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slaveoubliette -> RE: DOMMES (7/20/2014 3:24:28 PM)

no, if everyone had to be verified before they could join a site that would be the fix.... lol



ThePrincessKali -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 3:06:28 AM)

You messaged two Dommes and they're non responsiveness is the fault of Fin Dommes how? Removing Fin Dommes from the site wouldn't make those two Dommes any more likely to respond.


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ORIGINAL: subtrannyeva

The OP seems to have many of the same thoughts i have had from looking on here, i wish there was some filters to remove findommes, that would cut out half the people i dont want to look through : ) i've messaged two Dommes since being on here, one to just say i like your style kinda thing, She lives too far away for anything real to be practical...no reply to that..(oh by the way no it wasnt a one liner it was more a long paragraph) didnt expect a reply but well maybe a ty would have been polite, but i suppose my message is just another losers to ignore : ) no biggy.
The second was someone who lives nearby and was more an introduction, which if what Her profile said was relevant i kinda expected some sort of reply, its cool if im not what She is looking for etc, but i obviously made an effort with my scribbling and crayons, so just a polite no thanks reply wouldnt hurt would it? ... seems to me subs and Dommes need each other, politeness cost nothing : )




subtrannyeva -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 9:30:44 AM)

umm what's that got to do with me not wanting to see findommes!!! .... please read before responding thank you : )

i dont get the findomme thing at all, i said i would like it if i could filter them out...i then went on to say i had messaged two Dommes, NOT findommes ...i love mesage boards....you can take time and read carefully before responding..not like chatrooms at all : )



Arturas -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 10:22:19 AM)


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ORIGINAL: needingrelease50

Is it just me or are the majority of so called Dommes on this site just playing games? How can anyone expect someone to truly submit after only 2 emails back and forth? And what is up with this financial domination? Are their really fools that desire this? Does a true Domme block you just because you call them out for how they are acting and talking to a perfect stranger? Please help me understand this.


Help me to understand where you are coming from. What has happened to you to cause you to ask?



DarkSteven -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 12:47:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subtrannyeva

umm what's that got to do with me not wanting to see findommes!!! .... please read before responding thank you : )

i dont get the findomme thing at all, i said i would like it if i could filter them out...i then went on to say i had messaged two Dommes, NOT findommes ...i love mesage boards....you can take time and read carefully before responding..not like chatrooms at all : )


The PrincessKali got confused by the way in which you combined two topics in your post.

Now, let's get back to the topic at hand. Your second point was about how lifestyle Dommes aren't responding to the two messages you've sent.

"The OP seems to have many of the same thoughts i have had from looking on here, i wish there was some filters to remove findommes, that would cut out half the people i dont want to look through : ) i've messaged two Dommes since being on here, one to just say i like your style kinda thing, She lives too far away for anything real to be practical...no reply to that..(oh by the way no it wasnt a one liner it was more a long paragraph) didnt expect a reply but well maybe a ty would have been polite, but i suppose my message is just another losers to ignore : ) no biggy.
The second was someone who lives nearby and was more an introduction, which if what Her profile said was relevant i kinda expected some sort of reply, its cool if im not what She is looking for etc, but i obviously made an effort with my scribbling and crayons, so just a polite no thanks reply wouldnt hurt would it? ... seems to me subs and Dommes need each other, politeness cost nothing : ) "



Please note that:

1. You introduced a second topic abruptly, with nothing to show it was a different topic from the finDomme one, which was bound to create some confusion.
2. When someone did become confused, you made snippy comments that essentially said she should have read more carefully. Instead of looking to see if there was anything YOU could improve, you expected others to do differently than they have done.
3. Your original message reeks of entitlement and refers to the fact that you expended effort on a long paragraph, as though that should have obligated someone to respond to your message.
4. Your profile talks about your fetishes. Nothing about you as a person. Then it says negative things about finDommes... why? You don't intend to work with them, just ignore them and move on.

To be blunt, eva, there are a LOT of CDs competing for few lifestyle Dommes. What about you would appeal to them?



ThePrincessKali -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 1:22:45 PM)

In my experience on vanilla dating sites I find it very unappealing when guys mention negative things about women.
Ex: "I don't like heavy set women or fat women, if you aren't fit and in shape, don't message me!"
I am thin and in shape. So even though that statement doesn't apply to me, I still see that person as being negative and if one of the first things I hear about you is a negative put down, I won't want to interact with you. So constantly complaining about what others do probably isn't helping you.

And OP, you also stated that you were upset you got no response at all. Most women on any dating site, vanilla or BDSM, Domme or Sub get bombarded with messages from men. This has been stated be women on this board as well as among people I know in real life. Many women who are listed as Dominant get messages from Doms. Those who say they are in a relationship and not looking get messages. On the vanilla site, I get messages from men much younger or older than me or those who fit what I'm looking for, which I always state clearly in my profiles. So if a woman gets over a hundred messages a week, you expect her to take the time to sit and write a polite no thank you to every man who doesn't have what she's looking for? Especially when, more times than not, a polite no thank you from us results in mean, nasty, offensive messages in response.

And yes. I was confused by your post. It was rambling, jumbled, and hard to understand. And as DarkSteven stated, you made no indication you were changing topics from your OP so no need to be rude or condescending.



FieryOpal -> RE: DOMMES (7/21/2014 2:26:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

In my experience on vanilla dating sites I find it very unappealing when guys mention negative things about women.
Ex: "I don't like heavy set women or fat women, if you aren't fit and in shape, don't message me!"
I am thin and in shape. So even though that statement doesn't apply to me, I still see that person as being negative and if one of the first things I hear about you is a negative put down, I won't want to interact with you.
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How true. It's a huge turn-off because it reveals superficiality.
Even if that weren't the case, I don't want to be objectified and fetishized for my body parts.
I'm in pretty good shape (although not nearly as young as you are, Kali), but if a guy wants a toned bikini babe, well, that tells me that arm candy is more important to him than my thoughts and feelings are.

Besides the fact that I have several *types* that appeal to me, I don't list specifics in this regard, other than an age range (which isn't a strictly physical attribute).



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