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alicerabbit -> Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 11:28:47 AM)

Don't get me wrong, I don't get offended by it, it just seems so weird to me that a submissive would take time out of their day to message me, a dom, and tell me what a terrible person I am or how much they hate me. Sure, I assume more people look down on me because I identify as a financial dom, but the idea of a random sub I've never spoken to before doing that is so alien to me. Can anyone explain/have experience similar to this?



CobaltRose -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:28:12 PM)

I think its because most subs expect a take and give scenario. They give you devotion and/ or money, and in exchange, you make them feel safe and secure. Most dont like the idea of giving someone money for basically nothing. Then again Im no expert and really have no idea how FinDoms work. Me personally if i wanted to give my money away i give it to charity.

Anyway it was still wrong of them to attack you textually.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:31:00 PM)

These people don't ask about it, they just start off with the slander. For me, I do not have paypal and only use amazon giftcards (rarely, when the sub wants to pay me immediately) or items off my wishlist, and even then it's rarely and to fix the need of those looking to spoil a domme. One guy stared off with "And you are my shit" and he was labeled as a submissive.



CobaltRose -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:33:49 PM)

Maybe they are testing you? Seeing if you have the ability to take hateful words, that you are strong willed.

Or maybe they are just dicks.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:40:05 PM)

Haha, well, he continued for several messages just repeating himself, so I guess he was just a dick. Thanks for the response!



InHisHeart -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:40:22 PM)

I have no idea why anyone is rude to others or would message someone just for the purpose of being rude. I've heard it's common for findommes to get those type messages but I have no explanation for it.

I've received some rude messages from a dom or two (I've heard other subs get them too) thinking just because someone is a submissive we owe them respect, call them Sir, Lord, whatever self-proclaimed title they gave themselves. I kneel down to my Master and him alone, he's the only one I owe anything to but I'm polite to others, doms and subs alike. I'm not rude to doms (or anyone) whether on-line or in-person unless they cross my line and are being an ass towards me.

Edit to add: The BLOCK button comes in handy.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:42:33 PM)

Yea, I got some kind of power-hungry dom messaging me calling me a cunt and telling me to kneel to him (totally unsolicited). I have no idea what goes through their minds, but sorry you have to deal with them too!



CobaltRose -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:47:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: alicerabbit

Yea, I got some kind of power-hungry dom messaging me calling me a cunt and telling me to kneel to him (totally unsolicited). I have no idea what goes through their minds, but sorry you have to deal with them too!


Sounds like someone has some insecurities with their masculinity (im talking about the person who sent you that message)

Anyway so far you seems like a nice person. If i was into FinDommes and had money to spare, sure, i would give you tributes. I hope you dont take that the wrong way.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:53:35 PM)

Well thank you, I'll take that as a compliment! :P



CobaltRose -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:56:08 PM)

Thats good, it was suppose to be. Most girls i met take me saying something as simple as "you're pretty" as offensive or assume im hitting on them. So im very wary about what i say.



BBBTBW -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 12:59:00 PM)

I get it all the time and I am not a financial DOMME. It has to do with bored, ignorant, immature people. Flick it away like a bug and move forward.



MsLadySue -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 1:07:01 PM)

The rude messages probably have little to do with who/what you are. There are many people who become brave when they get access to a keyboard since they can boldly say whatever they want without fear of being unmasked. Simply small minds with nothing else to occupy their boring lives. IMO YMMV

ETA: Use your mouse to hover over a message before opening it. If it's a rude/nasty message delete it unread. That will take some wind out of their sails when they find their message wasn't read before deletion.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 1:12:23 PM)

This is great advice! I'm not completely sure how this whole site works yet, but it's good to know that they can see if I opened their messages. Thank you!



thezeppo -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 1:16:04 PM)

It seems to me its more trolling than anything else. A game of let's see how much attention/time we can get from this person. I know you probably aren't, but don't take it personally.

ETA: Fast Reply



DesFIP -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/4/2014 2:09:36 PM)

They know they don't have a chance with a barely legal female and they feel rejected before they start. The fact that all you want is money and no chance of a relationship just makes the rejection that they are anticipating feel even worse. So to make themselves feel a little better, they attack.

It's common online to get stuff like this, no matter which side of the slash you may be on.

Block and delete and don't allow them to win by getting you upset.



ThePrincessKali -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/5/2014 10:57:44 AM)

People are assholes online plain and simple. I have gotten hundreds of really hateful unsolicited messages bc I'm a fin Domme. I think many guys are bottoms, different from being submissive, and want a free fetish delivery system. And then are angry because you won't provide it. I've been on vanilla dating sites and gotten hundreds of mean messages. The internet provides people with anonymity, which gives then the opportunity to be complete assholes with no repercussions.



DaddySatyr -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/5/2014 11:04:37 AM)

I am more than willing to answer your question but first, you'll have to pay me $20.


P.S.; you owe me $1 for typing this much. [:D]






Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?



AdamKessler -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/5/2014 11:17:00 AM)

Hahahahaha. As far as I am concerned, if you're getting free money you have no right to complain. I would be doing the same thing if I had lady parts but I wouldn't bat an eye at people being mad about it. I mean, it is a kind of scummy concept, but hey, it's a tough economy.



alicerabbit -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/5/2014 12:21:49 PM)

I get very little money (not even enough to pay a single bill) at all and do a ton of work and maintain an actual relationship, but thanks for dumbing it down a lot.

EDIT: It also seems as if you think I enjoy it just for the money, so please read all the posts in this questions.



AdamKessler -> RE: Subs going out of their way to send rude messages (5/5/2014 12:37:29 PM)

Hm... Sounds like you're not doing it right then. I mean, if you're in the business of exploiting people you should at least give it your all. Although, I'm not sure I can really blame you. Clearly this whole FinDom thing wouldn't exist if there weren't men with such low self-respect to taken in by it. When I really start to think about it, it's quite ingenious actually. Very Darwin-esque.

Edit: Well, I mean, the first line of your profile info calls them "pay pigs". In bold no less. It's clearly a large factor, if not the primary one.



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