DarkSteven
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Joined: 5/2/2008 Status: offline
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Well, just a question. Do you seem to get kind of "wild, crazy, insanely angry" for no reason "doms" on here if you email them? (Dom to Dom). I won't give you the persons name on the site (Doesn't matter, and I'm not a snitch). But I emailed him asking to chat with him about being a Dom to get some pointers. Just to see what was going on. I noticed on his profile he had a long essay on his info page about people on collarme (collarspace) being, "Flakes, and fakes and it isn't worth his time to be on here, blah blah blah", but I sent an alright email, some "Hey how are you?, and I'd love to talk, maybe you should sub for me sometimes" jokingly.. I've chatted with several, Dom, sub, and switch, about the lifestyle and to swap ideas. If he had a long, pointless rant that made you have less respect for him, then why ask for pointers? Ask from people you respect. That "maybe you should sub for me sometimes" would have raised flags for me. I do not have a relationship with you, and don't sub. If I could tell it was joking, I would joke back. But I don't see any joking mentioned. He took it the complete other way. I don't even know what way... came at me with some long angry post about us not being on the same "Dom level" and that I don't understand what the "Ancients have done to make him a Dom, and I got mine dominance from being picked on, and he got his from the Ancients of society, that he was born this way" and a whole bunch of "nuts and berries" stuff that I thought made no sense. I told him that "You get more bee's with honey, and if you're having trouble finding subs maybe you should be a sub for someone and hone your skills" ... which as you guessed wasn't quite well received... I mean, Where do some of these doms get this stuff? Ancients, or like this stuff from the middle ages, or this fantasy stuff. I get it's role/play... but I get the vibe this guy truly believes it, Because all his responses back in our debate were about the "Ancients" and how you shouldn't dom other males because of the ancients or something or have sex with them (Which I don't, I try to be a Pro-domme, no sex, but to each his own). I don't know. It just sounded like pure hogwash, I mean, does he sell this to his subs? Do they believe his "divine right to rule" like a king or something? I'm having a very hard time following this. Are you saying that he was Leather or Old Guard, and got pissed because you were not following those protocols? If so, that is NOT role play and he would have been very steamed that you thought so. Protocol is NOT the same thing as role play. BTW, you are physically incapable of being a pro Domme. Sorry, women only. If you are in fact a pro, why doesn't your profile reflect that? Also, we had a debate on Alphas. I just told him (though we argued) that if he truly believes in "Alpha maleness" (which was his premise for him being born, dominant) that he can't forget the main rule of that world. An Alpha male, when he gets old, and isn't the leader of the pack (or while he's leader) will be challenged(probably defeated) by another, younger, stronger, Alpha male. The older male has two choices in that regard, he can either submit, or he can be killed and carted off (kicked out of the world, or decimated) that's the true rules of being an "Alpha" but he didn't want to acknowledge that, in fact he didn't even address the point, just started to kind of go wild and say, "Don't contact me again! ever!" I guess, for as brilliant as he was, or thought he was, logic made him loose out... but I love debating. Where do some people come up with this stuff to just be a dom? Can't it just be, I've always been dominate and like to take control, hence I like BDSM? I mean... geez... (Just my thoughts, I'm probably wrong anyway, to each his own, no hard feelings) Again, if you were talking with someone who followed Leather or Old Guard protocols, your argument based on physical conditioning is inapplicable. Respect is earned over a lifetime. So, let me sum up. You contacted a stranger whose profile you didn't respect, proposed jokingly that he might be subbing to you, and got into an argument with him that you evidently didn't follow. Then you posted here about how silly he was.
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