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Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 12:15:50 PM   
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Kid shaves head to support best friend, who's gone bald from chemo.

School suspends her for violating dress code.

http://www.9news.com/story/news/local/2014/03/24/act-of-compassion-violates-school-dress-code-policy/6853131/

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 12:22:36 PM   
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"Caprock Academy does have a detailed dress code policy, which was created to promote safety, uniformity, and a non-distracting environment for the school's students. Under this policy, shaved heads are not permitted," said Catherine Norton Breman, President and Chair of Caprock Academy Board of Directors."

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Shudder.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 2:55:31 PM   
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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 2:59:38 PM   
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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 3:17:14 PM   
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A school to promote uniformity. Why on god's green earth would ANYONE allow their children to attend such an institution?

Actually, that's the very reasoning behind everyone wearing school uniforms over here.
Point being, there is less discrimination between the have's and the have-nots because they are all dressed exactly the same and usually only from a preferred set of uniform suppliers so there is no distinction between cheapo fabrics and expensive ones.

But, I think this school head should be lynched for his response to this kid's solidarity with his friend.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 3:19:21 PM   
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Kid shaves head to support best friend, who's gone bald from chemo.

School suspends her for violating dress code.


That's a shame but... she did violate the dress code. If they started making exceptions, they would likely be accused of playing favorites. It's only fair that the same set of rules apply to everyone. Sorry. It was a nice thought, though.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 5:05:08 PM   
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"Against stupidity, the gods themselves contend in vain."

FRIEDRICH SCHILLER


Kid shaves head to support best friend, who's gone bald from chemo.

School suspends her for violating dress code.

http://www.9news.com/story/news/local/2014/03/24/act-of-compassion-violates-school-dress-code-policy/6853131/


Name and identify how to contact the Administration.

Bunch of stooooopit fucks.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 5:09:28 PM   
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Kid shaves head to support best friend, who's gone bald from chemo.

School suspends her for violating dress code.


That's a shame but... she did violate the dress code. If they started making exceptions, they would likely be accused of playing favorites. It's only fair that the same set of rules apply to everyone. Sorry. It was a nice thought, though.


Yeah, next thing you know, some kid wears a goddamn girl scout uniform selling cookies, some kid buys said cookies and all hell breaks loose.

Shit, after that, some asshole psychopath commie 4th grader will do something beyond reproach like, doing some kind of finger paint thingie with a flower in it and some Administrator will see that as some kind of salute to the hippies of 1967, which is a clear statement against Vietnam....now we're talking geopolitical shit.....fuck....that'd bring on the second cold war for sure.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 5:25:02 PM   
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Actually, that's the very reasoning behind everyone wearing school uniforms over here.
Point being, there is less discrimination between the have's and the have-nots because they are all dressed exactly the same and usually only from a preferred set of uniform suppliers so there is no distinction between cheapo fabrics and expensive ones.

*nod* I get the reasoning. It just flies in the face of "celebrate diversity". I think I'd rather tackle a problem head on than cosmetically and the last thing on earth I'd want to teach my children is to conform to some standard of uniformity.

This particular example is just another case of someone losing sight of the difference between the map & the terrain. If I was the school administration and someone else complained about favoritism I'd have simply said, "Tell you what. Go ahead and get cancer or have your friend get cancer and then you too can be bald."


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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 6:30:00 PM   
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Actually, that's the very reasoning behind everyone wearing school uniforms over here.
Point being, there is less discrimination between the have's and the have-nots because they are all dressed exactly the same and usually only from a preferred set of uniform suppliers so there is no distinction between cheapo fabrics and expensive ones.

*nod* I get the reasoning. It just flies in the face of "celebrate diversity". I think I'd rather tackle a problem head on than cosmetically and the last thing on earth I'd want to teach my children is to conform to some standard of uniformity.

This particular example is just another case of someone losing sight of the difference between the map & the terrain. If I was the school administration and someone else complained about favoritism I'd have simply said, "Tell you what. Go ahead and get cancer or have your friend get cancer and then you too can be bald."



I remember a dress code we had in middle school. They said it was for safety because there was gangs. Problem was they had no real idea how gang members dressed. I could have pointed to 50 different gang members at school. Dressed within school policy.

Unless this is a military school I don't see why they should have a say in people's hair style or length.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 8:13:37 PM   
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A school to promote uniformity. Why on god's green earth would ANYONE allow their children to attend such an institution?

Word.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 9:58:27 PM   
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I get the reasoning. It just flies in the face of "celebrate diversity". I think I'd rather tackle a problem head on than cosmetically and the last thing on earth I'd want to teach my children is to conform to some standard of uniformity.

Well, I think that diversity for its own sake is highly problematic. Putting groups of people with antagonistic beliefs and conflicting cultures into close contact seldom results in them singing Kumbaya. To have both diversity and a cohesive society people have to feel united in a way that transcends their diversity, and I think requiring school uniforms can be an exercise toward that end.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 10:00:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I googled the school and looked up the dress code. Sure enough, it says no shaved heads allowed, in addition to no hair dye in wacky colors, no wild fingernail polish, no garish makeup, and no radical changes to hair or clothing style during the school year. Most, if not all, schools give out copies of the student handbook at the beginning of the year, which includes the dress code. Usually, both the students and the parents are required to sign it to state they've read it.

So really, this is a stupid situation that could have been avoided if the parents had done their job and spent five minutes reading the dress code. If it was that important, they could have contacted the principal to explain the situation and ask for special dispensation. But they didn't. Now this little girl is being punished because her parents couldn't be bothered. I hope the board makes an exception but, if they don't, the girl is going to suffer for her parents' laziness. That's a real shame.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 10:23:44 PM   
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Update:

http://www.9news.com/story/news/local/2014/03/25/school-votes-to-allow-girl-with-shaved-head-back-in/6892989/

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/25/2014 10:28:43 PM   
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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/26/2014 7:24:21 AM   
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I googled the school and looked up the dress code. Sure enough, it says no shaved heads allowed, in addition to no hair dye in wacky colors, no wild fingernail polish, no garish makeup, and no radical changes to hair or clothing style during the school year. Most, if not all, schools give out copies of the student handbook at the beginning of the year, which includes the dress code. Usually, both the students and the parents are required to sign it to state they've read it.

So really, this is a stupid situation that could have been avoided if the parents had done their job and spent five minutes reading the dress code. If it was that important, they could have contacted the principal to explain the situation and ask for special dispensation. But they didn't. Now this little girl is being punished because her parents couldn't be bothered. I hope the board makes an exception but, if they don't, the girl is going to suffer for her parents' laziness. That's a real shame.



Yes it could have been avoided if they had thought to look it up in the dress code. However I can say for myself, it never would have dawned on my that it might be against the dress code and if it did, there is no way in hell I would be able to find a copy of the dress code this far into the school year to check.

It is really easy to sit here after the fact and call her parents lazy and say they couldn't be bothered but we really have no clue how it played out or what we would have done in the same situation. According to the link they are going to let her back in school tomorrow and have a meeting to decide. I just hope they realize it was a special circumstance and drop it.

edited to add: and according to dc's link they did. That is good news.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/26/2014 7:30:21 AM   
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A school to promote uniformity. Why on god's green earth would ANYONE allow their children to attend such an institution?

Actually, that's the very reasoning behind everyone wearing school uniforms over here.
Point being, there is less discrimination between the have's and the have-nots because they are all dressed exactly the same and usually only from a preferred set of uniform suppliers so there is no distinction between cheapo fabrics and expensive ones.

But, I think this school head should be lynched for his response to this kid's solidarity with his friend.



But the truth is, a lot of the good schools have rather expensive (and often ridiculous looking) uniforms, and you can tell the difference because the poorer pupils have their one uniform, that is washed in the evening and then dried, often faded, often grown out of the uniform, while the kids with more affluent parents have a set of uniforms they can change.

It works in theory....

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/26/2014 7:35:36 AM   
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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/26/2014 7:39:49 AM   
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They have a rule, she broke it. The school has actually let the girl go back, and it looks like they'll make an exception for her.

And, sure this may well have been an act of compassion but yanno.... if she'd set up a sponsored car wash to raise money for cancer research she might have got onto the local news too.

I do blame the parents though, if one of my sons came to me with an idea like this, I'd gently explain to him that it's a fucking stupid idea, and instead he should do a fund raiser.

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RE: Act of compassion violates school dress code policy - 3/26/2014 7:48:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		The school has a website with the dress code on it. That's how I found it and it only took five minutes. If I can do it, so could the mother of this girl. In addition, I watched the follow up video and the woman admitted she knew letting her daughter shave her head was against school policy. She also said she didn't expect the school to suspend the girl. So now it's a case of the mother deciding she didn't have to follow the rules and expecting to get away with it.

I'm glad the school made the decision to allow the girl to return to class. It was the right call. I also hope this mother now realizes that she isn't special or entitled to violate policies just because she feels like it. I can't help feeling like this could all have been avoided if the mother didn't have an overblown sense of entitlement and had just explained the situation to the school ahead of time. Maybe they could have worked out a compromise. Or maybe she could have found a way for her daughter to show support for her friend in some other way.

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