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ORIGINAL: MojoDaddyMarine
Has any Doms here ever run into a situation where you had to repair the damage of a sub from a previous Dom? The reason I ask, my sub has communicated to me issues I am gravely concerned about.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

What I learned was to evaluate whether I would want the relationship the way it stands. I learned not to expect change.

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50
Makes me feel like I'm not "qualified" to be an s-type because I don't have a lot of trauma in my past.

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

I'm strongly against the mental health services that are common practice today. I've never seen it do any good, only create dependency on drugs that cause considerable brain damage to "fix" something that was there for a reason. If you don't like how you think, or view the world, change the cause not the effect. Being happy when you are still surrounded by what made you unhappy just leads to farther neuroses. The mind is a powerful thing, in a healthy environment it will work out any discrepancies.

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

I'm strongly against the mental health services that are common practice today. I've never seen it do any good, only create dependency on drugs that cause considerable brain damage to "fix" something that was there for a reason. If you don't like how you think, or view the world, change the cause not the effect. Being happy when you are still surrounded by what made you unhappy just leads to farther neuroses. The mind is a powerful thing, in a healthy environment it will work out any discrepancies.

With all due respect, the above paragraph is ridiculous. If you are looking for a case where mental health treatment has done good, you are reading a post by someone who has benefited from the current mental health system. I have seen mental health treatment do good, even without drugs in some cases. However, more often than not, medication along with talk therapy is more likely to be used as treatment. Some people have had the unfortunate experience of just getting drugs thrown at them and nothing more. The system is not perfect. People that say things like you have said are a lot of the reason our system does not improve. Simply because mental illness is not something that you can see, people do not believe that it exists or that all people who suffer have to do is change their attitude. You cannot wish this disease away anymore than you could wish a brain tumor to go away, or cancer.

My mental illness does not have a specific reason for being there except for a neurochemical imbalance. I can't simply pull it out by the roots and it will be all better. If alleviating my depression and anxiety would be a simple changing of the way I think, I would have done that decades ago. Certainly attitude plays a part, but a terribly small part. And how do you suddenly create a healthy environment where all is sunshine and roses, when people that struggle with mental illness have to do so on a daily basis, and it is terrible and energy depleting? Getting out of bed for some people is a triumph, getting through their day is a different story.

You are free to believe what you like about mental illness, but it does not change the fact that it exists, it is a serious illness, and there is no known cure.

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

I'm strongly against the mental health services that are common practice today. I've never seen it do any good, only create dependency on drugs that cause considerable brain damage to "fix" something that was there for a reason. If you don't like how you think, or view the world, change the cause not the effect. Being happy when you are still surrounded by what made you unhappy just leads to farther neuroses. The mind is a powerful thing, in a healthy environment it will work out any discrepancies.

With all due respect, the above paragraph is ridiculous. If you are looking for a case where mental health treatment has done good, you are reading a post by someone who has benefited from the current mental health system. I have seen mental health treatment do good, even without drugs in some cases. However, more often than not, medication along with talk therapy is more likely to be used as treatment. Some people have had the unfortunate experience of just getting drugs thrown at them and nothing more. The system is not perfect. People that say things like you have said are a lot of the reason our system does not improve. Simply because mental illness is not something that you can see, people do not believe that it exists or that all people who suffer have to do is change their attitude. You cannot wish this disease away anymore than you could wish a brain tumor to go away, or cancer.

My mental illness does not have a specific reason for being there except for a neurochemical imbalance. I can't simply pull it out by the roots and it will be all better. If alleviating my depression and anxiety would be a simple changing of the way I think, I would have done that decades ago. Certainly attitude plays a part, but a terribly small part. And how do you suddenly create a healthy environment where all is sunshine and roses, when people that struggle with mental illness have to do so on a daily basis, and it is terrible and energy depleting? Getting out of bed for some people is a triumph, getting through their day is a different story.

You are free to believe what you like about mental illness, but it does not change the fact that it exists, it is a serious illness, and there is no known cure.

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ORIGINAL: Randicandi456
That's odd... To me ... I was abused and now I'm scared to ever be hit again.mi am honestly horrified