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Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 11:57:31 AM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Is there such a thing as verbal collaring?  If so, what are the dynamics.

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 12:05:04 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Yes, I used it for a collar of consideration.  I'd have the slave refer to me as MIM (My Intended Mistresse) until we decided on a more permant status.  He HATED it and thus worked VERY hard to gain my favor enough to collar him.

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 2:27:55 PM   
LokisBrat


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Status: offline 		I can see it as something like a promise ring.  I do not understand it, but I can associate the two.  Answering your question of "is there such a thing,"  I have no idea, but if it works for you then I guess it does exist.

LOKI 

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 2:52:01 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		I'd use it in a LDR when neither of us are likely to get together for a long time if ever but we both want the collaring to happen.... 

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 3:48:03 PM   
fyrekittyn


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Status: offline 		I don't think a collaring has to be physical. I am a wedding officiant, and have written several collaring ceremonies. I equate the physical collar to the wedding ring. It is an outward sign of commitment, but the actual relationship lies in the dynamics between the parties involved. Now, this doesn't lesson the impact of a physical collar in anyway. I am looking forward to Himself picking out the collar that will be placed around my neck. But I am already collared by him, even if we haven't found the perfect collar yet.

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 4:05:58 PM   
Ladyofthemanor


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Status: offline 		Depends on your philosphy of collaring. i don't believe in verbal collaring, i think that any collar should be done in real time.  Also, i see a lot of Doms on here collaring a girl after chatting via Instant Messaging for a short period of time.  i also believe in real time collarings too, if you are going to do long distant, cyber, or on-line you can send the collar via Fed Ex.  a Dom or Master could have a lot of verbal collars with no intent on moving past that.  i think you need to ask the person his/her intentions with it comes to a verbal, training, or mentoring collar.  This was you know exactly where you stand with that person

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 4:12:31 PM   
Curiossdragnlily


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Status: offline 		i have had friends that have been verbally collared and cyber collared. But neither have seemed to work out for them. If  that is something you are considering, i wish you the best of luck.
with respect,
lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios
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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 5:14:43 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Perhaps I can clarify my situation.  The was  a verbaal collar in real time. At the time we were in a social group and  one of the ways to  let others know the status of a slave without having to constintly ask, was in the way I had him address me.  T'was easier to have someone ask "what the heck is MIM?" instead of  having to say "This is so-n- so, he is under my collar of consideration". When he stated to refer to me as Mistress- that was an indicator of his collar. 

BTW- This was something I made up. Everything in D/s had to start from somewhere. So don't go trying to research it as coming from a "House" or something :)  I also coined the word Mistresse (with an "e"), to differentiate  a solitary Domme from a Pro or vanilla mistress type of mistress.

Lotus.

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 5:18:52 PM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Is there such a thing as verbal collaring?  If so, what are the dynamics.


The Dominant yells "I collar thee, I collar thee, I collar thee" and
proceeds to throw dog poop on her shoes.

Unlike in a singles bar, at a Lifestyle function the other Dominants
in the room know to not hit on the submissives with dog poop on
her shoes.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 5:28:53 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		My boy is not in a place in his life where he can wear a collar.  And I dont meana physical collar around his neck, necessarily, but any sort of jewelry would be out of place for him. He knows he is owner and collared, and we wil be making that official this weekend when I go visit him. e was verbally collared before his trip overseas, as a security blanket for him as much as for my own enjoyment.  He needed to know I would be waiting for him to come back to me and still want him even though I had to be without him for 3 weeks.
I dont believe, however, that a verbal collar shuld be the end of the progression.  Sometimes, as in our situation, its useful, but it should be leading to a real physical collar at some point.  If not, its like telling someone I love you online... you might mean it when its said, but you culd also be saying it to a hundred different people a day. If you cant translate the same feelings to real life... then they arent as real as they need to be and something shuld be reexamined.

DV

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 6:02:38 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		LMFAO

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 6:07:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Is there such a thing as verbal collaring?  If so, what are the dynamics.


The Dominant yells "I collar thee, I collar thee, I collar thee" and
proceeds to throw dog poop on her shoes.

Unlike in a singles bar, at a Lifestyle function the other Dominants
in the room know to not hit on the submissives with dog poop on
her shoes.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy


And some of them make them wear fake arrows on their head *grins*.

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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 6:11:59 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		I almost forgot! (well, it's been over 9 years!)  Slave DOES have a collar :)  I gave him a Brittish new pence to keep in a leather change purse I gave him.. He's carried it all this time. And each time he goes for his change.. he sees "me".. and I am "there".
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RE: Verbal Collaring??? - 7/8/2006 6:55:53 PM   
MasterCurios


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Status: offline 		nowadays there are so many different kinds of Collars its hard to keep track of....to many yes there is such thing as a verbal Collar where one is under consideration..

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