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The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:16:46 PM   
DangerousCrves


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I feel like all my lovely friends on here should share in my latest escapade in the world of over 40 dating ( I might start a blog).

Tonight I had a date. I'll call it the 15 minute date. :)

Leo and I had been talking via text for the last two weeks. Nothing really in depth. Just a few heys and hows your days. We met on POF. We exchanged a few emails back and forth to get to know each other (basics). He's a teacher (college), 43, two grown kids and seemingly mature.

Boy was I wrong.

Tonight started at Applebees. We met at the patio. I shall lovingly recreate the date for my readers here.'

I met him on the patio. He was sitting and I was looking super fly in my cute sundress and little strappy heels.

Him (upon seeing me approach the table) "HMmmm damn gurllll....oh my damn you are fine"

Me (a bit shy..what?? it could happen) "Thank you..you must be Leo..pleasure to meet you"

Him: (goes in for a hug) Oh gurl it's a pleasure to meet you..I hope I'll be pleasuring you later on too!

Me: (Stepping back offering my hand) Th-thanks?

Him: Sit down sit down..I wanna know all about you..(as he's licking his lips).

Me: (after sitting down, smiling..maybe he's just really into me..I mean I am pretty cute in this sundress)

5 minutes lapses. We talk about my interview and how his day was.

Him: "Damn gurl I gotta tell you..you are so fine. My dick is getting hard just looking at you"

Me: (Clearly taken aback) "Umm...I'm not sure how to respond to that"

Him (Grabbing his cock through his pants) Go ahead..look at it..look at how big it is...gurl this meat is gonna pleasure you. I can hit ALLLL the spots..I'm gunna drink ALLLL your cum"

Me: (Clearly VERY uncomfortable) Yeah, umm...I'm not really into that, but thank you..See I think you misunderstood me when I said I was looking for more than a booty call. You're an attractive man and you seem very intelligent. I'm not sure where you think this is acceptable in Applebees to be showing me your cock"

Him: "I'm a very sexual creature. I believe in being honest. You turn me on. You're smart, attractive and I think we could fuck endlessly. I have 7 lovers. All of them married women who's husbands don't hit the spot (punctuated by him grabbing his dick again and thrusting his hips), but I'm looking for a woman who will do everything. You like to deep throat? You like anal sex? I bet your pussy is dripping thinking about this big cock huh?"

Me: (dead silent. I'm sure my mouth was hanging open in absolute shock. Of to which he said....)

Him: What's the matter gurl? Ain't a man ever talked to you like that? I bet you don't have many men that want to tap that ass right after you meet them huh? I'm like no one you'll ever meet. I'm honest and I'll tell you..I'm gonna fuck the shit out of you"

10 minutes in (just so you can keep track)

Me: "You know. I'm uncomfortable. I think we're not on the same track. You clearly have something else in mind than I do. "

Him: "Kiss me gurl..."

Me: "Umm no"

(grabbing my purse)

Him: Ohh you frontin' you playing a game with me. You frontin and putting up a big wall" (hands waving around to show me this big walllllll)

Me: (Standing up, slinging my purse over my shoulder) Yup, I am...big fucking wall. A big fucking wall of self respect. Enjoy you evening...

15 minute mark I was in car and going home.

Stay tuned kinky folks..I'm sure I'm on a roll here...

Seriously I really might start a blog.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:23:45 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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Status: offline 		Usually they only talk like that in our message boxes, and in person they get shy! So sorry that didn't happen in your case. Ewwwwww!

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:24:46 PM   
DangerousCrves


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Status: offline 		Right? Nope he was totally full of himself...I like confident. Just not douchebag confident.

<3

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:29:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for sharing that was so funny.
Nice line : "'A big fucking wall of self respect!"'

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:31:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		how would you feel about douchebag confident without the e?

Any chance in the world he hadnt been dating for awhile and sort of didnt have the proportions right?

Meh. Dunno.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:32:18 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		Oh wow!! just fucking WOW!!

Where was this douchebag thinking he was going??
Did he think you were a hooker or something?

I dunno how you took that crap for a whole 15 minutes.
My OH woulda been gone before 10 minutes was ticking by.

Glad you stood up for some sort of morality.
Guys like that give the good guys a really bad name.

Sheeeesh! I dunno what to say.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:38:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like he bought a ticket for the train, but he was headed for the wrong station.

At least you met in a safe place, and gave it a go. Was he courteous before this? How did he present himself before this went down? There must have been some reason he seemed worth meeting for.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:39:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		@mnottertail-Well he said he had 7 married lovers...I assume he got them somehow. I refused..REFUSE to believe that any self respecting woman would tolerate that..

I could be wrong.

@Freedomdwarf1-I honestly think he thinks that works with middle aged overweight single women. That maybe we're desperate for his big ole cock. I forgot to put his parting words were "Oh yeah I didn't want you anyway"


from 43 to 10...

gotta love it.

Stay tuned I have a date next week. Let's see what kind of nutter HE is..

@Remote-He was very courteous. Granted we only exchanged a few "hey how ya doing" texts. He never breathed a word of anything sexual and I certainly didn't even flirt. (which is very unlike me..I just didn't want him to get the wrong idea AT any point until I was ready)


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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:42:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		7 married lovers ............ hmmmmmmmm, sound like a bullshitter, I agree with you, and don't think that 7 different women would put up with their husbands doing that. You would be the eighth, in that vignette, should it proceed.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:46:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

7 married lovers ............ hmmmmmmmm, sound like a bullshitter, I agree with you, and don't think that 7 different women would put up with their husbands doing that. You would be the eighth, in that vignette, should it proceed.

A version of "I'm Henry the Eighth I am" for anyone who remembers Herman's Hermits.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:51:47 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		the flip side:

Why? do my eyes; go on seeing?

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 4:55:57 PM   
ForgetToRemember


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Status: offline 		Guys like that give us a bad name and perpetuate stereotyping. I'm guessing he did a complete 180 from your talks and his profile, or else you wouldn't have met him. Must be one of the guys that so many woman talk about and / or why many don't like online dating sites.

Also, a good tale to those who don't already know that your first meeting should always be in a public, safe place.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 5:01:35 PM   
DangerousCrves


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Status: offline 		@Forget-When I first got in the lifestyle I hadn't dated ANYONE..well at least not since I was 15 (if that's dating)

It was drilled into my head over and over again..never meet anyone privately. Works for the lifestyle, it should work for vanilla. :)

It was a 180 for sure. He never hinted at anything like this. Our POF was full of "You're intelligent..grounded. I like that. I love that you're a teacher..blah blah". Like I said I was very very careful to not mention anything other than "I'm a big girl..just fyi" and he never even so much asked what my bra size was.

If anything I was a bit worried he'd be all uptight..

*laughs*

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 5:52:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Been down that road a couple times. One date didn't even last 10 minutes because as soon as we sat down in the diner he launched into descriptions of what he planned to do with my "luscious tits".

And, I'm waaay over 40 years old.

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 6:00:16 PM   
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Leo and I had been talking via text for the last two weeks. Nothing really in depth. Just a few heys and hows your days.

I have a rule that I do not meet a guy who is incapable of having indepth conversation through. It has served me well. I seldom get 15mins dates and conversation would usually flow well throughout the night. Numbers game. If they can't carry a decent conversation through text or emails, ditch him, and move on, I wouldn't even bother meeting him. I usually meet men in their 40's and 50's.

Infact, I am confident my date tonight is gonna go cool. First time meeting him, his been texting me mundane things about his day, which to me is a good sign. A man who cares about mental connection as much as me.




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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 6:06:42 PM   
DangerousCrves


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Status: offline 		You're right, Greta..I just sometimes feel that I take too long in the texting area...that I get cold feet.

I was already dressed up from the interview and it was gorgeous outside..

It is something I will remember the next time though. <3

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 7:15:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DangerousCrves

Well he said he had 7 married lovers...I assume he got them somehow. I refused..REFUSE to believe that any self respecting woman would tolerate that..



Here's my take.

1. He tried that approach because it worked. In porn. he's watched a lot of porn, and not dated hardly at all.

Now why would a 43 year old man have limited dating experience?

2. The bit about seven married lovers smells of bull. WHY would he make something up about that?

Because. He. Is. Married. Himself. And he was testing you to see if you got offended that he was boinking married women. When you said you'd meet him anyway, he figured you were okay with him cheating.

Summing up:

Married and cheating.
Dumb enough to believe porn.
Liar.


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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 7:34:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DangerousCrves

<snip>
Me: "You know. I'm uncomfortable. I think we're not on the same track. You clearly have something else in mind than I do. "

Him: "Kiss me gurl..."

Me: "Umm no"

(grabbing my purse)

Him: Ohh you frontin' you playing a game with me. You frontin and putting up a big wall" (hands waving around to show me this big walllllll)

Me: (Standing up, slinging my purse over my shoulder) Yup, I am...big fucking wall. A big fucking wall of self respect. Enjoy you evening...

15 minute mark I was in car and going home.

Stay tuned kinky folks..I'm sure I'm on a roll here...

Seriously I really might start a blog.


Isn't it amazingly disgusting when you plainly tell someone you are uncomfortable with what they're doing/saying, yet they keep barreling on through as though you never said a word?

I agree w/DS's assessment; probably married. Either way, a definite smegma-breath and, uh, 'gurl', you definitely don't need any more of those in your life!

Btw, it is very common to have some HNG slobbering all over you until you tell him it won't work out for you. Then some version of 'I didn't want you anyway' vomitus begins to spew. I'm actually surprised he didn't play a fat card, even if you are 95 lbs. dripping wet. That's extremely common as well.

Onward! (And better luck with the next one!)

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 7:47:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DangerousCrves

He's a teacher (college), 43, two grown kids and seemingly mature.


Seriously, did you meet up with a cartoon character? No guy, let alone a supposed educated teacher actually acts this way... Just chalk it up to an idiot thinking with the little head, move on, and use those internet intelligence tests to weed out these idiots in future (just send them to the link before you agree to meet, make it a requirement for a first date)

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RE: The 15 minute date - 4/10/2014 8:59:40 PM   
DangerousCrves


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Just for the record re: Because. He. Is. Married. Himself. And he was testing you to see if you got offended that he was boinking married women. When you said you'd meet him anyway, he figured you were okay with him cheating.

He didn't tell me he was boinking married women at any time BEFORE the date. He said it during the date.

Before the date he never breathed a word of anything like this. Not once in any of our conversations was he sexual.



I should be clear that in the spirit of not boring the fuck out of everyone I did leave out some of the ill fated conversation with him. I can see how it might be misconstrued that he told me things before we met for a drink. However, aside from knowing his occupation I found out everything tonight..

So story edited for comedic effect. <3

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