I'm generation "Jersey Shore" but I'm not that choosey.
I mean- I am not going to sleep with any tom, dick or harry, but my standards aren't impossible and require just not being a shitty person. Once I feel I know and trust you enough to not be a shitty person- you're good. But I also have NO PROBLEM with women who have one night stands or are just out get sex. And I'd be lying if I said there weren't times I had sex just to have sex. I do not find it all that emotional. I don't feel a great connection. I've often just had friends who I turned into friends with benefits, and there has rarely ever been any emotional fall out when either of us get a partner. It doesn't take a special connection to have sex, for me.

In truth- if sex were safe and STD's were no concern, or murder or rape were no concern-or slut shaming- I'd have sex with a lot more people.

while I am picky now, I wasn't as picky at your age & sex wasn't always emotional for me then either.. and guys at 25 were much more attractive too, lots to choose from & super easy to meet them.. but as men age, well.. many men do not age very well (and they tend to go thru a mid-life crisis for several decades).. part of the reason I am picky is that I don't find many sane, age appropriate men (for me) that I am attracted to.. so, enjoy it while you can!..

I'm a little bisexual. Although due to my current relationship status- ladies are sort of off the table unless we find a unicorn (and we aren't looking very hard).

But I think once all the guys get horrible and insecure about their hairlines, I'll just switch to ladies full time.

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ORIGINAL: altoonamaster

most woman on collarme do think about sex all the time thats why they are in here

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ORIGINAL: altoonamaster

most woman on collarme do think about sex all the time thats why they are in here

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact



Any woman getting on the internet for sex makes about as much sense as driving twenty miles for a bottle of water rather than walking into the kitchen and turning on the tap. While males are always in the pursuit of sex, women, on the other hand, are constantly turning it down. Any woman with half a brain knows this and it's why women mention quality partners, rather than any partner.

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ORIGINAL: slavekate80

I wouldn't know. I rarely get any. I went 9 years without any sex, and since that dry spell ended, several weeks or months between encounters is still the usual case, and I've never gotten it regularly. It's rare that anyone asks me to sleep with him. As long as he's at least somewhat attractive and I trust him well enough to know he's not a serial killer I'll say yes, but that's certainly not an opportunity that comes along often. If I didn't have low standards for offline partners and didn't have the Internet to find better people online, I'd still be a virgin.

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ORIGINAL: slavekate80

Thank you. Well, late probably works better for me then - not really looking for a long-term relationship when I go out. I feel silly because I usually do okay finding partners online, but finding them offline is a big challenge. I'll keep working on it.

To the main topic, maybe it has something to do with how we evolved? From a genetic standpoint, men increase their chances of reproductive success by having frequent sex and theoretically can father hundreds or even thousands of children, but women's chances of reproductive success only go up if they have sex in a fairly narrow window of time and each woman's maximum number of offspring is much lower than a man's. There are about three weeks out of each fertile month when her odds of conception are very low. She won't conceive if she's already pregnant or recently gave birth. Her fertility is decreased if breastfeeding. High libido will help both men and women reproduce, but the evolutionary advantage it gives men is much greater. So it makes sense that there's a lot of overlap but the average man has a higher sex drive than the average woman.

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

The primary reason anybody can do without sex or cope better than others is due to self-control or the lack thereof. More self-control, more emphasis on quality sex. Less self-control, greater emphasis on quantity of sex-play partners vice holding out for a quality sex-play partner.

It's really quite simple. If this is your conclusive finding, then women in general must be able to exercise a higher degree of self-control than men do in general. I've known men who are selective, and I've known women who aren't so selective. Sometimes this is tied into ego/vanity issues.

I'm no saint in this respect. I've had periods of celibacy ranging from 1-3 years at a stretch a handful of times. There have been times when I got tired of waiting for Mr. Right (sub), and given someone a try-out who didn't exactly deserve it, which I then regretted because I let my horniness get the upper hand when I shouldn't have.

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ORIGINAL: altoonamaster

most woman on collarme do think about sex all the time thats why they are in here

No, those of us who are not here just for the forums and are actively seeking, are seeking relationship-worthy partners. Even those seeking compatible play partners would prefer to find a steady, trustworthy individual, not a horndog looking to get his freak on. Grow up, dude, you should know better at your past-middle-agedness.

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ORIGINAL: slavekate80

Thank you. Well, late probably works better for me then - not really looking for a long-term relationship when I go out. I feel silly because I usually do okay finding partners online, but finding them offline is a big challenge. I'll keep working on it.

To the main topic, maybe it has something to do with how we evolved? From a genetic standpoint, men increase their chances of reproductive success by having frequent sex and theoretically can father hundreds or even thousands of children, but women's chances of reproductive success only go up if they have sex in a fairly narrow window of time and each woman's maximum number of offspring is much lower than a man's. There are about three weeks out of each fertile month when her odds of conception are very low. She won't conceive if she's already pregnant or recently gave birth. Her fertility is decreased if breastfeeding. High libido will help both men and women reproduce, but the evolutionary advantage it gives men is much greater. So it makes sense that there's a lot of overlap but the average man has a higher sex drive than the average woman.