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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 7:35:15 AM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		OK, you obviously have no clue what BDSM is about and/or just want attention.  My Dom loves me and takes care of me, he does not abuse me!  Go back to your vanilla world and leave us out of your attention wanting tantrums.

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 8:19:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		But hon, you list humiliation and role play as things that you desire in your profile. Why are you complaining that you are being offered what you asked for?

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 8:30:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme

I just dont understand it, I am an attractive  perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense .  yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was  a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume ,  that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek  extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe


Hello Joe,

Well, I get beaten but have never once been abused or treated badly in any form by my Master.

I rather think you might be missing the fact that while it may be a *quirky* way of existing or relating, for the most part, those that choose it, find it a positive thing.

It's likely that some people's motivations are based in what you mentioned but I wouldn't say that it was the driving force for the majority.

Regards, agirl

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 1:02:31 PM   
sophia37


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Status: offline 		Say joe, looks like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Sound right to you too?

Sorry you're attached to some bimbo. I can see how that would be annoying.

Time to find a new girl? I sure hope her name's not on the deed as well as yours. That's gonna make it a tad harder.

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 1:04:02 PM   
SweetPosession


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Status: offline 		Did it ever occur to you that you might be vanilla, or have a fetish undiscovered that does not involve power play? Nothing in the world works for everyone. Some people like a power exchange. Some people don't. There isn't anything wrong with you and more than there's something wrong with those of us who do enjoy giving or receiving sensation or power.

Good luck finding your niche!

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 1:12:40 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		i think you are kinky luv, ...power exchange is an orrientaion, sometimes it comes with being kinky and sometimes it does not.
 
find a person you resonate with, not a role, and you will find that there is many more shades of grey then the balck and white you are now seeing.
 
i wish you luck.
 

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 3:29:23 PM   
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Don't give it a second thought, just leave the worries about how to best handle the girls to me, and you go on home and get a nice TV dinner and watch the Lifetime Network some more.


LMAO

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 3:44:41 PM   
enigmabrat


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whats wrong with you is your an idiot and if you feel that way you dont belong here
what kinda stupid schmuck come to the boareds on a BDSM site just to insult everyone

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 4:15:48 PM   
ClassAct2006


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Status: offline 		Sounds like you're like most people  - neither dominant nor submissive in which case why are you on this site?  Or you're submissive but only come across women with a style which doesn't suit you.

I'm submissive but I have never been abused or treated badly by a dominant man. I've been respected ad admired for my submissiveness. If I've been spanked that's not of course abuse as it's consensual. Seek out the right kind of person for you and all will be well.

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 9:13:37 PM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		To the OP:

I dont think there's anything wrong with you.  Reading between your lines I get the feeling that you are very much interested in the various aspects of BDSM, and are seeking validation that not *everyone* who practices BDSM is an abuser or a fruit cake.  You will find what you want to find and see what you want to see, so I would suggest looking past the flakes (and there are *many*) and looking for friendships/relationships with those who you deem as sane BDSMers.  They *are* around. 

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 9:46:06 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		Maybe nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you just feel your needs are "less extreme" than what you see and-or read on these boards, or on other websites. That isn't wrong, is it? Maye you do have a misconception of what a loving bdsm relationship could be (or become) - but maybe that's not your fault.

From some websites, I know when I first started reading about bdsm, I thought I had to (I am a submissive) go buy either a Gorean slave outfit and a set of chains, or a set of fluffy, see-through dresses and practice my groaning skills. I have since learned that it's not about the props, it's about the people involved in a relationship and whether or not they "click" (period) . There will be someone out there who is right for you - give yourself time (I know I am). Good luck.

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 7/13/2006 9:51:58 PM >

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 9:49:47 PM   
wildlyincomplete


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quote:

ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme

I just dont understand it, I am an attractive  perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense .  yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was  a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume ,  that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek  extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe


By the sounds of it there's nothing really "wrong" with you persay.  However, I do question WHY you are HERE?  You don't seem to have an understanding of BDSM nor does it sound like you have an interest in learning about it either. 
 
~beth~

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/13/2006 9:54:43 PM   
wildlyincomplete


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Status: offline 		try writing country music songs with it instead (Or does she need to have shot your dawg first, not sure on that one!)

Hey now!  I love country music and no, Sir, there should be NO dog shooting allowed!
 
~beth~

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 12:37:14 AM   
EvilGeoff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme
i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter!


We have something in common then.  My self esteem is in pretty decent shape, I have no need to make myself "feel powerful" I'm pretty comfortable in my skin.  I don't abuse anyone, but I certainly enjoy inflicting pain, of the physical, mental, or temporary emotional variety.

Not because it makes me better or more powerful or more important or any reason like that.  I do it because I'm a sadist and that's what I enjoy doing.  And because my partners seem to enjoy my doing it to them.

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....But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume ,  that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek  extract her revenge on all of mankind ! 


More common ground!  But then again, as I stated earlier, I'm a sadist.  I enjoy _inflicting_ pain, not receiving it.  Thank God for masochists, otherwise I wouldn't have any consentual partners to play with!  As for costumes and prancing, Pony play isn't my style.  But Father Malice will gladly hear your confession, you naughty boy, and will gladly meet out some appropriate penance...

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Is there something wrong with me ? Joe


Nothing that having an open mind and heart wouldn't cure.

YIK,
- Geoff

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 3:18:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

.... or a set of fluffy, see-through dresses and practice my groaning skills.
- Susan
Perks at the thought of the see-through dresses...lol. Sorry Susan, couldn't resist (weg).
 
To the OP...sounds like you're into kink maybe, but haven't quite got the concept of D/s figured out yet. That's OK, but don't try to steriotype those of us that have it figured out, just because you don't "get it". Just go with the flow for a while and be true to yourself, accepting that fact that you are into the kink aspect, but don't necessarily fit into a particular dynamic yet, at this point.

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 4:00:49 AM   
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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 4:10:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Joe, you came on a bit strong.  Relax...no one's going to do anything to you that you don't allow. 

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 4:26:09 AM   
feastie


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ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme

I just dont understand it, I am an attractive  perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense .  yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was  a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume ,  that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek  extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe


No, there's nothing wrong with you.  You just haven't found your niche yet.  Maybe you're not even interested in BDSM, actually.  It's perfectly okay if you're not.  Being vanilla isn't a negative thing (like some try to make it), its just a life without kink.  If you want some kink in your life, perhaps it's just in the bedroom, topping or bottoming?  Nothing wrong with that either.  The biggest thing you need to remember is that you are the one that decides who and what you are, not anyone else.  Comparing yourself against others is not going to help you find your place.  Research and being honest about what it is you enjoy and what you want from life is going to determine that.

Good luck!

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RE: whats wrong with me? - 7/15/2006 7:34:44 AM   
ArtimisBlack


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ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme

I just dont understand it, I am an attractive  perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense .  yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was  a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume ,  that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek  extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe


Why would this mean there is something wrong with you (other then that you have several stereotypical misconceptions)?
You wrote about what you don't want to do, don't need, and don't feel like having done to you but......... what DO you want? Knowing what you don't want is an important step to figuring yourself out, but if you don't know what it is you do want and are unwilling to seek it or define it, then knowing what you don't want doesn't help you very much does it? A little tip from my communications teacher....It's always easier to get what you want when you are telling the other person (or people) what to do, rather then what not to do. So figure out what you want-nobody else can do it for you.
 

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