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Different love. - 7/8/2006 7:45:49 PM

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Let's talk about some variants of how we care for each other in D/s. Variety very welcome.

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:04:52 PM

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Still no replies? So what is it, romatic love, structure, intensity?

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:07:46 PM

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Love is undefinable Sir

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:09:57 PM

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I'm asking for how it's expressed.

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:14:28 PM

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I dont know some girls think its expressed in cuddles like me and some girls though I dont understand it feel its expressed in a Dom say "You pig bitch worthless slut kiss my feet"

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:24:40 PM

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Pardon the non-bdsm aspected purity of my answer but: I cook a lot. My husband gained 15 pounds the first 3 months we were married. Then he said: "Please stop making desserts and biscuits and extravant side dishes. Keep it simple, please, I am getting fat."

I like giving people what they want, when I find out what that is. He liked his pipes (was a pipe smoker) and books (loved to read) and also, apparently, being left alone (I won't go there - forgive me I am in kind of a weird mood, ignore it).

I like to buy people little trinkets: Books, cards, a sweater, etc - when I find out what they actually like. I also think nothing beats being a good listener (even though I tend to talk alot myself). Of course if one is with a strong, silent type this can be difficult, but then you just find something else to do for them instead (whatever they want).

Every person close to me has a pet name (my dad does, for example). My husband absolutley hated it when I said things to him like: "Will you be my sweet little zebra bunny gorilla man?", etc. - so I stopped. Some people like that, though.

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:27:14 PM

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Im the same way my mom always yells at me because I just randomly buy things for the people in my family she tells me "save your money" but to me its like if I see something that I think someone I love will like I get it for them not that Im matirealistic i just love makeing them happy. Like the other day I saw something that I know my sister has been wanting for a long time so I picked it up for her we got into a fight becuase I wouldnt let her pay me back!

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 8:38:11 PM

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I want to buy them furbies, who talk porno.

Love is in the airrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.........

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:19:47 PM

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When you get down to it, Leather/kinky/BDSM people don't express love any differently than anyone else. What we DO might be different, but the basic ways aren't. We're people. Here's an excellent book on the subject:

The Five Love Languages

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:28:37 PM

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Yes exactly!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:35:17 PM

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Firemaam, that is true, we're just like all other people!
As for myself right now I'm single and living alone here in Myrtle Beach,SC.
But, if I had a sub lady living with me I'd express love by cooking a meal for us, (I'm a pretty decent cook!) getting tickets to one of the many shows or concerts that come to the area, (Took a neighbor to see Tanya Tucker two weeks ago) going out to one of the many, many fine restaurants we have in the area, or perhaps buying her a very nice article of clothing like a nice evening dress, leather pants or chaps or something special like that.
If we decided to get married it'd be a trip to Ireland for two weeks!

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:37:04 PM

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Go read the D/s in sickness and in health thread.. I think that sums up my thoughts on what real love in any relationship is about, even D/s relationships. There could be no better expression of love than to care for the one you love even when their health leaving them... Just my thoughts

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:38:15 PM

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Yes, but we get to stick butt-plugs in our dates before we go to the concerts, it's much more fun.

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 9:43:36 PM

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In reply to the OP:

i like to do little things that are from the heart. Little things that hopefully show Him how much i am thinking of Him and how much i am loving Him... i write Him stories, fantasies, i send Him messages during the day letting Him know He is in my thoughts and that i am His, i send Him emails that make me laugh or mean something to me, and hope they may make Him laugh too, or hopefully show Him more of me, of who He will soon Own. And i am currently working on a little surprise project for Him... and incase He reads here, i can't say what that is yet... shhh!

i guess i just try and be as open as i can and give Him all of me (even the bad stuff that i don't like about me and needs working on), i just try and show Him all of me, so that He can have more control and Domination over me... because i want to, because i love Him, because He once said that the best present He could ever have was me, completely, totally, to Own...

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 11:26:41 PM

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I call them on their BS and hypocrisy........

Unless I like them, then I strive to meet their needs.

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RE: Different love. - 7/8/2006 11:55:12 PM

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Yes, but we get to stick butt-plugs in our dates before we go to the concerts, it's much more fun.

Awww, doesn't that just scream LOVE?

(Or just make you wanna scream, at any rate...)

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RE: Different love. - 7/9/2006 12:01:56 AM

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As for expressing love...

My ex bought me a beautiful set of leather cuffs for Christmas, the first year we dated. He hadn't totally come to terms with the D/s thing, and didn't particularly understand my desire for bondage. Nor did he feel comfortable doing any kind of restraint with me.

But he bought me the cuffs because he could see how much I loved them.

They were a complete surprise. That was the moment I knew he cared about me enough to try to accept even the side of me that he wasn't sure about.

I expressed my love in that relationship by patiently putting the fetish scene to the side, and entering in the swinger scene, because it had always been a fantasy of his.

To me, these are actions that say LOVE.

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RE: Different love. - 7/9/2006 12:04:48 AM

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That's an honest response Rich, thank you.

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RE: Different love. - 7/9/2006 12:09:31 AM

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Nodding, to me in this, acceptance shows love.

I'm a Crafter,an Artisan. Some of the most intimate times I have had were spent with girls in my workshops, making things to use with them. There is very little someone can tell me that will shock or upset. Only the ability and desire to treat others badly will do that.

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RE: Different love. - 7/9/2006 5:07:21 AM

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julia is right (as usual). We're not really different than anyone else.
We each express love in our own unique way. Yours may to be stick a butt plug up someone before going out. Susan's is to find out what the other person likes/wants and to give it to him or her. Popeye does it his way. We're not so different.

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