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AlphaFemsRule -> RE: Mind fuck (3/28/2014 9:23:01 AM)
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Lots of great, informative responses here. Thank you, all!
Reading over them, it's made me realize that 'mind fuck' isn't the term that best suits what I was thinking when I wrote the original post. The fear (or outright terror - as with the lamb's balls thing. Holy shit!), blindness, threats, knife play, etc - I gather is the usual definition linked with the phrase 'mind fuck'. So it's good to learn I've been mistaken in my usage. Better to find out now than later when meeting a Woman from this site and discovering we're not on the same page because she's threatening to castrate me and my sincere protests are interpreted as feigned. : )
And I can't even imagine how this would play out in non-bedroom situations. I mean, my bullshit-meter is calibrated to levels that would impress a NASA astrophysicist, and I've no patience for people who set it off in the slightest.
edendream nailed it, though:
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ORIGINAL: edendream
In my relationships with submissive men, I enjoy teasing, denial, seduction, sexuality, and above all, the exchange of wits. I want him to be intrigued with me and want more. What I want this intrigue and desire to lead to is the submissive man discovering, for himself, that he craves time with me. [...]
What I am talking about is that an authentic 'mind fuck', one that is not scene-based, is when the submissive man discovers that he desires me, not because of his fetish, or his desire for humiliation or whatever, but that he has to have MY type of domination; a domination that requires a very intelligent, sexy man give himself to me. Not to his idea of what a femme-domme is. I get turned-on and receive a lot of satisfaction when a powerful, intelligent man, realizes, to perhaps his horror, that he is beyond control when it comes to me. He feels compelled to want to interact with me.
RedMagic1 brought up a good point as well:
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
This sounds more like "obedience training" to me than mind-fuckery. And it doesn't just occur within the context of D/s. There's a long history of vanilla sub women making X happen by creating a situation where the husband thought that X was his idea. So really, I think you're describing what was traditionally called "feminine wiles."
That made me laugh. : )
But, yeah, I guess what I'm really saying is that I appreciate it when a woman doesn't make it easy; when she makes me work for it. Maybe until I can't stand it. To work for the pleasure of serving her and eventually giving her exactly what she wants, when she wants, turning myself over to her. Conformity and service for her sake, knowing and feeling that my proclivities, mind and values are adapting to her best interests and my ultimate reward being the opportunity to see her grow as a Woman.
It's a huge turn on to actively know she's pretzeling my mind and emotions to make me 100% hers.
I'm off to read about obedience training now (or behavior modification / training...)
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