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CreativeDominant -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:39:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

This isn't really a poll, or I'd put it in the Polls and Other Random Stupidity section.
I am simply wondering how many Dominants or Masters and submissives or slaves and Switches out there enjoy (or dislike) this realm of bdsm.

When I speak of begging - I am not talking about whining, annoying requests. 

I am speaking of the soft, sweet pleading for someone to allow someone else to do something, or for someone to stop doing something to someone (discipline, maybe)?

I know some people equate this with humiliation, but that comparison has just never computed for me, especially since I deeply trusted the person I was with when I engaged in this. I always thought of begging as simple, deep power exchange, mostly in verbal terms.

*In case anyone hasn't already guessed, I am a huge fan of this (but am also seeking honest comments about why people love it, hate it, or are indifferent to it. Or, perhaps, have never tried it).

Any comments? Who likes it? (or hates it) and why? Just curious...really.

I wanted to post a new question, and also have been curious about why other people like it, or not. As for me, I can honestly say it makes me feel like I am fully in another's hands, so to speak. That, plus, the person I was with at one time really appreciated it when I did it. But I fantasized about it before that, too.
But I certainly can understand why some might not appreciate it, I really can.

- Susan  

Since you begged...and since I love to hear a submissive beg...and you hit it right when you noted NOT of the whining, annoying variety, I will grant you your request.[;)]

I love to take her to a point where she just 'has' to have something but she knows the only way she 'might' get it is to beg...to make me believe that she really needs 'it', has to have 'it', etc..  I love the cajoling type of begging that Mr. Pete mentioned also; it doesn't always work with me either but God, it is so much fun to see the effort... [;)] .

For me, it is a demonstration of the power exchange...an acknowledgement by the submissive that she 'needs' something that only the dominant can give and a granting/withholding of whatever that something is by the dominant.  And yes, depending on the context, it also plays into the sexual humiliation aspect and that is something I truly enjoy.



yourMissTress -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:46:31 AM)

I love to hear the soft, pleading tone of a sub begging Me for almost anything, but especially mercy.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:48:13 AM)

Thnak you. More and more wondrous fans of begging! Yes!!! She/He is acknowledging she needs something only the Dominant can give (he/she is the only one who can give it, and he/she might wait until the last minute...to grant (or not) a request - it's all just too delicious. How can this be wrong, much less boring?
I ask you.
Yet ... I do realize it's all just a matter of personal taste; I really do. I do.

But -I notice no detractors re: Begging. What - has the collarme world gone mad? (joke) [;)]  I am not one to ever flame detractors of particular kinks - personal taste is personal tatse - hardly a matter for debate.

Any and all replies or coments are welcome!!

- Susan



wild1cfl -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 6:55:22 AM)

Another yes vote for you, I love to hear my slave as she is writhing in her ropes, begging for the release of orgasm as I tease and torture her. Over the last few months I have been working on enlarging her nipples and clitoris by suction and they are all very sensitive. All I have to do is lightly touch them anymore and it gets her excited, then I just sit back and play with them until she is pleading with me to allow her to orgasm.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:01:44 AM)

Thnaks for the comments. Wow, you are the devious one. Sounds fun (really) - hope she is enjoying it! Sounds like you are [;)] [:)]

- Susan



CreativeDominant -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:08:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Thnak you. More and more wondrous fans of begging! Yes!!! She is acknowledging she needs something only the Dominant can give (he is the only one who can give it, and jhe might wait until the last minute...it's all just too delicious. How can this be wrong, much less boring? I ask you.
Yet, I do realize it's all jsut a matter of personal taste; I really do. I do.

But -I notice no detractors. What - has the collarme world gone mad? (joke) [;)]

Any and all replies or coments are welcome.

- Susan

Since there's been no detractors on as of yet...let me note an exchange I had with a submissive once.

Said submissive said she didn't beg.  I entered into a discussion with her as to whether or not she ever asked the dominant for "state-your-desire-here" or "state-another-desire here" and she said that she did.  I asked her whether or not he/she ever turned her down and she asked again.  She said that she did.  I asked her if this occurred several times.  She noted that it did.
When I asked her if she used her voice/body/actions to let the dominant know how much said desire was becoming important, she again noted that she did indeed do so.  Now, here's the kicker.

When I told her that, in my opinion, she then had indeed been begging, she still stated that she had not.  She had "been asking really nicely"...

With further conversation, it came out that she saw begging as something that only weak people did and she did not consider herself to be weak.  She also equated any and all begging with whiny people or with people who didn't have the gumption to go out and get something on their own.  When I explained to her that many consider begging to be instead a show of strength...being strong enough to allow your dominant to see your need for something that you are allowing only them to grant (an affirmation of the power exchange)... she began to do some research of her own.  She still has problems doing it because she still can't get her head around the reasoning I gave her and what she found...tis hard to dislodge long-held feelings...she tells me she does like it sometimes now and does occasionally see where her own actions are just that...begging.

Not saying that her reasoning is behind other's dislike...just one viewpoint from this corner.



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:09:01 AM)

One of my personal detractors of begging is incessant begging. If I've weighed the pros and cons of what your asking for and decided to withhold it from you, to continue to ask for it means that you don't accept my decision on the matter. And if I make a decision and you won't abide by it......... well, lets just say things won't be looking good for a while. Of course, this is a out of scene (r/l) scenario.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:16:49 AM)

Thanks, guys. Yes, I agree that gal (Creative Dominant0 was indeed begging. Some people just can't get themselves to admit that's what it is - it's viewed undignified or something...I feel that - if you're with someone you trust, doing otherwise perhaps unspeakable things, and trust them enough to witness those - then one could believe their dignity to be intact almost no matter what was going on, but like you said - ingrained thinking is long held, and it is a matter of taste also whether it's a preferred "kink".

As for incessant begging - I agree that is annoying. That I classify it as whining.
I've been tempted to do that, but got the distinct impression from the partner I had that would not be appreciated and I didn't want to ruin what we had, so I didn't do that. But I was tempted - begging can be so much fun (to me). Fun might not be the right word. Fulfilling is probably a better word. And apparently many others feel that way, too.   

- Susan   



ownedgirlie -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:39:50 AM)

In my case begging is really only toleratered and actually enjoyed when he has me dangling on that razor sharp edge of needing release, yet does not allow it.    Begging for things or  for allowances is not allowed, nor is begging for mercy when he becomes extreme..  But this.....it amuses him and pleases him.



Lashra -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:40:13 AM)

I like some begging but not a whole lot of it, it tends to get on my nerves after awhile. With that said I do like for him to beg to fuck me after he has been tortured pretty darned good.[:D]

~Lashra
Whipping asses since 1981



tangldupinblue -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:43:32 AM)

for me begging means having his cock slamming into the back of my throat, so enjoyment isnt really my place. but i am also not allowed to beg, Daddy says it degrateing.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:48:48 AM)

Nice to hear some replies from those who look on the other side of the coin. Thank you for the comments.

- Susan



txpet -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 7:55:16 AM)

There are some things that i have no problem begging for and others that i find it very difficult to beg for.
i have no problem with saying "please" repeatedly but sometimes i have a very hard time saying what the action i want to do is.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 8:00:24 AM)

Yes, I haven't really come out and said what that is, come to think of it.
Just - "Please, (wrap my arms around his ankles, and/or hug his back longingly)...please, please...you know how much I would do for you...please,please..."etc. But - not one word about "please" - what. He never made me say it, just stared and smiled a lot for awhile, and then, when he was good and ready, did what I pleaded for him to do.

- Susan



Caretakr -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 8:01:11 AM)

Let me just add this, there's a difference between begging and nagging.



SusanofO -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 8:13:04 AM)

Yes nagging and whining are a big NO- in the cases of we more refined beggars anyway. [:D]

- Susan



stockingluvr54 -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 8:21:10 AM)

mornin all.....  can't really say one way or the other about begging? Never really gave it much thought? I do get a great bit of pleasure for some reason when a woman uses that very obvious girl like charm when she wants something...you know...curl the lip...bat the eyes...tilt the head.....pout,etc.  Not sure if this is related or maybe another thread topic...but when a woman teases me that'll drive me nuts also and could cause me to beg......



LiliesDoGrow -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 8:34:41 AM)

Wow SusanofO! I was about to comment on the negative side of begging, but reading the comments presented on this thread changed my mind on what I percieved as a pretty hard limit. I NEVER EVER beg anything from anyone at anytime for any reason. Always thought it was a form of humiliation.

Then you bring up this subject in such a fun sensual light that I have to say in certain circumstances begging may be fun. Only if I actually get what I'm begging for during an intimate moment. <wink>

Please, oh please, pretty please change my mind!



Flame73 -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 9:20:28 AM)

Begging is a beautiful thing, I love the desperation, the desire, the frantic need put into every single word. I think one of the most powerful moments I've ever experienced was when I had someone who claimed to never beg, plead for something he didn't know he wanted. It's amazing sometimes what sort of things someone is capable of when properly motivated.
From the other perspective, I love being placed in a situation where I have to beg for release. Whether it be from pain, denial, or intense mind-bending pleasure.
In My world...Begging is Good!
 
~S~



Daddysredhead -> RE: How many enjoy begging? (7/12/2006 9:28:37 AM)

Hi, Susan.  Great question...

I actually love begging (sensual begging, not nagging or any of the other negatives aforementioned).  It makes me feel completely at the mercy of the One who owns me.  Daddy does not make me beg, per se, but He will ask me to tell Him things that are on my amourous mind during intimate moments, as my resistence to withholding information is way down at that point.  lol... 

I agree with some other posters here, in that, begging can be on the verge of "gentle humiliation."  Any type of humiliation has been off limits with me even though I am my Master's slave, as He knows that there were issues in my past, and He has respected that. 

So, now I have a question...  are there any suggestions for letting Daddy know that I am much more receptive to this kind of gentle humiliation (and some other types)?  W/we have a very open dialogue, but I get really embarrassed telling Him some things, though He is a sweetheart about it.  I have also written e-mails to Him in the past.  But I am really trying to get over my shyness of telling Him things face-to-face.  *blushes and giggles*  Although, I wonder if He doesn't just get a kick out of this reaction in me...  hmmmmm.........  [sm=meh.gif]

~ Daddyredhead 



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