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Toysinbabeland -> RE: Female Name Ideas (4/29/2014 3:41:00 AM)
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ORIGINAL: njlauren
Naming yourself is one of the things you can do for yourself, doesn't cost any money, and more importantly, it is a way to take charge of yourself, even in a small way:).
As far as parental acceptance, I wish I could say it is going to be okay, that everyone will accept you, but the first rule you learn in transition is that that simply isn't true. It depends on the people around you, but don't be surprised if someone who claims they are ultra liberal and tolerant freaks out, while someone you thought would be an asshole turns out to be supportive. Very religious people you thought would freak may at the least try to accept you, even if they don't understand, while the person who reads Mother Jones News and such turns a cold shoulder. Hopefully parental love will come through, even if they don't understand it, but it could be rough (and yes, there is always hope. There was one young kid in the support group, kid was from Staten Island, kind of Jersey shorish background, her mom was this woman from the neighborhood type I only knew too well, she actually came to the groups, and went from being not understanding and negative to becoming supportive (kid was like 19,20).....went from where the mom came with the kid dressed as a boy, to where the kid came proudly all dressed up (looked stunning, the little bitch, was I ever jealous *lol*), the mom had taken her shopping, to get her first mani/pedi, getting her ears pierced, you name it, was kind of cute..she still had reservations, but also kind of saw what other people were saying, how sane many of us seemed to be (if she only knew! *smile*), and it seemed to help, so you never know. It is why this is a process, you kind of build your own world, then slowly let people into it, keeping those who support you close and keeping the rest where they can't hurt you.
{{{{Hugs}}}} NJLauren, always a sensible post. :)
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