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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 10/29/2014 1:38:58 PM

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Hyperthyroid can cause or increase and anxiety issue. NORMAL thyroid levels, however will not, so increasing your thyroid medication to bring you to normal levels wouldn't increase your anxiety.

As for the weight gain, if you use benzos as needed for your anxiety, there will be no weight gain.

Thyroid medication is NEVER used to alleviate weight gain that isn't associated with hypothyroidism. Any doctor who would increase a dose so you can lose weight should lose their license.

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 10/29/2014 5:25:05 PM

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Except in a minority of patients for whom an increase in thyroid meds will cause worsening of an existing anxiety disorder. It took over three months last time he raised it before the anxiety subsided. If I don't absolutely have to do this again, I won't.

I don't like the benzos because of the side effect of euphoria. I don't like SSRIs because they interfere with both my libido and my ability to orgasm. If I had to treat it, I'd try the lowest possible dosage of Seroquel. However the side effect of the atypical antipsychotics, besides sleeping round the clock, is increased appetite and weight gain.

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 10/30/2014 8:10:37 AM

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Everyone responds to meds in their own way. For many people it may work, others have too many side effects, or they don't work at all. One of my Parkinson's meds caused dry mouth and blurred vision--my neuro told me it doesn't do that---I quit taking it and the side effects went away---so I understand your dilemma!

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/15/2014 10:41:40 PM

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I guess, it depends upon how we're defining mental "instability".

I define it as a lady that can go from "sweet" to "megacunt" in under a minute (depending upon the catalyst).

Ohhhh, DS... there's almost always a man in that "in under a minute" scenario. LOL

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/15/2014 10:48:44 PM

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Hey DesFIP

Ever looked into binural beats?

http://www.reddit.com/r/skeptic/comments/16tqe7/what_is_the_consensus_on_binaural_beats/

I used brain entrainment with great success. That link is to a study, but I use Holosync and Paraliminals. BTW, the Holosync has made dramatic and positive changes for people I know personally, who struggle with Bi-Polar issues.

https://www.centerpointe.com/holosync/

I think people should try this ^^^ before introducing chemicals to their bodies and specifically, turning their brains into chemical soup!

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/15/2014 11:06:51 PM

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In my opinion mental instability (as opposed to mental illness) is a “thing”, neither better or worse than, say, coronary artery disease or diabetes. We forget that the brain is a physical part of our physical body.

I have limits because of my 'syndrome'. Is that any different, is that any less acceptable, than someone who has emotional limits? Why or why not?

Traditionally, the less educated among us hold to fears, superstitions and myths. It wasn't too long ago that epileptics were thought to be possessed by demons! So, the current day cultures still seem to hold onto stigmatizing beliefs when it comes to mental illness. This is changing, in part, because the internet offers access to information that was not accessible to previous generations. For now, there is still a stigma which needs to be confronted with facts.

Acceptable is a relative term. For some it is: for some it isn't.

My preferences in a partner lean towards healthy physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, financially, socially, etc... and I'm unapologetic about having them. Which is kind of ironic, because I can only think of brief moments in my own life when every single one of those areas, were all healthy at the same time! And, I've had many partners, none of whom could promise or maintain that kind of perfection, either. LOL

Having said that, bottom line for me is that when I fall in love, I don't control it. Whatever they grapple with, is mine to share, easy and hard alike.

I think that since perfection isn't possible, it's best to know our own limitations and choose our relationships accordingly. It serves no one for a person who is limited by thinking mental illness is a stigma, to try to love someone who suffers from a mental illness, before they heal that limited thinking in themselves.

Unhealthy people are lovable, IMO.

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/15/2014 11:16:37 PM

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I think the issue with mentally unstable is that, not alot of people are trained to deal with it. That's why it's negative, because many aren't educated about how to handle mentally unstable people and could screw up with them.

We had an incident in the military, where a man had a history of biopolar depression, was downgraded to deskbound job, due to his condition. But it's the military, even deskbound job is quite rough, and punishment for not following instructions still involves being remanded in detention barracks.

So this poor dude, was tardy, late, and untidy in his uniform, and basically, was having trouble keeping to the rules. And keeps getting yelled at and punished, like any normal person would have been.

The problem is, because his mentally unstable, he eventually committed suicide at work.

I don't believe you can treat mentally unstable people just like anybody else, as they don't have the same stress level threshold.

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/15/2014 11:37:31 PM

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I think the issue with mentality unstable is that, not alot of people are trained to deal with it. That's why it's negative, because many aren't educated about how to handle mentality unstable people and could screw up with them.

I don't believe you can treat mentally unstable people just like anybody else, as they don't have the same stress level threshold.

Good points.

It's important to become educated about any medical conditions of those around us. Feeding a diabetic the wrong substances can wreak havoc, too, and may cause death and not all diabetics are the same. So, while I agree that adjustments or considerations can and should be made, I want to emphasize the unique nature of each person and their illness.

I agree that sometimes, a mental health issue contains an element of weakness in response to stress, but not always. Often, those who are "mentally ill" have impressive strengths as a part of their emotional make-up.
Like anyone who deals with an illness, their struggle may offer opportunities to develop empathy, insight and understanding, which others never reach.

Personally, I prefer variety to routine, flexibility to structure and creativity to recorded knowledge, so unstable people are my favorites! :)

But, not if the instability is connected to honesty or to loyalty. I need those to be constant. If someone changes because of a depression, I do not judge their character because say... social anxiety makes them unable to keep their word to attend a function. That's like saying, I can't come because my arm is bleeding all over the place and it's not a reflection of willful unreliability.

I have told depressed friends that I can see they are unable to keep their word and until that changes, they really should stop giving it. It's a pragmatic communication, much the same as saying to someone with a broken leg, perhaps you shouldn't plan to jog anytime soon.

So, for me, the term "unstable" needs to be applied more specifically to comment directly. Generally, I can find benefits in loving unstable people, whereas, I can't think of any when it comes to dishonest, irresponsible or selfish types.

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RE: You say 'mentally unstable' like its a bad thing... - 11/16/2014 1:41:24 PM

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That's why it's negative, because many aren't educated about how to handle mentally unstable people and could screw up with them.

I don't think that's why it's typically seen as a negative, I think mental instability is typically seen as a negative because it typically is a negative.

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