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GoddessManko -> RE: Are there any bdsm dating sites? (3/17/2014 11:07:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
Thanks Fiery! Though I hate doing the online task thing, or webcams or anything like that. I'm pretty much a "get to know you", "oh, we like each other? let's meet" kind of gal.
Usually it doesn't get to step two but in my mind it seems so simple, LOL.
I like bondage more than ANYTHING so....omg @ just D/s *dies*. No thanks.
I don't know what vanilla chastity is like so thought it was worth exploring is all. I'm a curious kitten. I like the type of men who would likely frequent such a site rather than most nilla ones.
Most of my subs are very masculine, alpha in the workplace and one I'm chatting up now is pretty chiseled, tall and an entrepreneur but enjoys being a submissive pet, works for me.
I know I never really specified what type I do like after all.
I still prefer bondage than most activities though, sexual and non sexual. But eh, can't hurt to keep options open until something is well established in my view.
I'm sure there are FLR subs into bondage. Wearing a chastity device is a form of bondage. There's a company that has a remote behavioral modification system that fits on a CB6000.
What's good about the D/s coming before whatever BDSM gets negotiated or ascertained is that they don't put you through a song & dance routine with their submissiveness. FLR subs are often highly successful professional men. The ones I know in Europe consider themselves slaves, where FLR has become a nouveau family tradition passed down from one generation to the next. American FLR subs are generally not as slavish.
That's a pretty nice way of looking at it Fiery. Checking out the site now and I see a few ivy league educated females, it shows promise.
I'm definitely attracted to to masculine submissive types, meaning I should definitely not be able to outperform you at the gym, LOL. But I also am open to the idea of mentoring less masculine types, meaning CD/Trans. One in particular on the site and I have a perennial friendship.
The whole male wife thing sounds unappealing though. I like them slavish and obedient but strong, I think only a strong man can handle me. I have no problems being the decision maker though in a LTR, I'm sure I would have a better investment portfolio than him otherwise, LOL.
I've never given online "tasks" before per say, I am not sure if that necessarily verifies if they are good sub candidates.
Right now I only have two current sub candidates, both I like and I'm relatively strict with them both. One I do dom from afar moreso than the other and give little tasks because well he's a successful chiseled pretty boy. I think someone like that would need a bit of testing as far as loyalty, especially in South Florida.
They pretty much know when I'm displeased by minor profile changes or my direct berating.
Either way I'm not big on negotiating anything within the D/s dynamic. We can discuss but at the end of the day 9 times out of 10 it will most likely be my decision. I don't like anyone who is a pushover necessarily but chooses to submit due to his respect/admiration and recognition of my authority. Vanilla moments are just that, I want them to have opinions, thoughts, feelings of their own but open to the Domme switch coming on at any time and anything outside of hard limits being a definite possibility within the realm of kink no matter the time of day.
A female led relationship in the context of that site seems very vanilla in comparison but maybe there are some deep elements of kink among them. One of my subs I met on a completely vanilla site after all, so never know where connections may be made for sure.
I think you're doing the right thing by being on both vanilla and kink oriented sites as well. Both of my sub potentials know about each other and that I may potentially keep them both, seems a bit too poly for the D/s as these people define it, even with chastity and I also have ZERO interest in cucking.
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