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Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:23:49 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I was curious if any other submissives have little "projects" that their dominant people have assigned for them to better their minds in some way to be more pleasing. Like do any of you have specific books to read, music to familiarize yourself with, or movies that you are told to watch so your dominant can talk to you about it, show you things they think about life? I have had movies he wanted me to see in the past for example (there are still some I haven't seen, but he has them on DVD so I am going to wait until I am at his home again).

Right now I am reading Confessions of an Economic Hitman, and I am going to be reading All Quiet on the Western Front (Which I am kinda embarassed I haven't read as of yet, but it was never assigned at my high school). I was wondering if others could share their experiences with improving their minds for their doms. I  would be very interested to hear what you have had to do.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:41:00 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		While I am not in a relationship..I feel that anyone always should strive to improve themselves.Growth of yourself is what creates a more diverse,interesting,well informed person. No matter at what point in life you are,learning is just generally part and parcel of the human condition..good thread...Tempting

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:43:55 PM   
bandit25


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Well, I haven't been told to do any project, but I have tried to gather information about His line of work so when He talks about it, I can follow with some intelligence.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:44:50 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I absolutely agree and it is a big turn on for Him to take an interest in my mind.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:52:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was curious if any other submissives have little "projects" that their dominant people have assigned for them to better their minds in some way to be more pleasing. Like do any of you have specific books to read, music to familiarize yourself with, or movies that you are told to watch so your dominant can talk to you about it, show you things they think about life?


When I was brand-new to the lifestyle, I met a wonderful Dom online.  He had more experience than I but was also fairly new and suggested that we both get copies of Gloria Brame's "Come Hither" to discuss together.  It took us over a month to get through it all and the conversations that came from that experience gave me a wonderful foundation. I'm grateful to him for the suggestion and the effort to go through it with me.

Currently, E shares things with me that he feels I might like or are particularly interesting, but doesn't do it in an effort to "improve" me.  We bring to each other things that we think might be enjoyed by the other and he tells me that he learns from me as well -- a thought I find flattering.  I would be happy to read/watch/listen to something if he thought it would broaden my horizons, but it's never put in terms of "improving" me.  It's more of a "I like this and thought you might too."

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 8:53:19 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		He sent me back to school, which is currently underway.  He also sent me to New York for a week, complete with a long list of everything I was to see and experience while there.  I am also assigned a lot of essay and story writing, on various topics - at least two a week.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 9:17:35 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: bandit25


Well, I haven't been told to do any project, but I have tried to gather information about His line of work so when He talks about it, I can follow with some intelligence.


I have always done that for even vanilla men that I was interested in...I guess I have always been this way?

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 9:17:37 PM   
lilsubl


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Status: offline 		Master is a Christian & i have little knowledge of the Bible, so when W/we began a discussion of His beliefs one day, i realized that i couldn't hold up my side of the discussion...He recommended a version of the Bible for me to read, which has 4 different translations side by side...He enjoys my mind & loves having discussions with me, so i need to learn as much as i can on any topic He may wish to discuss in order to be more pleasing to Him...He often says, "W/we are who W/we are, the goal is to improve"...& so i constantly try to improve my mind, my body & my spirit for His pleasure...He doesn't assign anything, per se, but will give me ideas when i ask....
 
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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 9:20:17 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Wow, I have to write essays for the movies that are more than fluff and essays about books... I know I am weird, but I really enjoy it, and he knows it...

Im going to go lay down and read before it gets too late...Ha Ha

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 9:43:05 PM   
Taylore


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Status: offline 		Since Master knows that I do not watch television, nor do I like to watch movies, he has never required that I watch a particular show. In regards to books, I am an avid reader who will read anything that I can lay my hands on; from romance to true crime fiction, to auto-biographies, etc. Master has never required that I read anything specific.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 10:01:55 PM   
babysburnin


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Status: offline 		My Dom and I are both "smart" (but in such opposite ways).  I just purchased  "Secretary" because HE wants us to watch together...   Honestly... We challenge each other all the time ... He does not need to assign me tasks to improve my mind...tasks to improve my submission, oh sure.  I guess I'm lucky...we both have open minds.  I wouldn't mind at all if HE had something important to HIM that HE wanted me to read or watch...as long as HE was open to my thoughts.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/12/2006 10:37:19 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		The whole point is to find out my thoughts...smiles... otherwise he would not tell me to watch it or read it or listen to it.. it wouldn't be necessary because he would just tell me what to think about it.

Im intellectually driven as is he, he reads a lot of the same type of literature that I do already, he knows I will enjoy his selections, and I like the feeling of complying with his wishes... it is a fun thing. My mind will hopefully be improving until I die, and I definitely want to share that process with someone important to me.. it is definitely stimulating!

I guess it is like being told to wear a certain garment, or call at a certain time.. it is an exercise that makes me think about him....it is just another method of control basically.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 1:15:03 AM   
babysburnin


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Status: offline 		Julia... I respect you.  I could go on...but I choose not to (hehe).

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 2:01:22 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		 Shared interest in continuous education is very appealing for me.  i've been set on greek word studies, bio-hazard research, the history of and modern industry of leather making, and movies, new and old that illustrate lifestyle precepts or regular life stuff.

He has a penchant for using certain shows and movies as lessons.. and once as a punishment.  (punishment that fits the crime this well is actually a lesson!)

After a tone in my voice during an..  erm..  "wrongly balanced discussion", i was directed to get the Star Trek IV movie (the one with the whales)   There is a spot where the whale researcher-lady says to Kirk something like, "Who ARE You people?  He calls you "Sir" without actually saying it."

i was told to watch that movie over and over one weekend, paying attention to Spocks word choices, tone, and inflections, until i could carry a conversation that  conferred respect with just my tone of voice.   As lame as the idea of using Star trek, of all things, as a training tool, it was one of the best lessons i ever learned.  Course, for a while,  my ears felt pointy, and i had this urge to tap my communicator before speaking...

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 6:06:47 AM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		Nobody ever asked me to read particular books, but I love to read and would do it if they asked me to do it. I read a lot of websites, too. I guess my former (and only) Dominant did ask me to read a few bdsm websites - and I enjoyed them a lot.

- Susan

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 6:16:59 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Master has never asked me to read anything in particular or write essays and even though he has 2 Masters (lol) degrees i can hold my own in a conversation with him.  I am also in college so i have to write a lot as it is and read textbooks.  I also love to read for pleasure.  Yesterday Master and i were talking about the De Sade guy and Master is going to bring me one of his books to read.  Can't wait i hear it is interesting reading.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 8:35:54 AM   
Amanece


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Status: offline 		I love the idea, and it is very well put. After many years involved with others in Ds relationships I find that all come with a self serve interest. I think this is very human. So I try as part of my training to go to the real core of what we are both wanting, as a Domme and sub to be able to move the thinking to our relationshiip of Mistress/sub. Reading is an excellent tool. The Sleeping Beauty Series is excellent as is Laura Antoniou's series, especially the last two books. I have allready marked passages that are important to me, I make my sub read the whole book and also mark episodes, phrases, actions in the book and then we exchange notes making sure he/she understand the ones I chose. Of course webs, pictures and drawings also help. Antoniou's idea of studying is very well explained ih her books.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 9:03:02 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		Hello julia,

No, I haven't been asked to do anything like that but I'm a very different creature to my Master. I lose myself in my mind world, and he has his.

We are poles apart in nature, personality and behaviour. There is always so much to talk about and discuss, even after years of knowing each other.

I suppose that the freedom of being me and exploring life and the world in my own way is so different to the way he does, that it's a spark in itself.

Regards, agirl






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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 9:44:12 AM   
TxBadMan


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I was curious if any other submissives have little "projects" that their dominant people have assigned for them to better their minds in some way to be more pleasing

I found my girl pleasing from the first day I met her, and she has continued to be so without me having to tell her how to do it. Personally, I find the idea of telling her to read a certain book, or watch a certain movie, just so she could be  more pleasing; to be quite an insult. But that is just my own personal view on it.

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RE: Improving One's Mind for Their Dominant - 7/13/2006 9:53:07 AM   
sapphirepleasure


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Status: offline 		My dom has provided me with great M/s reading material to aid in my training.  I've read the entire Antoniou Marketplace series, Jack Rinella's 'The Compleat Slave' and am now in the midst of Guy Baldwin's book on slavery (the name escapes me).  At one point I was under consideration by a Gorean Master who had me read the first four Gor books, but when that didn't work out, I didn't read any further.

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