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Online rejection response - 11/22/2014 6:57:08 PM   
Missokyst


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http://www.upworthy.com/have-you-seen-this-instagram-account-it-makes-me-totally-embarrassed-to-be-a-man?c=ufb1

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/22/2014 7:19:24 PM   
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RE: Online rejection response - 11/22/2014 7:51:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

This is cool,
http://www.upworthy.com/have-you-seen-this-instagram-account-it-makes-me-totally-embarrassed-to-be-a-man?c=ufb1

Damn, those men are ruder than the ones on this site who think that women should be thrilled for the opportunity to be their instant fetish & kink delivery system.

Those hostile-upon-rejection dudes are worse than what I've ever experienced. I must get the more refined douchebags.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/22/2014 10:24:34 PM   
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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 6:10:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Meh. That's nothing. I've had worse. And most of them were on vanilla dating sites.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 7:29:02 AM   
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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 9:18:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		What's also scary is....if you ever read any of the online comments on some Yahoo and/or CNN news stories.....wow...some of the comments from the men are a direct throwback to 100 years ago...."barefoot, pregnant, behind a stove and with a black eye"

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 9:23:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

What's also scary is....if you ever read any of the online comments on some Yahoo and/or CNN news stories.....wow...some of the comments from the men are a direct throwback to 100 years ago...."barefoot, pregnant, behind a stove and with a black eye"


It's not just the men. I was called a racist pig by some rocket surgeons because I said "I call a spade a spade".

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 9:56:21 AM   
DeviantlyD


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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 10:12:02 AM   
Missokyst


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Early last year I got some interesting ones from a vanilla site.  One guy, an engineer, was persistent about getting a chat going and after some thought I agreed, he seemed intelligent and rational.  From there it became weird.  He would freak out if I was not online at times it was convenient. The first time I let it fly thinking I may have misunderstood.  We chatted for a bit about his job and mine and I logged out when it was time for me to hit the sheets.  After about a 100 messages hit my inbox within 24 hrs, each a short few sentences going from sweet to insane I had to block his name. 
BTW... I mentioned that he was an engineer because during that month every man who contacted me was an engineer, there had to be 20 of them.  What's with that?

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 10:21:08 AM   
smileforme50


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

Perhaps you should have said you call a shovel a shovel. :P


I like that1

I guess that's also better than calling a hoe a hoe.....

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 11:47:27 AM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		When guys on dating sites bitch about how women never respond, this shit is why.

When I was still looking I'd get the itch every now and then to be "nice" and turn down guys gently. 0% of the guys took it well. Either they'd get hostile or start begging me to reconsider.

I recall one who demanded I come over that night for sex, and do a 180 to insult me when I told him no. Apparently I'm a fat ugly fuck and carry myself like trash.

But yes, the worst messages I got were from OKCupid. Fetlife and Collarme lent themselves well to wannabe abusive "Doms," but they were still more grounded in fantasy. The vanilla guys on OKC were 100% serious.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 1:54:12 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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If anyone demands your phone number, you (generic you) can give them the rejection phone number. They get a recording if they call it saying it's a non-working number. Don't know where I found it. 727-214-0568.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 3:25:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

Fr

If anyone demands your phone number, you (generic you) can give them the rejection phone number. They get a recording if they call it saying it's a non-working number. Don't know where I found it. 727-214-0568.


It reminds me of a recent New Yorker cartoon with a blonde in a club saying to a guy pushing buttons on his phone, "And let me give you a fake email address, too, just to drive home the point."

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 4:02:15 PM   
RockaRolla


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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 8:35:24 PM   
smileforme50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

When guys on dating sites bitch about how women never respond, this shit is why.

When I was still looking I'd get the itch every now and then to be "nice" and turn down guys gently. 0% of the guys took it well. Either they'd get hostile or start begging me to reconsider.

I recall one who demanded I come over that night for sex, and do a 180 to insult me when I told him no. Apparently I'm a fat ugly fuck and carry myself like trash.

But yes, the worst messages I got were from OKCupid. Fetlife and Collarme lent themselves well to wannabe abusive "Doms," but they were still more grounded in fantasy. The vanilla guys on OKC were 100% serious.


Damn right about this....I even put a entry on my CS journal about this last year:

quote:

One thing I read very often in people's journals (Hint: I read primarily journals of male Dominants) ...is a frustration with not getting any response to an introductory message. A lot of Dominants have said that they wish that submissives would send them something....even if it is "No thanks".

Well....from the viewpoint of a submissive.....I agree with this. I can understand why they feel this way. You don't want to be left wondering. It's nice to know exactly where you stand.

But.....another thing I have noticed very often is that when I send a message of "Not interested", the matter isn't simply dropped. I get a response of "Why not?" They insist on a specific reason.

My guess would be that this is the primary reason most submissives don't respond at all to someone they aren't interested.

If you would really rather have a response of "no thanks, not interested" instead of just being ignored (which is understandable)....I would hope that people would follow their own words and actually be satisfied with a simple "No thanks, not interested".


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“Give it to me!” she yelled
“I’m so fucking wet! Give it to me now!”

She could scream all she wanted…..I was keeping the umbrella.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 8:48:24 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

When guys on dating sites bitch about how women never respond, this shit is why.

When I was still looking I'd get the itch every now and then to be "nice" and turn down guys gently. 0% of the guys took it well. Either they'd get hostile or start begging me to reconsider.

I recall one who demanded I come over that night for sex, and do a 180 to insult me when I told him no. Apparently I'm a fat ugly fuck and carry myself like trash.

But yes, the worst messages I got were from OKCupid. Fetlife and Collarme lent themselves well to wannabe abusive "Doms," but they were still more grounded in fantasy. The vanilla guys on OKC were 100% serious.


I agree. I got the nastiest morons at OKC, I mean total psychos.

Never had anything bad happen at FL and at Collarme had a few.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 8:51:06 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		This is a really good article: http://jezebel.com/man-poses-as-woman-on-online-dating-site-barely-lasts-1500707724

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/23/2014 9:39:18 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		I've had worse on vanilla dating sites as well. And when I simply don't respond to messages I sometimes get hostile messages along the lines of, "You're a bitch for not even saying no thank you." The reason I don't is because I get nasty messages like in the OP when responding with a polite no thank you.

Sometimes you just can't win lol.

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RE: Online rejection response - 11/24/2014 7:08:01 AM   
littleladybug


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

Sometimes you just can't win lol.


I had one here a while back. Forget the gist of the screenname, but it was something that I really was not interested in. I proceeded to ignore the mail, and then got a follow-up telling me that it was "proper manners" to give a response. I responded with "I thought a *no response* was a response". That was the last I heard.

I have tried the "nice" approach. I ended up with someone who wouldn't leave me alone for months.

At this point, I figure that if ignoring an e-mail is the worst thing I do to a stranger on the internet, I can live with it.

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