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FieryOpal -> RE: Why are many mistresses in such an aggressive hurry to meet? (10/29/2014 2:12:34 PM)
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[Brackets mine] There OP, fixed it for ya.
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
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ORIGINAL: MzArianaPA
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ORIGINAL: ItalianStallion
Because real subs [who want to get locked into chastity cages] have to be very careful [in finding a total stranger to take an interest in the condition that we want them to keep our dicks in, out of the goodness of her heart and because she has nothing better to do with her time than to find entertainment value in controlling and monitoring random men's genitalia]. There is a plethora of fake dom[m]es that want to use their position to exploit us in a bad way [because none of them want to cater to us as FREE fetish & kink delivery systems--egads, the nerve of these heartless Dominant women].
Do you REALLY think you can get to know someone online? Wouldn't you be far better off meeting them in person after a reasonably short period of time to continue to get to know them?
Meet for coffee, go out to dinner, hang out at the zoo for an afternoon, go on a hike. Talk. See how each other lives. Head out to a munch together.
It's just dating, nothing more, nothing less. You have nothing to fear from dating as long as you are a balanced, reasonable person. Being submissive doesn't make you suddenly more vulnerable and less able to exhibit good judgement than a "non sub" male.
I prefer to meet fairly quickly if I'm interested in someone - not so I can rush the relationship along, but because the ability to get to know someone online is limited at best. You can exchange some basic info and if that seems to mesh, meet so you can see if you <gasp> actually like the person, in addition to finding out if they are who they say they are. "Getting to know you" works so much better face to face than it does across a screen....and no, it doesn't involve play.
In all honesty, in my experience....I've heard this kind of line of thinking from so many men online. They are not ready to move forward with all of this real time. I've talked to so many of that kind of "sub" online - they love the idea of it, but they will probably never turn off their computer and meet someone. Too many "it's all too fasts" and "what if....." running through their heads that kills any chance of them actually meeting someone and developing a real time relationship.
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Right...if you expect to stay behind your computer for the rest of your life, you should expect to be exploited, to run into catfish, to never find what you are seeking.... But honestly I feel none of these subs want to take it offline. They just want to self victimize, whine and lament online and get sympathy while wanting their fantasies catered to virtually for free.
People have different dating styles, and for some, it is imperative to meet within a short period of time. I completely understand that; after all, what's the point if there is no in-person chemistry and rapport?
But in all fairness, I've never had a man stand me up or chicken out at the last minute, whether vanilla or sub, whenever I was dating. I wouldn't be too happy about that, not one bit. This may be in part because I so rarely agree to meet with anybody new! If I did, I'm sure I'd have run into a few flakes by now. (They've usually eliminated themselves from the running before we ever reach the meeting stage [:-], which has been as soon as 2 weeks, but averages locally about a month, up to 2-3 months if not local to me.)
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