hardyballzee
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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
They're likely not judging your fetish as much as your approach. Just because a woman is kinky doesn't mean she wants to meet up with a strange man to engage in his personal fetish.
For every honest guy on one of these sites there is an unknown number of predators who use the fetish scene as a breeding ground for new victims. Women in particular learn to exercise caution if they're on this site for any length of time. Being submissive or masochistic doesn't make you immune from suspicion. I recently read a story in these forums about a domme who was about to meet up with a male sub, only to have him suddenly come clean about being a dom and insist that he would "turn" her into a sub and own her.
A suggestion: Try approaching a woman on here as a human being first. As someone you'd like to get to know as a person. Then when/if you connect, move on into fetish talk. See how different your results are then. If you don't have the patience for even that, then YES, POF or OKC will be perfect for your short attention span.
It seems you made the mistake of assuming that fetlife is designed to be a hookup site when it's not. Fet is more like a kinky facebook: People don't generally pick up women on Facebook. Even though you have easier access to photographs of topless women and blowjobs doesn't mean that the users are easy - or that they're open to doing anything with you.
tl;dr: You're not owed a kick in the balls just because you want one. Unless your approach is to try to piss off a woman enough to try it for revenge, it won't happen.
I'm not talking about me Rockarolla. I"m talking about this.
Person A post, "Hey, I'm really into Scat and was hoping I'd find some others that are into scat as well. Cheers"
Person's B, C, D, E, F respond to person A's initial post.
Person B, who loves ballbusting, post, "What the fuck is wrong with you A? Scat is fuckign disgusting, People who like Scat ought to be drug out into the street and shot"
Person C, who loves golden showers writes, "yeah no shit B, A is majorly fucked up in the head"
Person D, who also loves scat writes, "I like Scat too A, I'll talk to you about it"
Person E writes, "What the fuck is scat?"
Person F writes, "It's where people shit on themselves and eat it I think or eat someone elses shit. I don't know for sure. Not my thing, but more power to you A"
So at the end of the day on that thread we have B and C who are extremely judgmental hypocrites, D who isn't judgmental simply because he likes the same thing A likes, E who at the time is indifferent because he is ignorant to what Scat is and F, who in spite of not being into scat, isn't judgmental like B and C are.
That's what I"m talking about. Too many B's and C's on this website and not enough F's.
People think I am begging and crying out for a couple of D's. I"m not, I'm asking for F's. People who may not like what I like, but they aren't judgmental pricks either.
< Message edited by hardyballzee -- 5/13/2014 12:58:13 PM >
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RE: I've had better luck on okcupid and pof - 
and wonder to yourselfs, "Why should he expect people to be accepted and treated respectfully here?" Well, let me in turn ask you the same question. Why should I or anyone else with any other fetish, feel that on a website dedicated to fetishes and kinks, dedicated to BDSM, why shouldn't we feel safe coming here? Why shouldn't we feel like we're entering a home where we can be amongst others with similar fetishes, at least in evaluation if nothing else? 
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