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RE: When Do Things Begin...... - 7/9/2006 1:15:53 PM

SirKenin

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I ease into it Myself. First I learn as much as I can about My partner. I specifically focus on their needs. I do research. I discuss with My partner about where we want to go from here. I then start to train and see if we connect on that level. If they respond well and we form a bond then I will collar them and go from there. This takes months and months though. I never ever collar someone off the bat when I do not know a damn thing about them.

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RE: When Do Things Begin...... - 7/9/2006 2:06:51 PM

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I feel it should be a progression. Growth between the people involved. There will come a point, when the discussion will come...that will make it official, but to me that shouldn't come until the couple has had ample time to build a certain level of trust, and to learn who the other person is. Those that ask for near instantaneous submission are only going to see my ass as it walks out the door.

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RE: When Do Things Begin...... - 7/9/2006 3:32:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: MouseTrapp

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

For My girl and I, it was the day that I took her by the hair and pulled her to My bed. From that moment on she was Mine completely. There was lots of talk after that moment, but before it only a few play sessions and some serious flirting. I don't know that it could have happened any better than it did if things were different. I think it begins when you both feel and acknowledge if only within yourselves, the exchange of power.

That was HOT! But seriously, Tress forgets to mention that we played the first night we met (unbeknownst to me - it was planned between Tress and my Mistress at the time ...). I know I would not have played with ANYONE else the first time of meeting ...

You 2 trip me out ..... and now you know another reason why I have the upmost respect for Misstress.....and think highly of you as well Mouse.. glad to see things still going strong... sure it will for time more to come...

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RE: When Do Things Begin...... - 7/9/2006 3:52:33 PM

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Master affected me from the start. I felt submissive toward him very early on, and felt myself - much as I tried to fight it - responding to him as such in our conversations. The more we talked, the more I felt, and he saw it as well. Throughout our conversations, he did tell me his preferences on things, and things that he would like to see me doing, but he made it clear at the time, unless I belonged to him, he had to claim to me and could not make demands on me. When I asked him to work with me - to begin training me, he wanted me to assess and explain why, and when he was satisfied with my answer, he agreed. When we met for the first time, I served him for the first time - we both knew I was ready for that. After that evening, he officially took ownership of me. Four months after that, I begged his collar (again having to answer some questions about why I felt I was ready to receive it) and he granted it.

My submission to him was gradual. I felt it right away, but I didn't trust it, or him. He found me four days after I decided to turn away from my submission, giving up on finding fulfillment in it. He put a lot of work into me, bringing me to a place of trust, acceptance, and giving over.

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