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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 2:23:29 PM

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If this is help, then I don't need enemies. Wow. Thanks for all the obvious guys. I guess telling you we haven't had sex before or that we are a new couple or that she has NEVER USED A TOY BEFORE isn't gonna change the outcome of this thread I mistakenly put in the wrong board. Thanks so much for not helping me at all, guys. I'll go hope that internet reviews on shop sites aren't all lies.

Edit: I have taken a breather from this, and since this thread isn't even in the proper board, thanks to my moment of stupidity, I am going to discontinue responding to this thread. Thanks for understanding. Have a nice day.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 2:38:56 PM

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Call me crazy but Being a DOMINANT woman, I thought all the gift suggestions were excellent. Who says a 400 count sheet cannot be an erotic toy? The smooth coolness you feel on your body as you move around on it can get your mind and body thinking about the person who gave it and doing things solo that would definitely ROCK MY WORLD. High quality chocolate of any variety is probably one of the most erotic gifts anyone can give me...Do you know what the enzymes in chocolate can do for the libido? Every bite will remind me that my new slave thought about my internal eroticism as well as my external.

I think the name RottenBite fits you pretty well. It tells people who you are at the core. Your ATTITUDE towards the people who selflessly gave you the information you asked for in your generic question is pretty ROTTEN. Take a Bite out of that.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 2:46:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: RottenBite

She's a new Domme as much as I'm a new sub. She has experience as sub though, so at least she's experienced where I am not. Despite that, I have discovered she hasn't yet discovered what its like to use TOYS! I have a couple of vibrators myself, but I've been thinking of buying her a nice gift while we're apart. (Distance is between us, bleck.) I was wondering what Mistress's at large would suggest I get for her?

PS: Also open to advice on oral, since she hasn't been blessed with that either and... she's my first woman.

Essentially I wanna be the best submissive when it comes to rocking her world. >_>

This was the actual question you asked:
but I've been thinking of buying her a nice gift while we're apart. (Distance is between us, bleck.) I was wondering what Mistress's at large would suggest I get for her?

Granted, you did ask it after the mention of toys.

The reason you got the answers you did was not because we have nothing better to do than blow you off or diminish kink.
The reason we answered the way we did is that when variations of this question are asked, the dominant women who answer state that they prefer more personal gifts.
Vibrators (and other toys) just don't fit the category of "nice gift".

If you wanted to ask (in off topic possibly) "What are your favorite vibrators and other toys... and why?" you would have gotten very different answers.

Some women hate Hitachis.
Some women hate Hitachis until they learn they can dampen the vibrations by putting a soft washcloth between it and them.

The enjoyment of toys is very specific to each person individually.
Begin a general thread on toys and you may get lots of answers.

Asking what toy you can get someone special to you and you get the answers you got.
In general we just don't find it sporting at all to set someone up to fail.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 2:50:57 PM

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Some women hate Hitachis until they learn they can dampen the vibrations by putting a soft washcloth between it and them.

As I predicted!

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 2:53:36 PM

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Thanks so much for not helping me at all, guys.

Despite my explanation that vibrator preferences are too individual for us to be able to give you meaningful advice, I did recommend two popular brands.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 4:31:53 PM

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See this is the type thing that I don't get.
Stranger comes into a room of ppl (forums), asks advice, gets great advice, then
said stranger flips out. Where the hell was any attacking or attitude or any negativity??
Geez!

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 4:38:22 PM

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Ok. I'm confused. This forum gets accused of tag teaming new posters. Many people come in and give really thoughtful, patient advice. OP gets upset at....what?

~scratches my head~

Edit to add---oops. Didn't see K's post or I would have just nodded to myself instead of posting.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 4:55:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Ok. I'm confused. This forum gets accused of tag teaming new posters. Many people come in and give really thoughtful, patient advice. OP gets upset at....what?

~scratches my head~

Edit to add---oops. Didn't see K's post or I would have just nodded to myself instead of posting.

Great minds... .

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 5:11:56 PM

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Clit Stimulator, Vibrator etc. You really did receive some good feedback its all with knowing who your with and their taste. If your Mistress has yet to experience Toys or Oral have you had a conversation and she's open to either? Make it something that you and her can both enjoy and can reflect on and even create a bigger and better scene from "That Day"

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 6:32:37 PM

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I personally do not like penetrating toys. A bullet with a separate battery pack will last longer. There are also more expensive ones that have a battery pack that isn't attached to the bullet. There are also underwear that contain a bullet and have a remote control. You can find them at a Giggles store or a local sex shop. (Or online)

If you ask a question people are going to answer to the best of their ability and with their own personal biases. The hostile feedback seemed unnecessary. It's just a Forum and we are just offering our advice from our perspective.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 6:52:35 PM

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My first piece of advice on buying your mistress toys is - DON'T.

For one thing, if she has no experience with toys so far, then she has no idea what she will like and what she won't. She might like a vibrating bullet, a Hitachi style wand, one of those butterfly things, or a realistic dildo covered in UR3 skin. There is just know way to know what her individual tastes will be. There's also a chance she won't like toys at all. I know I find them distracting at best and annoying as fuck the rest of the time. If someone wanted to buy me a toy, I'd tell them GTFO with that thing and get me a hot erotica novel or some lesbian hentai instead. We will get way more use out of that. Seriously.

If you decide to ignore the first piece of advice, then my second piece is to wait to buy them until you can go to the sex shop together. Let her pick out something that appeals to her. She may prefer a Feeldoe or a Doc Johnson that looks and feels real or she may prefer something smooth and brightly colored. You can ask the sales clerk for recommendations on which items are good quality and which are likely to break after a few uses. If it's anything like the sex shops I've visited, the staff will know the answers to those questions. Trust me. I suggest picking something fairly inexpensive just in case she doesn't like it. There's no sense in wasting money if it turns out she hates the thing.

As far as oral goes, the best advice I can give you is to work out a signal system. That way she doesn't have to worry about forming coherent words to direct you to the right spot and you don't have to keep looking up to see where she's pointing. I use little taps on the cheek to tell my partners when to move to one side or the other and I either tap under their chin or press lightly on the top of their head to tell them to move up and down. Since you're into pony play, you two might prefer to put you in a collar with a ring attached on either side and then clip a short leash to each ring so she can use them like reins. Aim for the spot where you can taste blood under her skin. That's going to be where the most nerves are, but be prepared to move if it's too intense for her. This is where the signal system comes in handy.

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RE: My New Mistress - 4/13/2014 7:19:27 PM

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My vote is, if you want to buy her a gift, make it something other than sex toys. Sex toy preferences are very personal. What we recommend might not be at all what she will like. On the other hand, my sub has gotten me Godiva chocolates & I loved them. He's gotten me yummy-smelling perfume & I loved that too. But the same could be said of those things, taste & preferences are personal, but you must know her better than we do.

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