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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 2:28:24 AM

mystiquenz

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Greetings,

How can the sacrifices that you have and continue to make, by extending yourself financially, physically and emotionally make you less of a person, than neglecting your responsibilities as a father and as a son?

How can that make you less of a Dominant ~ I am totally lost as to that question? Your a human being foremost, your spirit is a giving spirit, or are you seeing yourself as serving, family, your blood who need you, and consider yourself to be in a "servient" role? I hope that you are not thinking like that, but that you recognize that you are, spirit that you are, the person that you are, tending to those, who are unable to fend for themselves. Good on you! Does that make you less than a Dominant, no, it certainly does not. It demonstrates that you are compassionate, it demonstrates, that you have a strong sense of family, and you are a caring individual, and should you have a sub or a slave, or have one at a future point in time, then they are truely lucky to have you.

To my way of thinking, you are lucky to still have your mother, you are lucky to have your son, you are fortunate to have the opportunity to have your pockets lined with a different form of gold. Service to family and loved ones, is not, for the slaves and submissives amongst us. It takes a humble person, to put others needs first before their own. This lifestyle is not about macho men, with macho attitudes and bruised egos, we hope they are in a minority, but people who are caring, sensitive and giving, let's hope they are the majority.

I salute you, and wish you well.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 2:41:19 PM

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I made similar choices...and those of us who get beyond "superficial" things understand. When I decided to "date" again, I always felt that I must immediately "confess" to my situation. I found someone who not only accepts my decisions, but respects me more for them.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 2:47:05 PM

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No, it just makes you less available to an attention slut.

That's what the real issue is, they just don't like to admit it.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 2:56:46 PM

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Dominant or submissive, it doesn't matter in this case. What you are is a responsible and compassionate adult who knows what his priorities are. I concur with the others here who have stated that your actions toward your family indicate that you will someday make a truly excellent dom for some fortunate submissive. So no, living at home with your circumstances does not make you less of a dominant.

I wish you and yours the very best.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 5:50:34 PM

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quote:

Am I less of a dominate male because I live at home?

The consensus appears to be that living at home isn't such a big deal. However, you may make a bad impression by referring to yourself as dominate (verb) instead of dominant (noun or adj), so although folks may not see you as a momma's boy they may see you as ignorant.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 6:16:31 PM

babysburnin

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Don't be mean...I have made many an error in words - and I have a journalism degree...Shall I pull up your posts and take out my corrective red pen?

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 9:17:38 PM

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As someone who is currently living with his mother, I understand your issues quite well. I think the fact that you ARE uncomfortable shows you are not a momma's boy.

There is a vast difference between being unable to live APART from your parents and CHOOSING to do so for very adult reasons.

You have lived on your own most of your adult life, you are earning the money to pay your bills but there will be times you will be looked down on, or at least feel like it in your heart. Don't let it get you down, at least you aren't in my boat and being a student too!

Best of luck!

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 9:29:22 PM

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I am just trying to figure out what his living situation has to do with him being a dominant male.

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RE: Simple and Complex - 7/10/2006 9:54:38 PM

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First of all my condolances on the recent loss of Your father... i am very sorry

And i admire and respect those people in life who, like You, can take responsiblitly for themselves and their loved ones in times of need. i think, from what You say in Your post, You are doing a great job and making the best of things under difficult circumstances...

As for it making You less of a Dominant male? No... i don't think so...

tali

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