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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/7/2014 2:17:09 PM

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And whatever you do, guys, don't ever ask a woman to "hang out" with you. That is so freaking juvenile.
(You might as well be wearing your baggy pants down to your knees, with your baseball cap in reverse.)

Not as grating as a female who has to squeeze the word 'like' at least fifty times into every sentence. Ten minutes of that and all my ardour turns into a migraine.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/7/2014 6:51:49 PM

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I rarely take advice here on collarme, I mean, collarspace, serious anymore. Too "cliquish" to me and since few people on here don't believe in SSC or even let someone choose to believe in SSC without feeling "less than", I just stay away. But this thread does offer some good advice.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/7/2014 6:56:26 PM

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Not as grating as a female who has to squeeze the word 'like' at least fifty times into every sentence. Ten minutes of that and all my ardour turns into a migraine.

Like man it is like not like really like all that like really like bad ya know like I was just saying like....

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/7/2014 7:43:54 PM

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I was hoping for some ideas to consider as far as taking a Domme out and pleasing her. I realize women have different needs, desires, etc. I also realize dommes often like to make the decisions. However, it seems like it would it be good to be able to invite a domme on a date that seemed exciting. Also, opinions on date behavior would be appreciated.

Without reading any of the responses to your post; I believe I can give you some great advice!

Although a number of Ladies who could (if they desired) vouch that this is the truth, have disappeared with the name change; here is the deal.

Treat a Domme as You would any vanilla date; especially the first ones!

Note plural ..

Its really, that easy!

Myself, i simply ask the Lady to dinner, preferably (to my tastes) a fine Dining establishment. My treat, of course.

Some accept, some prefer a lower key meet, even just coffee; but the point is, you are using the same skills as vanilla dating, to make the date.

When the date happens, you do the same stuff, ask them about themselves (and all the other Dale Carnegie manners your mother taught you).

Works wonders!

You would be surprised to learn, occasionally i even get emails from Ladies who post or even just read the boards; and would enjoy going out to dinner in a strange city.

Its happened, and they enjoy a great evening with a real gentleman.

That is it my friend; just that easy!

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/9/2014 2:56:19 PM

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Thanks to everyone that took the time to respond. A lot to consider, but options are good. Since so many people were generous with their opinion, seems only fair I share my opinion. On a first date with a domme, sub, or vanilla person, don't pay for the meal using a coupon. Lol. A cheap image usually isn't a great first impression. I do have a lot of respect for those that get great deals. In this case your date is where you want to find great value.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/9/2014 4:38:17 PM

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Not as grating as a female who has to squeeze the word 'like' at least fifty times into every sentence. Ten minutes of that and all my ardour turns into a migraine.

Like man it is like not like really like all that like really like bad ya know like I was just saying like....

Shut up before I kill you, Thompson.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/9/2014 4:49:53 PM

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Like man it is like not like really like all that like really like bad ya know like I was just saying like....

Shut up before I kill you, Thompson.

You forget to include all the rest of the "you know's":

You know, like man, you know, it is like, you know, not like really like all that, you know, like really like bad ya know like I was just saying like, you know...

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/9/2014 8:00:38 PM

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I was hoping for some ideas to consider as far as taking a Domme out and pleasing her. I realize women have different needs, desires, etc. I also realize dommes often like to make the decisions. However, it seems like it would it be good to be able to invite a domme on a date that seemed exciting. Also, opinions on date behavior would be appreciated.

Bud.....Dommes are chics.....like all chics.....open their doors, flowers, say nice shit, brush your teeth, buy a suit.....same shit....different chic.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/9/2014 11:53:59 PM

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Shut up before I kill you, Thompson.

Dear Peon, sweetie, dumpling, pumpkin,.. You aren't going to put a hit out on me, too, are you?

(Or were you planning to send thompson out after me and kill two birds with one stone, hm-m?)

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 2:36:36 AM

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A dinghy full of redcoats is already powering its way across the Atlantic as I write, FO.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 2:47:03 AM

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A dinghy full of redcoats is already powering its way across the Atlantic as I write, FO.

Are they male subs?

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 1:51:03 PM

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A dinghy full of redcoats is already powering its way across the Atlantic as I write, FO.

Are they male subs?

He said dingy not a sub.
A dingy is an open row boat.
A sub is a sealed craft for traveling underwater without getting wet. They are boats and while refered to as she they usually carry male names (not to be confused with a gender identity crissis.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 2:02:11 PM

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Are they male subs?

He said dingy not a sub.
A dingy is an open row boat.
A sub is a sealed craft for traveling underwater without getting wet. They are boats and while refered to as she they usually carry male names (not to be confused with a gender identity crissis.

I see, so that would be sub as in sub*smartass*marine. Which is fine, those British submissive males can cross the pond any way they want to.

Btw Peon, do they need detailed directions on how to find my house? You know, just in case their GPS gets wet en route and stops functioning.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 4:06:05 PM

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Thompson and FieryOpal: you are both now being rather silly. Go to your rooms.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 4:41:07 PM

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<snip> On a first date with a domme, sub, or vanilla person, don't pay for the meal using a coupon. Lol. A cheap image usually isn't a great first impression. I do have a lot of respect for those that get great deals. In this case your date is where you want to find great value.

Heh, as a coupon queen, I would probably respect someone resourceful enough to use a coupon, as long as it was at the place of my choosing and he generously tipped the waitstaff for the entire amount.

I also appreciate the guy automatically picking up the check. I may not allow him to pay all or part of it, but he gets big points for trying.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 5:58:51 PM

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<snip> On a first date with a domme, sub, or vanilla person, don't pay for the meal using a coupon. Lol. A cheap image usually isn't a great first impression. I do have a lot of respect for those that get great deals. In this case your date is where you want to find great value.

Heh, as a coupon queen, I would probably respect someone resourceful enough to use a coupon, as long as it was at the place of my choosing and he generously tipped the waitstaff for the entire amount.

I also appreciate the guy automatically picking up the check. I may not allow him to pay all or part of it, but he gets big points for trying.

This is good advice. Although from my perspective, 95 per cent of the time, i am asked to choose the place.

When asked to choose, it is a first class place, my treat; and as urneeds says .. no coupons!

Actually, I never used coupons on any dates ... unless/until I learned She is a coupon clipper ... in my experience though, coupon clippers are an overwhelming minority in the dating world.

Yet I must say, those who insist on splitting the tab do exist ... so one must play it by ear, too.

The best rule of thumb, always cede to the Lady's desires!

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 6:02:26 PM

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Thompson and FieryOpal: you are both now being rather silly. Go to your rooms.

Holy last Orders! What if they go together, to the same room?

Yep, I would have another!

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 6:34:53 PM

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Heh, as a coupon queen, I would probably respect someone resourceful enough to use a coupon, as long as it was at the place of my choosing and he generously tipped the waitstaff for the entire amount.

I also appreciate the guy automatically picking up the check. I may not allow him to pay all or part of it, but he gets big points for trying.

Generally speaking I don't think you would have too much trouble letting someone who had invited you to dinner pay the bill.
Otoh:
I can imagine the cold disdainful look that would eminate from your visage should you have invited him to dinner and he tried to pay.
I could be wrong but it is not likely.

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 6:43:45 PM

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I can imagine the cold disdainful look that would eminate from your visage should you have invited him to dinner and he tried to pay.
I could be wrong but it is not likely.

I would say its HIGHLY UNLIKELY a 62 year old switch was invited to dinner by a Lady in the first place!

So you are giving Zero Advice to the OP on dating ...

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RE: Dating a Domme - 7/10/2014 6:47:52 PM

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On a first date with a domme, sub, or vanilla person, don't pay for the meal using a coupon. Lol. A cheap image usually isn't a great first impression. I do have a lot of respect for those that get great deals. In this case your date is where you want to find great value.

I do not agree. I think that a person who thinks how much I pay for dinner is more important than what I buy for dinner is most likely not someone I want to be around for very long.
When a gentleman goes out with a lady there is a certain amount of the money in his pocket that is hers to spend. If she spends it as if it were her own money he will notice that she is respectful of it. If she spends it like it was his money he will not leave very much in his pocket for her in the future.
I have a penchant for dumps and dives that are hidden culinary gems. There is even a cable t.v. program dedicated to this particular gastronomic kink. So when going on a first date head for one of these and see if she has an ick factor that is not justified or is she as adventurous as you?
I always make it a point to pay with a cupon. It is one of several litmus tests. Just because she is a domme does not automatically make her someone I want to spend any time with...It is kinda nice if they are a fun person who does not walk around with a stick up their ass.(not in a good way)

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