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When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 8:23:16 PM   
NGNL2


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Status: offline 		When your Daddy calls says "you're my whore," exactly what does that translate to out of the bedroom? Is it similar to girlfriend? If not, why do they even bother to call you "their" anything?

Just confused...
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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 8:38:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm going to take it that you are not sure of your position in your relationship yet. I am going to say that him saying that is not an indication of you are his girlfriend.

Could be a term of endearment, a statement of possession or a type of humiliation.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 8:42:56 PM   
librasub24and7


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Status: offline 		hello i am not a Dom but what this means is usually pretty specific to the Dom...the only way to know for sure what is meant is to ask him...in general though he may be turned on by the words and they don't mean much of anything. or he may be trying to degrade or humiliate you...or he may even mean them in a complementary fashion...only he knows and you if you ask him.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 8:43:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps the best person to ask would be your "daddy". Only he can tell you what he meant by it.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 10:45:48 PM   
NGNL2


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Status: offline 		He says he likes to call me that, as I do like being called that (he knows the reaction he gets); however, it means more to me, than I believe it does him. A lot of info. I refuse to discuss, as I am trying to pull myself away, because at this time in his life, I feel he wants his cake (exwife) & eat it (me) too. However, as much as I would fight for him, I'm at the point of walking away. If he wants to pine away for someone who divorced him, he can. I refuse to pine away for him any longer. Which is why I asked this question here. Because I got the "just friends" from him... but that was a few weeks ago. I love him, more than on a "just friends," level, that's MY problem. He knows how I feel, he's said in the past that he loved me, but I think that was just so he could get what he wanted.

I wish to hell, there was a manual on Daddys, Masters & Doms, or just better communication, say what you really mean, not what you know will get you what you want. I guess that can be said for both sexes...

I just thought another Dom would give a clear, cut answer...

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 10:51:38 PM   
NGNL2


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Status: offline 		Up until last month, I thought I knew where our relationship stood. Mind you, that was before he tossedout the "I just want to be friends." If I'd of known we were "just friends." I wouldn't have spent four years on him.

Capeche?

Thank you.


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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 10:54:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think there is a clear-cut answer for this question. I would never use the word, describing any of my ladies.

Let me re-phrase: I would never hang out with a whore so, it would never come up.

I take words very literally. I define a "whore" as a lady who takes money for sex or sexual conduct. I have no moral objection to the behavior and I think it should be legal but I've known enough ladies on precipice (and one that fell into the morass) to know that the attitude that accompanies such behavior (generally) is not for me.

Words can be very powerful, if they're coming from someone whose opinion matters. It's why I tread lightly with some words.

Looking for other "doms" of whom to ask the question isn't going to get you what you seek because, as others have said; it means different things to different men .

Now, you bring up that your Daddy is still pining away for his ex. I think that's an even bigger issue and one for which there is a clear-cut answer: don't walk, RUN away. Why would you want to play second fiddle to a lady that (I'll bet) he talks down about and insults on a regular basis? What does that make you?



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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 10:57:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NGNL2

He says he likes to call me that, as I do like being called that (he knows the reaction he gets); however, it means more to me, than I believe it does him. A lot of info. I refuse to discuss, as I am trying to pull myself away, because at this time in his life, I feel he wants his cake (exwife) & eat it (me) too. However, as much as I would fight for him, I'm at the point of walking away. If he wants to pine away for someone who divorced him, he can. I refuse to pine away for him any longer. Which is why I asked this question here. Because I got the "just friends" from him... but that was a few weeks ago. I love him, more than on a "just friends," level, that's MY problem. He knows how I feel, he's said in the past that he loved me, but I think that was just so he could get what he wanted.

I wish to hell, there was a manual on Daddys, Masters & Doms, or just better communication, say what you really mean, not what you know will get you what you want. I guess that can be said for both sexes...

I just thought another Dom would give a clear, cut answer...


You don't need any one else's clear cut answer. You already KNOW the answer. You said it above, and I bolded the exact reason. It just hurts for you to admit it. I get it.
However, it will hurt more if you continue to hang on and hope he will change. They rarely do.
I hope I am wrong, but I don't think I am. I wish you the very best.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 11:19:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NGNL2

When your Daddy calls says "you're my whore," exactly what does that translate to out of the bedroom? Is it similar to girlfriend? If not, why do they even bother to call you "their" anything?

Just confused...

This sounds like a wonderful conversation to have with your "daddy". I think he'll be able to explain what he means much better than a site fill of strangers who don't know either of you.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/11/2014 11:36:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NGNL2
Up until last month, I thought I knew where our relationship stood. Mind you, that was before he tossedout the "I just want to be friends." If I'd of known we were "just friends." I wouldn't have spent four years on him.

Capeche?

Thank you.

I am really sorry to hear this. It sounds like there has been a miscommunication. When I was with my x-dom, before I went into anything full time with him, we both agreed we wanted to get married, and have a family together and he always told me we were going to be exclusive to each other for life. It didn't work because we had differences outside of kink that could not be resolved and it was my choice to walk away.

But part of that relationship also involves alot humiliation and degradation play, as that is what he is into, and what I enjoy. So he calls me whore and it excites him to pay me $2 every time he had sex with me, to degrade me as a cheap $2 whore.

But I was always very sure that he loved me because I allow him to do that to me. And yes, he likes to say, "You're a $2 whore, but you are MY $2 whore and only I get to use you." Kinda possessive statements like that.

So no two doms are alike, but communication is very important to know where you stand in the relationship. It shouldn't be any different from vanilla relationships.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 4:54:08 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NGNL2

When your Daddy calls says "you're my whore," exactly what does that translate to out of the bedroom? Is it similar to girlfriend? If not, why do they even bother to call you "their" anything?

Just confused...


Your issue isn't with what he is calling you.
Your issue is with how he is treating you in the relationship.
It is making you insecure and unhappy.

I am [my] Master's whore.
Bottom line: I am His.

You don't have that sense in your relationship.

It sounds like You need to have a talk and freely discuss your expectations regarding this relationship.
For me, it would be devastating if after 4 years I was told He wants to be just friends.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 5:26:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Lots of good advice from everyone.
And for me, that turn of phrase does not mean girlfriend; not in the context of how you described it.
I would translate that as "my bit on the side" which seems to be how he sees it from your post #5.


But this one thing bothers me:
quote:

ORIGINAL: NGNL2
...that was before he tossedout the "I just want to be friends." If I'd of known we were "just friends." I wouldn't have spent four years on him.
That must have hurt!!

If it was said in a serious voice, I wouldn't want to hang around.
As said by Daddysatyre, don't walk... RUN!! Get out of there PDQ!!
That sort of phrasiology isn't normally bandied about, not even in jest.

I would take a step back and be taking serious stock of what has happened recently.
If you can spot little differences of behaviour that point to him not being committed to you, I'd be gone.
I'd be discreetly packing my things and making plans to leave.... Seriously.
Then when he isn't around, just go and don't look back.



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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 5:54:21 AM   
Greta75


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Status: offline 		Yea, the "Just Friends" bit seriously stings! But you learn something and next time, you will be wiser and know how to be clearer about your dynamics before going in so deep.

I mean, personally, I would never allow a "Just a friend" to call me whore because his just a friend and wouldn't be my master.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 6:08:23 AM   
BecomingV


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Status: offline 		So, 4 years and he was single for all of those 4 years and is still pining for an ex of that long ago?

Just in general, the word "whore" means sexual woman, and in more recent years, sexual man. Some get off on humiliation through being called so-called scandalous words. It never did anything for me because I think you have to have some sort of shameful feelings or feelings of dirtiness for being called a whore to have any effect. It's like giving a shameful, and sexual, being, permission to be who they naturally are, because someone respected is pleased by the sexual expressiveness. In short, it frees the repressed, whether that be a "good girl/boy" whom is chomping at the bit to be more sexual OR it frees the speaker, giving themselves delightful permission to play with such a bad boy/girl. Folks are funny with this whole madonna / whore compex (and some are downright creepy).

Bottom line, OP, is being called, "whore" something that enhances your life? For some, it most definitely does, while for others, it's damaging. What's true for you?

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 6:29:35 AM   
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because I think you have to have some sort of shameful feelings or feelings of dirtiness for being called a whore to have any effect. It's like giving a shameful, and sexual, being, permission to be who they naturally are, because someone respected is pleased by the sexual expressiveness.

I don't know about that. I like to think it's the opposite, because I have no hang ups about the word "whore", that I am so comfortable with it. I also do not think lowly of prostitutes and see it as a legitimate career. People want to degrade it as a job, but I never saw it as such.
Now, if my dom called me "fat", I would probably dump him and never speak to him again! Because I have real insecurities about that word.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 8:21:26 AM   
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My thinking is very much in line with angelikaJ. My guy calls me his whore, his bitch, his slut, etc during our BDSM and those words honestly don't even phase me because I know he loves me and cares very deeply for me. Anyone else who isn't him calls me that and it pisses me off. But him...I know in my heart that he doesn't really see me as a whore, bitch, or slut at all. So the words are just words of play and don't carry the insulting meaning.

Maybe being called your daddy's whore is a trigger for you because you because of the way you feel in the relationship. I can honestly say from personal experience that a partner who is stuck looking at their past is not going to be able to see the present or future ahead of them. They chase ghosts and that's about all they can do. I honestly think all the answers you need are already within you. Do what is best for you.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 8:55:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I feel mad on OP's behalf at her dom! 4 years!!!!! And just friends!! OP deserves someone better! I sincerely hope someone nicer will come along and show you more appreciation.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 10:45:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you, Greta.

Yes it stings! It stings like a mother fucker! As much as I'm pissed at where we are, doesn't make me hate him. If I could just turn off my feelings life would bee grand, but I can't. Being called a "whore," is not degrading to me, because I'm not one. Nor have I ever been one. I know the definition too. I also know the happiness I brought him. He never spoke bad about his ex, actually he rarely spike about her. Mind you when he did, finally his comment was the spousal support was killing him, then he said he still loved his ex. Considering, the amount of time they were married, I couldnt imagine not still being in love with the mother of their child. I still love my exes, & none of us share kids or that amount of time. Maybe I was stupid & niave for taking it as a term of enderement. I know on some level he loves me, most likely not on the same level as I did/do him. He alwaystold me he never wanted to get married again. Good I thought, cuz I dont either (tho I've never been married), but once you've been on your own for twenty years, why would I give up my freedom. Who as a sub, doesn't want to be someone's posession, & I am trying to move on. Your first Daddy, is like your first love, hard to get over. If it wasn't for him, I surely wouldn't have the confidence to pose my question here, or annywhere for that matter. Maybe the age difference, forced retirement & other stuff got too overwhelming for him, or the fact, that you cant xhange who you love. Let's face it, do we all not want someone we know we can never fully obtain? I viewed intimacy like most women, sub or nilla...lets face it not all men, share the same thought process. If thet did, they'd be a hell of a lot easier to figure out.

I thank you for your imput, & you're right my gut knows the real deal, getting my foolish heart to listen & let go, is the hard part.

Thank God, I didnt make all of his fantasies come true, or I'd have to kill him, lol...

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 12:55:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NGNL2

When your Daddy calls says "you're my whore," exactly what does that translate to out of the bedroom? Is it similar to girlfriend? If not, why do they even bother to call you "their" anything?

Just confused...

Your options:

1) ask the psychics here, or,
2) ask him.

Probably you aren't posting to clear it up, though, but to gather sympathy.

Good luck with that.

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RE: When your Daddy calls you this. - 5/12/2014 2:27:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NGNL2

When your Daddy calls says "you're my whore," exactly what does that translate to out of the bedroom? Is it similar to girlfriend? If not, why do they even bother to call you "their" anything?

Just confused...



You really asked the wrong question.

My guess is your question actually is this:
What does it mean when your daddy of 4 years who has recently told you he wants to be "just friends", calls you his whore?

And the answer is your relationship is in trouble.

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