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ORIGINAL: toptobottom

i pose this as a serious question and not one of disrespect. i have been wondering if there are any true Dommes who actually enjoy living the lifestyle and the challenge of taking a "lump of clay" and transforming him/her into someone worthy of service? i believe there is a sense of challenge for both parties - one of  accomplishment for the Domme, and one of true submission for the sub.  Yet looking both here and on other BDSM sites, i really don't see any Dommes seeking the challenge, the love of the lifestyle, the thrill of imposing Your will on another, or moving that person from a state of nothing to the real form of "sub."  What i do see are women wanting gifts and money in exchange for merely fulfilling a fantasy.  This just does not seem like the way of the lifestyle.  Please, if there are any Dommes out there who can shed some light on this subject, it would be greatly appreciated.  

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Get rid of your hard on and get a grip on something resembling reality

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ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

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I find if a bit surprising that the OP isn't a young whanker thats off school for the summer but a 52 yr old that that by now should have learned a little tact and decorum by now.

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

Many Dommes would gladly take a newbie under their wing, without tribute, without 'gifts', without any remuneration of any kind, if he was a sincere sub who at least had time, energy, friendship or some type of human connection to offer.

I've certainly done so, many times over the years.

Here's the thing: teaching and training a totally inexperienced sub male takes a great deal of time, effort, creativity, and yes, passion.  If not passion for the sub himself, certainly a passion for the activity he wants to pursue.  That kind of connection requires some kind of reciprocation on the part of the sub.  He has to be just as willing to spend time with the Domme, devoting himself to her teaching, as She is willing to spend with the sub.

When a male sub wannabe posts this kind of post, he's not interested in spending time completing assignments, following Her instructions, practicing Her teachings, or in learning how to make a Domme happy or meet Her needs.  That's what becoming a true, seasoned sub is all about.

All he wants is an open BDSM 'booty call'; an open BDSM 'marriage'!

No, I'm not talking about sex, I'm talking about him expecting to drop in and avail himself of Her expertise and skill so that he can meet his cravings, wants, and desires, with total disregard to the Domme's cravings, wants or desires.  He's an overgrown schoolboy who never stopped dropping in on his Momma without notice: always expecting a free meal, lots of unconditional love, attention, affection, support, a sounding board, while never giving a single thought to what Momma's day might have had in store if he hadn't dropped by to use her, manipulate her and take advantage of her devotion again.  If not Momma, just substitute 'Wife' and repeat the previous sentence.

You're not going to find your saintly Momma, nor a saintly 'BDSM wife' out here, that elusive non-existent Domina who's willing to spank you, tie you, bind you, blindfold you, ease your fears, arouse your libido, satisfy your craving to be teased and used, who will then cover you with kisses and send you happily out the door until you decide to impose yourself upon her again the next time it suits you!

Grow up.... And quit yer bitchin'.

TexasMaam




TexasMaam

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ORIGINAL: crdavis

I have had subs write to me asking for a picture of me in my fetish wear, to show I am real.  I tell them I am very real and if you want the fetish wear perhaps it is a Pro you are looking for.  No 6 inch heels here......Most subs do not have a clue.  Especially the ones that want to be "trained". 
Just my opinion.....

oh, and I love reading the postings from benji.....they bring a smile to my face

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ORIGINAL: toptobottom

i pose this as a serious question

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ORIGINAL: toptobottom

i pose this as a serious question and not one of disrespect. i have been wondering if there are any true Dommes who actually enjoy living the lifestyle and the challenge of taking a "lump of clay" and transforming him/her into someone worthy of service? i believe there is a sense of challenge for both parties - one of  accomplishment for the Domme, and one of true submission for the sub.  Yet looking both here and on other BDSM sites, i really don't see any Dommes seeking the challenge, the love of the lifestyle, the thrill of imposing Your will on another, or moving that person from a state of nothing to the real form of "sub."  What i do see are women wanting gifts and money in exchange for merely fulfilling a fantasy.  This just does not seem like the way of the lifestyle.  Please, if there are any Dommes out there who can shed some light on this subject, it would be greatly appreciated.  

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

I pose this as a serious question and not one of disrespect.  What kind of person thinks he'll get respect from a group of people when the first thing he says to them that most of them are phonies.  Does the erect penis really drain so much blood from some people's brain that they can't think beyond the third-grade "I dare you" level.

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

There are true dommes. Many of us already have the pets we have been searching for. Whether you ahve found any or not, I cant sy. Yes, there are a lot taht are fakes, and others that dont have much of a clue what lifestyle bdsm is and tend to end their kink at the bedroom door.  But, if there werent any true dommes , and on the other side of the coin, true subs left... this whole thread would have died after the initial few posts.
I know personally, I have had more thana  few subs rather disapointed that I dont dress up for a playdate. I dont see the need for a "costume", and I dont require my pets to address me as Mistress or Maam all the time. I know who I am, and they do too.  The rest of it is just for show, and I dont need show.

My 2 cents, as always

DV