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Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 12:43:19 AM   
ExquisteLace


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Status: offline 		Greetings to Everyone,

I am new to CMC. As I begin self-exploration,  I hope to gain a better understanding of myself through discussions with other forum members. After communicating online (via a dating site) with a man who described himself as a dominant, I am uneasy and confused as to who I am. These terms are unfamiliar. The intensity of our conversations was like nothing I have ever known. His directness was attractive. He said I was courageous for tackling  this now. He wanted to help me be the woman I was inside, be a teacher of sorts and willing to go at my speed. The exchange of power, the letting go of inhibitions and the resulting passion was just exhilerating; feelings I quickly identified as missing from my life. Every word he wrote struck a cord in me. We talked of meeting to see if any chemistry was there in person.  After a week of chatting/email/phone calls, he suddenly stops contacting me, ignoring my mails.

My questions:

What happened? Why did he stop calling? 

Was I going too fast? Was he just talking a whole lot of BS?

Should I confront him about it? Did he just take advantage of me for his own pleasure?

Did my online profile advertise my supposes submissiveness and attract a dominant man?

How did I do this unknowingly?

In a nutshell, I wanted a man who would is safe, nonjudgemental and patient with woman ready to explore her sexuality. I wanted to have more comfidence and feel free to be the real woman I know is hiding inside. Little did I know that there is name for this.

Does this make me a woman with submissive tendencies?

I hope to answer these questions here and would welcome any insights from other forum members male and female. Thanks.

EQL



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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 1:23:13 AM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		WOW... ok as for the man well if he is ignoreing you its his loss and you deserve better... I dont know if what you have stated makes you a sub... it very well may but it also may not.. read some stories online and see if it is at all apealing though I worn you online is very little like real life.. good luck and Im here if you need a friend

-da enigma-

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 5:12:02 AM   
kajiramom


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Status: offline 		They are chat sites Sir

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:29:10 AM   
corders


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Joined: 2/12/2005
Status: offline 		Hi lace.
Sorry you had a bad experience.not all like that,although i have had some not nice comments when i did a tour .Anyway you can always e mail me on ********** a chat.
good luck and hope to hear from you soon.

Mod Edit: email addresses are not allowed on the forums.

< Message edited by ModeratorTwelve -- 7/10/2006 6:26:04 AM >

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:30:20 AM   
corders


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Status: offline 		That should read @ yahoo.co.uk

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:32:38 AM   
corders


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Status: offline 		Sometimes these sites are frustrating it should be 'at'   co.uk if you know what i mean sorry  

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 8:04:17 AM   
LokisBrat


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Status: offline 		Welcome to CM and the forums.  There are time wasters and game players, you just have to weed through them.  Hang in there and best of luck.

LOKI


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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 6:16:38 PM   
MasterCurios


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Status: offline 		Hello and Welcome to CM hope you enjoy your stay here

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:09:51 PM   
fyrekittyn


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From: Memphis, TN
Status: offline 		Welcome to the wonderfully wicked world of the CM forums. Kick back, grab an alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverage of your choice, and jump right in!

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:29:43 PM   
ExquisteLace


Posts: 6
Joined: 7/8/2006
Status: offline 		Thank you everyone for the warm welcome and for posting your insights.

Enigma--You are so right. I do deserve better. Being on line and not meeting doesn't take away responsibility. I am a real person behind the screen. Am I a submissive? I don't know. And I am okay with that. Thanks so much.
 
MasterMan66--I'm doing well. Thanks. Sorry my msn/yahoo tags are not available.

Corders--Thanks for understanding. I'm handling things alright and not dwelling on it much today. I got the yahoo addy.

LokisBrat--Weeding through, you got that right. I'm not giving up. Thanks for the support.

MastercCurios---Much appreciationfor the welcome. Thank you.

Fyrekittyn---Hey, can I add popcorn to that? Thanks.

Warmly,
EQL

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 7:46:43 PM   
BelleAnne44


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Status: offline 		I can relate to what happened to you, Exq.  I'm in a similar place in exploring myself and walked kind of sideways into this stuff online.  I'm also trying to learn about it and me, and let me tell you one thing I've learned for sure:  Every person who claims to be a Dom isn't.

If you haven't already, you'll start getting emails from a good lot of them...some truly offering great help and advice on where to learn, some just being nutty.  With just a little bit of time, you can tell who knows more what they're talking about by reading their posts on the forums. 

I'm sorry you got hurt.  I have also.  People can downplay online romance, but feelings are feelings, and if you put yours out on the line and they got stomped on, it hurts.  I think its especially true when you're in such a vulnerable time of self discovery.

Good luck!  I've learned so much in my few short weeks here, and hope you do too.

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RE: Begining to Explore..... - 7/9/2006 8:18:40 PM   
ExquisteLace


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Status: offline 		Thank you BellAnn 44. You understand completely what I just went through. Yes, I was vulnerable and I ask myself how did I let this happen and get so taken in by this guy? The feelings are very real. My #1 rule now:  Listen to my gut instinct. If it don't feel right then it ain't right.   After all he is just a man, like any other man.

Good luck to you as well and stay safe.

EQL

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