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My First Real Caning - 6/26/2014 12:56:36 PM

urneeds

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What would definitely be too much? Are first canings of more than 100 strokes common? I know I'd want a safeword, I also feel strongly I'd be in tears quickly. However, if it's discipline...........

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RE: My First Real Caning - 6/26/2014 1:13:16 PM

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What would definitely be too much? Are first canings of more than 100 strokes common? I know I'd want a safeword, I also feel strongly I'd be in tears quickly. However, if it's discipline...........

WHAT?!

There are no written rules here but seriously, use your head, and you better have a dominant that is using their head as well. For a first caning? 100 strokes? Well, I guess that would all depend on a lot of things obviously neither of you know about. You are asking because you have no idea how you will react, and if someone is telling you that they are going to give you 100 hits with a cane without knowing what it could do to you... then you better put the brakes on and figure this out.

Look, it doesn't matter if it is discipline or not, you and your dominant will not know until you have tried this. Jumping right in is foolhardy without some way to gauge how you will react to one cane hit, let alone 100. Go slow. Start out with light taps, the dominant should stop and ask how you are doing. If you are OK, then it can increase in intensity stopping periodically to check on you. Once you reach your limit, use the safeword and let him know that it is too much and he can either back down on the firmness of the hitting or he can stop altogether, that is up to you, not him.

Play safely.

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RE: My First Real Caning - 6/26/2014 1:39:12 PM

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Um yeh, what Gauge said.

I can't even give you close to a reasonable answer. Your pain tolerance, your mood on the day, the type of cane, the thickness, the length, the type of swings, the rest time in between, how well warmed up you are, whether it's a type of pain that suits you, whether you are prone to sub space, whether you're in a comfortable position, the part(s) of the body being caned, the dominant's skill, and of course the force all change this. You can play with a light cane while well warmed up and have 100 quick taps with little length of swing or force and it be a breeze. You could take one heavy hit and safeword out.

Go to some demos and watch some public play, see how different it is for everyone and what styles they use.

Discipline or not is irrelevant. In fact, it's a terrible idea to use an untested implement for the first time during a discipline session since emotions are heightened and communication and body language might be hampered, meaning more likely to accidentally go too far. Anyone who wanted to give you a severe caning for the first time as discipline is probably not a safe dominant to play with.

My first was probably 20 strokes, but we are NOT talking a public-school style full arm swing here. We started with a short length for ease of control (which I would definitely recommend if the dominant hasn't had a ton of experience - canes are pretty solid implements, you do not want them to miss their target and do you some damage). It was in a relaxed and playful setting, which helped. I was pleasantly surprised - I am a huge wimp but it turns out that it's a type of pain that suits me so I could handle it pretty well. I think we've gone past a hundred maybe twice? And that was with a degree of gradual warm up and YEARS of playing together - I was confident in his technical skills, he was confident in knowing what I could take and we're both good at communicating.

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