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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 8:56:02 AM

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That is important and I know when I have something pop up if I work it into an art journal activity it helps me to make sense of it and get it out of my head and to focus on the process and the healing.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 11:53:46 AM

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Hey op.

When you get that "run" impulse, ask yourself how likely you are to find another genuine dom with the degree of patience your current dom has.

This type of chap is rare indeed.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 4:46:35 PM

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~FRing it~

Id also maybe sit back before letting the impulse overwhelm you and examine the reasons why you feel the need to run. I agree with Crazyml, this dude sounds like a winner

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 4:56:17 PM

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I wish you bunches of luck. When this happens to me, I literally spend months pushing people away from me. It's not something I can consciously control, but I know I do it. I become rather unbearable to be around until I can work through whatever is making me bonky. If you need to talk, or air thoughts, please feel free to message me anytime. I am rather good at listening. :)

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 5:42:42 PM

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Thank you twoholewonder!

The understanding that I'm incredibly lucky here hasn't been lost on me. I've even asked Him how He's remained so patient with me and He just reminds me that He knew my history and understood what He was getting into and knew I needed patience. He has the patience of a saint! While I'm not going to outright ASK Him if He's noticed an improvement over the months, I certainly feel different and hope that it's noticeable, not that I'm perfect, but that I am making improvements and being able to trust Him more.

Thank you for all of the advice!

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/26/2014 7:08:36 PM

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And I have heard from Him and He had a REALLY REALLY good reason for not being more in touch and yes I feel like an ass.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/30/2014 12:13:14 AM

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I wish I had checked in earlier to offer my support with all the others Subtleness. It's been 4 days since your last post.

How is everything? Are you doing better now?

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RE: About to make a run for it - 5/30/2014 3:17:40 PM

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Thank you for your concern. I'm feeing much better than last weekend and feeling no need to run from my relationship. I'm still an ongoing project but I"m making improvement.

Thanks again,

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RE: About to make a run for it - 6/1/2014 8:53:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Something happened 2 days ago and your dom is temporarily unavailable.
And because you have been out of touch (for 2 days) you are thinking of making a run for it?

A) Either this is the type of relationship you want to be in or it isn't.
If it isn't then at least be honest about the reason why you want to end it.

B) If you are basically happy with this relationship, then why are you behaving like patience is a one way street?
He is patient with you and you are unwilling or unable to respond in kind?

OR if the real issue is that he is married, then maybe you need to look at point A again.

From the sounds of it, its an on-line relationship (If it isn't, then disregard the following). These aren't real relationships... in my opinion they consist primarily of just two people using each other to get off. The fact that it only takes her two days of not having her need serviced before she wants to bail seems, to me, to support that.

On-line relationships aren't hard to run from at the drop of a hat... there is no real or tangible investment from either party. There are no mutual bank accounts to deal with, no new home to look for, no children to consider... all you have to do to end it is not click "send".

To the OP... I wouldn't stress over it if it is an on-line relationship. Nothing had, nothing lost.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 6/1/2014 9:44:29 AM

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It's not an online relationship but thanks for trying.

Edited to add: We don't live together and it's a little presumptuous to go far enough to assume that most on this board do since from your post it appears they are the only ones in "real relationships" since they have to deal with finding new housing and make arrangements for "kids", oh I guess most on this site also have kids too, far beyond the presumption that it's an online only relationship.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 6/6/2014 3:47:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtleness

It's not an online relationship but thanks for trying.

Edited to add: We don't live together and it's a little presumptuous to go far enough to assume that most on this board do since from your post it appears they are the only ones in "real relationships" since they have to deal with finding new housing and make arrangements for "kids", oh I guess most on this site also have kids too, far beyond the presumption that it's an online only relationship.

Obviously I didn't presume it was an on-line relationship. That is why I qualified my statements... but it did sound like one the way you described it. Even so I said "if" it is an on-line relationship...

And, I made no presumption about the living arrangements of people on this board, nor about their parental status. If I made a presumption about anything, it was about the value of purely on-line relationships... and I stand by that opinion.

But you said in the OP that you are not boyfriend/girlfriend... so maybe talking about relationships at all is moot.

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RE: About to make a run for it - 6/7/2014 4:55:32 PM

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do what you do , but take responsibility for your decision... is my advice

wish you well

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