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Saturday, April 11, 2015 · 8:00 PM –12:00 AM
Location: TBD
TBD @ map
Cost: Online Prepurchase required. Ticket sales available 03/2015
Dress code: Based on Theme.
Description: Clothed Female Top and nude male bottom party.
Placeholder until March 2015.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

Just reading about this brings back fond memories

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For most others, including myself, the fact that CFNM involves an inequity and, if you will, an “unfairness” in that the men must be nude while the women are not. And this setting is because of the women wanting it so. This is the defining characteristic that makes CFNM different and unique. The male’s nudity places him in a position of being objectified and exploited by women subject to their whims and desires. It carries with it control and empowerment of women. It is a reversal of the traditional exploitation of nudity, and thus fits well with feminist views.

When outside the context of sex in the bedroom, mandated nudity often places one in a vulnerable and exposed state. This is why prisoners are often stripped naked - to humiliate them and break their will. The original concept of “naked” as first described in Genesis of Adam and Eve occurred right after their transgression, and was used to show vulnerability. In any confrontation, vulnerability defines a position of inferiority against superiority. Hence, the mandated CFNM rules of our parties establish a priori, female power, control and superiority.

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ORIGINAL: crumpets

Thanks Steven for looking up the next event on that FetLife web site.

I created a FetLife account in order to view the two suggestions which turned out to be a placeholder for the March 2015 event, which, given it's almost a half year away, doesn't even say where it will be held (whether in San Francisco or San Jose).

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Saturday, April 11, 2015 · 8:00 PM –12:00 AM
Location: TBD
TBD @ map
Cost: Online Prepurchase required. Ticket sales available 03/2015
Dress code: Based on Theme.
Description: Clothed Female Top and nude male bottom party.
Placeholder until March 2015.

By looking at the events people are going to, I lurked on someone who said they'd attend, to find their other events.

So, it looks like some kind of 'party' is being held this week, on this Friday, November 07, 2014 at something called the South Bay Spot, in San Jose, which I wasn't aware of. It's open to registered members and their guests, so, I probably have to sit this one out, until I figure out how to be a member or even what it is.

Looking further at DS' links, I found there is a specific group for the bay area called CFnm Bay Area, which, I also had never heard of, but which might be exciting if it accepts submissive men.

I'll keep searching, as all of this is new to me, but that's why I had asked what others, who have been to the parties, felt about them.
BTW, were all the men gorgeous Mr. Universe models? Or are some of them frumpy older men, like I am?

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but, other than the party next March that Steven found, there's nothing there about future Ladies' Tea Parties.

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

Yes. It was just your plain jane tea party, but the men were naked. It wasn't really all that interesting, but I did enjoy the socialization.

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A teaserver is there to make the afternoon as carefree and pleasant for the ladies as possible. You need to realize that this is a TEA party. The ladies will drink tea and eat sandwiches and discuss things. They are NOT going to play with you. You are ONLY there to serve.

A teaserver sets up and serves tea, cleans up after the party, and departs quietly. Serving attire consists of a neatly cleaned and cared for birthday suit and a black bow tie. The server may speak only to the serving mistress or to the hostess unless answering a direct question, or if necessary to ascertain the wishes of a lady he is serving.

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ORIGINAL: crumpets

Thanks Steven for looking up the next event on that FetLife web site.

I created a FetLife account in order to view the two suggestions which turned out to be a placeholder for the March 2015 event, which, given it's almost a half year away, doesn't even say where it will be held (whether in San Francisco or San Jose).

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Saturday, April 11, 2015 · 8:00 PM –12:00 AM
Location: TBD
TBD @ map
Cost: Online Prepurchase required. Ticket sales available 03/2015
Dress code: Based on Theme.
Description: Clothed Female Top and nude male bottom party.
Placeholder until March 2015.

By looking at the events people are going to, I lurked on someone who said they'd attend, to find their other events.

So, it looks like some kind of 'party' is being held this week, on this Friday, November 07, 2014 at something called the South Bay Spot, in San Jose, which I wasn't aware of. It's open to registered members and their guests, so, I probably have to sit this one out, until I figure out how to be a member or even what it is.

Looking further at DS' links, I found there is a specific group for the bay area called CFnm Bay Area, which, I also had never heard of, but which might be exciting if it accepts submissive men.

I'll keep searching, as all of this is new to me, but that's why I had asked what others, who have been to the parties, felt about them.
BTW, were all the men gorgeous Mr. Universe models? Or are some of them frumpy older men, like I am?

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ORIGINAL: crumpets

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So, I guess, I'm asking now THREE questions in one........

1. Have you any experience to relate with respect to CFnm dynamics with the "Ladies Tea & Discussion Society" parties?

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
Yes, I used to attend many year ago.

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
All serving was naked and on the sub's knees, and while some of the subs were yummy in and of themselves, most were obviously not selected for any physical attribute.

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
Any sub who wanted to serve had to complete a training that was only offered twice a year. The subs earlier prepared all the food that accompanied the tea as well. It was not even close to a play party. It was very formal, no touching, no play at all. I enjoyed it mostly as a very low key way to hang out with like-minded women.

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
If you're looking for Bay Area events you should check out the Society of Janus calendar: http://soj.org/calendar/

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
The subs did have the opportunity to offer a private foot massage to the Domme/s of his choice

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As there will be foot massages and hand massages later in the festivities, you may remove your shoes at any point you wish, but please be conscious of any foot odor that may interfere with the dining pleasure of the other guests. Once you have had your foot bath and massage, if you choose to leave your shoes off, that is perfectly acceptable.

If you do not wish to be touched by a particular male who offers you a foot massage, you should say, "Not right now, please, perhaps in a short time?" This is a graceful way to let the servers know you would prefer a different server. If it is a mixed server tea, and you would prefer to have a server of the gender other than the one who has asked you, you may say, "I'd prefer to have Miss X attend me, if she would not mind." Said with a smile, this will not be offensive. Please don't say, "I don't want a XXX man touching me!" (This happened once, and it upset the male server who was on the receiving end of the exchange.) If you wish, you can take your hostess or the training Mistress aside early in party and tell her that you are not comfortable with men touching you, and she will be happy to pass that knowledge on to the servers.

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ORIGINAL: crumpets

It doesn't say this for sure, but the description in the Ladies Tea Party site implies that the women signal their desire to be offered a hand or foot massage simply by taking off their shoes ...

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ORIGINAL: crumpets

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

Yes. It was just your plain jane tea party, but the men were naked. It wasn't really all that interesting, but I did enjoy the socialization.

It's supposed to be, I think, based on what I read, the opposite power dynamic than is normal.
The women are supposed to enjoy that (as do the volunteers).
Is it not a power dynamic thrill for you?

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A teaserver is there to make the afternoon as carefree and pleasant for the ladies as possible. You need to realize that this is a TEA party. The ladies will drink tea and eat sandwiches and discuss things. They are NOT going to play with you. You are ONLY there to serve.

A teaserver sets up and serves tea, cleans up after the party, and departs quietly. Serving attire consists of a neatly cleaned and cared for birthday suit and a black bow tie. The server may speak only to the serving mistress or to the hostess unless answering a direct question, or if necessary to ascertain the wishes of a lady he is serving.

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart
No. It was nice to be waited on, but they were not thrilling.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
Indian head massage
Henna artist.
Japanese tea ceremony (my favourite)

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
These parties are looking for honest reliable men and not hunks.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
BTW...the party I was talking about is in the UK and not one of the ones on your link.

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ORIGINAL: crum

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart
No. It was nice to be waited on, but they were not thrilling.

That seems to be the general consensus.

I guess, the huge difference between the sexes, is why a bunch of naked servants isn't as interesting to the womenfolk, as to the men.

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart
Yes . I just do not find nudity in it self arousing , thrilling, interesting or of interest .

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The male's nudity places him in a position of being objectified and exploited by women subject to their whims and desires. It carries with it control and empowerment of women. It is a reversal of the traditional exploitation of nudity, and thus fits well with feminist views. When outside the context of sex in the bedroom, mandated nudity often places one in a vulnerable and exposed state. This is why prisoners are often stripped naked - to humiliate them and break their will. The original concept of “naked” as first described in Genesis of Adam and Eve occurred right after their transgression, and was used to show vulnerability. In any confrontation, vulnerability defines a position of inferiority against superiority. Hence, the mandated CFNM rules of our parties establish a priori, female power, control and superiority.