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Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 10:45:32 AM   
Crouchingtiger77


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Status: offline 		I have encountered on more than one occasion a person who is sub according to their profile and we start talking, and seems to be good and cordial, polite.

But after about ten minutes the woman in question when it happens will say something like,
"You are too politie to be sadistic."

My counter to that is: We are simply talking, something akin to say talking face to face at a starbucks or other social function. One does not put out that side which you would not show with others in similar social context.

That side , the sadistic side, is there, but I do not need to show it with verbage which is not consistent with cordial conversation. This is not a game to me, and I do not like playing mind games either with people in such initial getting to know you conversations.

Why do others think I must put off the ' cordial' as some type of game? Or is there something I am missing in this?

I have thought how to ask this and not sure if I have put forward the case as best it could be. to be fully understood but did my best. Thank you
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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 10:53:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		The people who say those things are lost in fantasy. They are either just looking for some dirty talk and frustrated they're getting polite chat, or they're so lost in their romance-novel fantasies that they genuinely thing dominants are some other species that behave unlike real people.

I wouldn't worry about what you are missing. I'd take it as a convenient early warning sign that this person is not ready for an actual relationship and move on.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 10:57:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		My impression but there are other opinions on this and curious
to what others will or may have on this.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 11:20:05 AM   
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You are experiencing people who have a script in their heads regarding how a dominant (or sadistic) partner is supposed to behave.
They don't want someone real. They don't want someone who makes soup from scratch when their submissive partner is sick, or someone who will surprise them with things that will make them smile.
They don't want someone who will cry with them when a beloved pet dies.




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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 11:34:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with the others, they have some fantasy built up in their mind of how they think a sadist should talk/act and can't or don't want to see that there's more to a person than that side of them.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 12:07:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well you big silly!..........Don't you know by now you have to talk like the GREAT AND POWERFUL OZ?.........very loud bombing voice, walk like godzilla on steroids and be rude, very rude and grunt a lot.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 12:12:56 PM   
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and grunt a lot.


Chatterbox, that sounds a bit like 'Tim the Toolman Taylor' of
Home Improvement Days gone by.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 12:37:38 PM   
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Well you big silly!..........Don't you know by now you have to talk like the GREAT AND POWERFUL OZ?.........very loud bombing voice, walk like godzilla on steroids and be rude, very rude and grunt a lot.


Yep, exactly.

I had a woman act that way on a first meet. She was expecting me to throw my weight around. But instead we had a nice conversation in Arby's. She annoyed me when she said she thought I would be more forceful. So I grabbed her by the hair and pulled her up and kissed her. She had a shocked look on her face then. Like a pc with the blue screen shutting down and restarting only to not have windows load and have to try again.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 12:55:24 PM   
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Like a pc with the blue screen shutting down and restarting only to not have windows load and have to try again.


So, blacksword, did that end that before it got started or did she catch her breath, think for a moment and say, wooooo, take it a step at a time? now i'm curious and it's none of my business, either.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 1:37:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Crouchingtiger77

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Like a pc with the blue screen shutting down and restarting only to not have windows load and have to try again.


So, blacksword, did that end that before it got started or did she catch her breath, think for a moment and say, wooooo, take it a step at a time? now i'm curious and it's none of my business, either.


I was watching her face. It was funny. But I told her to be careful what you ask for.

We went to the mall. I made her heel me the whole time. Then I took her to her home.


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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 1:39:32 PM   
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Then I took her to her home.

and the rest is as Paul Harvey would have said,
"For the rest of the story." cheers

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 2:06:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Crouchingtiger77

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and grunt a lot.


Chatterbox, that sounds a bit like 'Tim the Toolman Taylor' of
Home Improvement Days gone by.


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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 2:08:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: blacksword404


quote:

ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Well you big silly!..........Don't you know by now you have to talk like the GREAT AND POWERFUL OZ?.........very loud bombing voice, walk like godzilla on steroids and be rude, very rude and grunt a lot.


Yep, exactly.

I had a woman act that way on a first meet. She was expecting me to throw my weight around. But instead we had a nice conversation in Arby's. She annoyed me when she said she thought I would be more forceful. So I grabbed her by the hair and pulled her up and kissed her. She had a shocked look on her face then. Like a pc with the blue screen shutting down and restarting only to not have windows load and have to try again.


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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 2:35:51 PM   
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Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic?

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But after about ten minutes the woman in question when it happens will say something like,
"You are too polite to be sadistic."


As others have said...those people talk like newbies. Who are suffering from online roleplay (and BDSM porn) poisoning.

Also, I guess people who think that way are not "a cat person" or they'd already know that the cutest, sweetest bundle of fluff will joyfully use fangs and claws. Sometimes, the harder they claw, the louder they purr.

(Sits still now, looking cute and fluffy.)

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 2:57:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

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Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic?

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But after about ten minutes the woman in question when it happens will say something like,
"You are too polite to be sadistic."


As others have said...those people talk like newbies. Who are suffering from online roleplay (and BDSM porn) poisoning.

Also, I guess people who think that way are not "a cat person" or they'd already know that the cutest, sweetest bundle of fluff will joyfully use fangs and claws. Sometimes, the harder they claw, the louder they purr.

(Sits still now, looking cute and fluffy.)


Remind me to never rub your tummy.

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 3:33:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Gulp. ....... I bet She was like.....,what just happened!?
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ORIGINAL: blacksword404


quote:

ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Well you big silly!..........Don't you know by now you have to talk like the GREAT AND POWERFUL OZ?.........very loud bombing voice, walk like godzilla on steroids and be rude, very rude and grunt a lot.


Yep, exactly.

I had a woman act that way on a first meet. She was expecting me to throw my weight around. But instead we had a nice conversation in Arby's. She annoyed me when she said she thought I would be more forceful. So I grabbed her by the hair and pulled her up and kissed her. She had a shocked look on her face then. Like a pc with the blue screen shutting down and restarting only to not have windows load and have to try again.




She did. But she was happy with the results. Sometimes a little shock is good for you.


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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 4:15:29 PM   
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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 9:16:52 PM   
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Why do others think I must put off the ' cordial' as some type of game? Or is there something I am missing in this?


I think what you (and others) are missing is a respect for individual preference.

Why shouldn't a submissive have a specific idea of what they are attracted to, what constitutes a "Sadistic" vibe for them?

They're just not that into you. Does it really matter why?

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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 9:26:46 PM   
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RE: Does Cordial Conversation mean one is not Sadistic? - 4/28/2014 10:20:42 PM   
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