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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 5:22:07 AM)

Looking for a real time relationship online is hard, b/c there are so many fantasists out there who will string you along and have no intention of ever meeting.

Yes, it's a known issue.

What to do? If you can't connect with your local BDSM group, then online is going to take time and patience. I most strongly suggest only talking about vanilla things and no sex or cybering -- plan on meeting soon. Do not establish a dynamic until you meet. Be looking as strongly for vanilla compatibility as kink.

This article might help:

http://beyond50shades.com/tips-for-finding-someone-dom-or-sub/

Oh, and welcome to the discussion side of CM. This is actually a great forum. You can have fun and learn a lot here.




MasterCaneman -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 6:49:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

i guess everybody is right i should just be myself and someone will find me

thank you athena for pointing that out to me


That right there will get you better results that anything else. Are you a member of BKS? We have some upcoming munches, one that's pretty close to where you live. They have a page over on Fet, you can sign up there, come on out and meet us sometime. While we tend to have a lot of TNGs, that's not necessarily a bad thing. [;)] Here's their page over there: Buffalo Kink Society

I've only just recently started attending myself, and don't hit a lot of the events because of scheduling issues.

PS, the message I sent you had a mistake. I thought you were responding to another thread instead of starting your own. My mistake and I apologize for the confusion.



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 6:58:55 AM)

i will look into it and see what happens



ExiledTyrant -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 8:36:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I am a Master of over 23 years experience and I seek a sub or slave to become my true one.

My question is what qualities and traits do subs or slaves look for to find the right Master or Dom for them



Okay, I looked at your profile and I bet you get a lot of light blue mail. Am I right?

You have to think of this site as restaurant advertisement. Men get an idea of what they want to eat and they go eat it. However, in the buffet that is CollarMe, our /girls want to know what is being brought to the table before they buy. They do not rush in to be seated, they go scrutinize the buffet and explore the menu in all of it's depths.

You profile is Eat at Joe's... sorry, we have no menu, no food, nothing on the table, but come on in.


Now to the Master part. I have an opinion of Masters that is less than stellar around here, because it is my personal belief that without your /s you do not possess the synergy that defines you as such.

Jus sayin
Exiled



LadyPact -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:18:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ARIES83



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You know, I'm not even Gorean, but I think you just won the internet. If you could duplicate that and change the word "Gorean" to "leather", I would love to have that for My files.




HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:45:31 AM)

I will deal with you first tyrant I get no light blue messages and second of all I have a bare profile yes because first of all I don't have to impress you and when I am ready to completely fill out my profile I will



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:47:35 AM)

Now to you Lady I was always taught to respect women but you are pushing my limit on that so I am going to ask you to keep your opinion to yourself



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:49:09 AM)

Deal with him?

He makes a valid point though. A blank profile is likely to not attract the types of serious applicants you are hoping for, which makes it more likely that the mail you do get will not be what you wanted.

There's no need to get upset about that. Of course you can leave your profile blank, if you want to. It's just not working to your advantage.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:51:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

Now to you Lady I was always taught to respect women but you are pushing my limit on that so I am going to ask you to keep your opinion to yourself


One thing I hear subs consistently say they DON'T want in a Master is someone who sulks or lashes out, because it shows poor self control. Just FYI.



poise -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:52:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I will deal with you first tyrant I get no light blue messages and second of all I have a bare profile
yes because first of all I don't have to impress you and when I am ready to completely fill out my profile I will

You've been here 2 whole years, and have yet to "get around" to filling in your profile?
Sure, you may call that a "I'm dominant and will do it whenever I feel like it" move, but to those
in your target audience, you come across as lazy.

Granted, I'm just a mere lil ol' submissive being, but even I knew the point that the Tyrant was making,
and most people would have thanked him for his insight, and for taking the time to help guide you on your way.

As for your shaking your fists at "The Lady"...really? [:-]



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:54:06 AM)

Ty again for you honesty Athena



poise -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:55:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I will deal with you first tyrant

Quick, Tyrant, get behind me! I'll protect you. [8D]



Blonderfluff -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:55:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

Now to you Lady I was always taught to respect women but you are pushing my limit on that so I am going to ask you to keep your opinion to yourself

You cannot ask anyone to keep their opinions to themselves. This a a public forum, and anyone can respond. It seems as though you got very defensive very quickly when you got responses that were not what you wanted to hear.

You can "deal with" people in real life. Here? I suggest you take advice as you would like. Ignore what you don't like, and move on.

Btw. I looked at your profile as well. Being a female sub in your age range I am pretty much your target audience.
I would not respond to a D with "Master" in his screen name, nor would I respond to someone that did not fill out his profile. Just my preference, as this seems to screen out men that I would be completely incompatible with.



LadyConstanze -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 10:57:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I will deal with you first tyrant I get no light blue messages and second of all I have a bare profile yes because first of all I don't have to impress you and when I am ready to completely fill out my profile I will


You also don't HAVE to impress female submissives or slaves - and it looks like you managed not to for the past 2 years, so yes, good attitude if you want to stay single.



VideoAdminChi -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 11:07:58 AM)

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I am going to ask you to keep your opinion to yourself


Ah, but expressing opinions is what we do around here.

If you don't like what someone has to say, you have the option of using the Hide button or not reading their posts.

New posters often get confused between the difference between attacking a post, which is allowed, and attacking the poster, which is not.

For example, someone said "that's lazy." That is talking about behavior, and is allowed. However, if someone said "you are lazy," that is a personal attack, and is not allowed, and you may use the Report button to create a ticket for staff to review and delete the post.



LadyPact -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 11:34:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN
Now to you Lady I was always taught to respect women but you are pushing my limit on that so I am going to ask you to keep your opinion to yourself

Ummm... Yeah...... That's probably not going to happen.

For quite a while here, probably the first six months or so, I didn't fill out My profile, either. Why? I didn't have to. You, on the other hand, have to. A hook with no bait, My friend.




BitaTruble -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 11:46:49 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

I am a Master of over 23 years experience and I seek a sub or slave to become my true one.

My question is what qualities and traits do subs or slaves look for to find the right Master or Dom
for them


Mad math skillz. 40 - 23 = ?

If some guy comes on to me claiming 23 years of experience it can only mean that, at best, they thought
themselves a Master at 18 (giving the birthday benefit of a doubt here) and if at 40 they still believe
they were a Master at 18 it points me in the direction of a very low-sloped learning curve and hence,
I have no interest.

So, yeah, mad math skillz for sure.



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 11:51:58 AM)

Let me drop some math on you here I am 41 soon to be 42 and yes I started being mentored at age of 18 by a Master who later turned me over to another Master so yes I took a long time working on become a Master



BitaTruble -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 12:12:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: HEADASSASSIN

Let me drop some math on you here I am 41 soon to be 42 and yes I started being mentored at age of 18 by a Master who later turned me over to another Master so yes I took a long time working on become a Master


It's not my fault that you didn't change the age on your own profile. That points to either lazy or lack of
care. Am I to understand that you don't actually feel that you were a Master at 18 then? Perhaps being
a little bit more literal may be of some help in finding what you seek or even a reword. Something like ..

"I've been exploring since 18 and have developed into the Master that I have always been destined to be
now at my current age of almost 42." It's much more honest and realistic viewpoint of what you have
presented. Explanation without having to bloviate who you are and what you have to offer to someone.

As for dropping math on me.. obviously I already have mad math skillz so I won't be copying from your
homework. You need my help way more than I need yours. That's why you asked the question in the
forums.. looking for the input of someone exactly like me.

A simple thank you would suffice and give you back some of the face you've lost. Up to you what you do
though.

Best of luck to you.



HEADASSASSIN -> RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master (3/29/2014 12:15:17 PM)

Ty



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