LaTigresse
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Tamer, don't be feeling bad. This last bit of conversation just made me decide to put into words something that has been giving me alot of food for thought lately.
I hate slapping labels on people, detest it in fact.
Earlier in this thread there were a few smashes back and forthish that got me a little peeved but I didn't know how to put into words and there really was no need for it. However, I see how many men could just be really confused about some things. Since my knowledge is basically limited to myself and those I have met in life, it is rather narrow. However, the whole sexuality categorising thing is just something I find to be too restrictive. I have friends known fondly in our little circle as "gold star lesbians" these women have never been with a man, never had any desire whatsoever. Chances are they never will be. Being a lesbian in this area is kind of an odd little clique that keeps to itself in many ways. I also have friends that have had relationships with men and women but now because of some bad experiences consider themselves lesbians and have a big hate for all men. Then there are bisexual women and within that group there are many different possible dynamics, the only one I am truely not comfortable with are the swinger variety.....just not my bag at all, I have friends that are but its not for me. Then there are women like me, have had good relationships with men, don't hate men, just have a strong preference, for whatever our individual reason is, a relationship with a woman at this point in our lives. The best way I can explain it for myself is this, sex with a guy is rather similar to masturbation. If I really love the guy, I love that he desires me. If I am in the right frame of mind and the physical stimulation is right I can maybe have an orgasm. Sadly, I can have much better ones by myself, but thats beside the point. Now, that being said, there would be many MANY guys that would read that, puff up their chest and say something like "Just need the right man!!"......to which I would say "buuuuuullllllshit!" I do not want to worship at the alter of penis. I do not particularly care for them penises, they are not attractive to me, the only ones I have even faintly kind of liked were attached to exceptionally awsome men, most of which I had no sexual contact with at all. I know, thru and thru that there is not a man on this planet that I can have the same chemistry with that I KNOW for a FACT I can have in the right relationship with a woman. It's like comparing MadDog 22 to the best tawny port. You can get drunk on both, IF getting drunk is your goal. I am at a point in life where getting drunk is not my goal. I don't need to.
So, I don't know what the hell that all makes me but its not a bisexual woman that wants it all and its not a man hating lesbian. I didn't just sit down one day and decide 'I am going to be a lesbian" Hell, I am a lazy person and I can say for a fact being a hetro woman with a great guy would be alot easier. I even know one really great guy. For me it has been alot like my immersion into BDSM, a long deep "ahhhhhhh, yesss, this is it!" Finally feeling like me instead of pretending to be what I thought I should be. I don't know if any of that makes sense but the whole sexual labeling thing earlier in the thread was annoying and this gave me an opening to spew about it.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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