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How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 7:46:58 AM   
Cristalin


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Status: offline 		Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?
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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 7:57:43 AM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		You've asked two different questions.  Feeling owned is one, feeling loved is the second.  The two are not the same thing.

How I make a slave feel owned can take many forms, but they all revolve around the same basic principle.  I do things that remind her of my authority over her, that her freedom is not only limited by me but exists only at my discretion.  I may take away privileges temporarily, I may restrict her behavior or even her freedom of movement for a limited amount of time.  Some examples:
I might keep her on a chain tether for the weekend, she cannot go anywhere, even other parts of the house, without my permission.
I might lock her in a cage for the afternoon.
I might take away everything she incorrectly thinks are her's, her clothing, toys, books, etc.  Make her sleep on the floor with no blanket or bedding.  Not allow her to use any furniture, etc.  This might be for a day or a weekend, during which I require her to earn back the privilege of these things.

How I make her feel loved again can take many forms and again follows one guiding principle, that being that I express to her not only that I love her, but why I love her.  She might get a note or card unexpectedly, or surprised with a nice dinner (in or out), or just some quiet time snuggled up and enjoying being together.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 7:59:51 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin
Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?


For what you want to know here, I think you are asking slightly the wrong question in slightly the wrong place. Many of us simply do things 'our' way without thinking about it and as a result the girl feels owned and cared for.

Possibly you would get a clearer answer by asking the girls "What does He do that makes you feel Owned and cared for"

helen,  over to you :)


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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 8:10:50 AM   
Taylore


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?

Master does not go out of his way to make me 'feel' owned, nor is it something that is required.
As for love; it does not enter into our relationship. We respect each other, we admire each other, but we do not love each other.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 8:38:57 AM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Padriag,

You wrote:
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but why I love her. 


That is such a powerful concept and one I think many do not get, it certainly took me a long time to get it.  Many women get told "I love you" but still have low self esteem (not that they all do) but being told the "why" helps them internalize it and make it part of their being.  Of course the "why" has to be something positive.

As for the rest of your post, I am not quite as extreme but the concept is the same.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 9:05:48 AM   
spoilt26981


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Status: offline 		Well my Master is quiet right in many Dominants eyes they dont do any thing special they are "just being them" i have had this conversation many a time with my Master, he'll do something like walk up and hug me or i'll look up at him and he'll be smiling down at me when asked why he'll say it because i'm his girl, my Master has many way of showing that he cares for me from simple things like stroking my hair as i drift off to sleep to standing into the kitchen cooking a wonderful dinner, he doesnt just care for me but about me, about how im feeling and what i think for example there was a incident just this week where i could not tell him what was going on or how i felt well last night i was over at his place for the first time in a while and he could see that something was wrong he tried many times to get me to open up and explain but i couldn't i would
tell him i was "alright" he gave me the space i need just to be near him and feel safe every so offen the question would be repeated "you sure your alrught?", after a while i relaxed enough to be able to tell him, the first thing he did ws take me in his arms and tell me i was HIS good girl, i told im i was very lucky to have him yet he cant see that he does anything other then what any Master would.

No matter wheather i am in my Master presence or simply at home looking after my responcabilties there i know that i am owned and not simply because i wear his collar or because he says so but because i feel it, i know deep down that i am not alone that he is there, many would say ( and have said) that my Master has a light touch when it comes to his girl but it not that its simply that inside me i have a burning  desire to please him, i feel it is an honor to be owned by my Master he is in my head and my heart each and everytime i do some thing, he will remind me that i am own with comments like "HIS girl"

Basicly how does he make me feel owned and cared for? its easy really he allows me to be me faults and all, praises me when im good and explains things when i get it wrong, to Him it might not seem like he does anything special but what he does do leaves me feeling happy and content, owned and cared for.

Ok i think i should stop rambling for now.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 9:55:57 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?
Quite honestly, I fuck'm the way I want and then I hold them.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 9:59:22 AM   
JessieMe


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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

quote:

ORIGINAL: Cristalin

Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?
Quite honestly, I fuck'm the way I want and then I hold them.


woohoo.. I wanna be owned and loved by Mr. D.. <grins>

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 10:32:56 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		Can I slap you around and call you martha?

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 10:39:09 AM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I be the man that she fell in love with and wants to serve.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 10:44:57 AM   
wild1cfl


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?


IMHO there are two different questions here; the first being about how I make my slave feel owned, and the second is how I make my slave feel loved.
Owning a slave is different than loving a slave. I slow ownership in several ways, a collar, a definite Dominance over them, control over what they do and how they do it. Constance reminders that they are property and they are owned. Doing things where they know that they have no choice in doing it if they want to remain as my property.
 As far as showing how I love them, I give them affection,telling them that they are loved,whether it is because I have a loving relationship with them or I love them as useful property that pleases me well.
Just my thoughts.  

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My Falcon now is sharp, and passing empty; And, till she stoop, she shall not be full gorg'd, For then she never looks upon her lure. Another way i have to man my haggard, to make her come and know her keeper's call. Wm. Shakespeare

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 10:51:17 AM   
Caretakr


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ORIGINAL: Cristalin

Greetings E/everyone, i have a question for You Dominants, how do you make Yours slave/submissive feel Owned/loved?


Be behaving like an Owner.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 1:23:39 PM   
JessieMe


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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Can I slap you around and call you martha?


Start slapping me around and you can call me anything you want

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 1:25:30 PM   
firstsub


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Status: offline 		Master makes me feel owned and i know His feelings for me when He beats me....
what can i tell ya, that's what does it for this maso sub....lol

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:04:21 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		By Mastering her and using her sexually completely. By telling her she is loves and why then by concistantly being the person she begged a collar from. (I'm on favour of fucking her mouth, pussy and arse one after another and if you ken she likes some ruffstuff, do play ruff by taking her hard and leave her kneeling, trembling and begging for more....) 

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:14:41 PM   
litleone8620


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Status: offline 		Master shows his love for me by owning me. I don't need to be reminded or felt that he owns me by him doing things for me or to me.

I feel that i'm owned every time i see his chain around my ankle. And i'm reminded that i'm loved every time he beats me, or holds me.

It's just something i know deep down and don't need to be reminded of it to feel it.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:17:22 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		How do you "make" a horse drink water? You don't.

You open yourself to a person honestly and completely. You remove the facade you wear for business, family, and your casual acquaintances. You allow, you seek, you do not "make". If you fulfill each other enough, once time has eliminated the possibility of fraud, you agree to take on the responsibility of being a Master to a slave. If "love" enters into the equation at some point all the better.

It's damn near impossible to "make" anyone feel owned or loved. The belief must come from the other person.

After the fact or once you own them you can "make" them get a tattoo or wear some other mark as an visible expression of your commitment to them and their commitment to you.

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:20:58 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
It's damn near impossible to "make" anyone feel owned or loved. The belief must come from the other person.


Hence why I said the question was aimed at the wrong side of the dynamic. If I was asked what she did that made me glad she is mine then I'd be able to answer.... if she was asked all she would say is "I'm just me"


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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:36:13 PM   
Bearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Padriag,

You wrote:
quote:

but why I love her. 


That is such a powerful concept and one I think many do not get, it certainly took me a long time to get it.  Many women get told "I love you" but still have low self esteem (not that they all do) but being told the "why" helps them internalize it and make it part of their being.  Of course the "why" has to be something positive.  ...


WOW  Now see...there ya go; how to make a girl feel both owned and loved. 

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RE: How do You make Your sub/slave feel owned? - 7/7/2006 2:36:49 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Hummmmm, by being myself. If she can't tell by that, then we have a problem.  Either she isn't paying attention, or I don't own or love her.  And for me, the two(own and love) go hand in hand......if I don't love a slave, why would I want to own her? I can hire a maid, a cook, and a hooker and it'd be cheaper, and less work for me.

Darkside

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