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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/5/2014 1:44:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

I suspect that the OP more properly belongs in Creative Writing - and that part 2 will be 'blackmailed by my mistress'.

Yanno, MissKitty, the thought crossed my mind as well, if it weren't for all those references to how unattractive this kinky lady was to him.
Although it does seem suspicious for a male sub to not want to lick a woman's body. Hm-mm.

I once screened a guy who claimed to be into body worship, then when questioned by me as to why he had to be "forced" to perform oral if he was into body worship (even to the extent of not wanting a woman to wear any make-up so because he didn't like the taste of it <big raspberry sound>), he stuttered that he hadn't meant FULL BODY as in oral worship--unless "forced". <biggest raspberry sound you have ever heard in your life>

OP also never mentions clothing. What she was wearing, any fetish gear, whether she used a riding crop. Vanilla wannabe Dominatrices always have to use props and dress up to get into character. No experienced Domme would have picked this dude AND still wanted to keep him as a slave, although anything's possible. Plus no mention of buttplugs, dildos or anal receiving? Interesting omissions.

I can't wait for Installment 2 to come out.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/5/2014 5:01:57 PM

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I should comment that only 40% of the time I felt enjoyable, and I was like suffering in the rest 60% of the time.

*shudders*

Oh, I interpreted that, as he has masochistic tendencies and it's a positive that he suffered 60% of the time. And his in wonder that he enjoyed the whole experience despite more suffering than pleasure, and despite that woman being unattractive. His clearly looking forward for more experiences with her.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/5/2014 8:34:59 PM

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/5/2014 10:50:39 PM

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I should comment that only 40% of the time I felt enjoyable, and I was like suffering in the rest 60% of the time.

*shudders*

Oh, I interpreted that, as he has masochistic tendencies and it's a positive that he suffered 60% of the time. And his in wonder that he enjoyed the whole experience despite more suffering than pleasure, and despite that woman being unattractive. His clearly looking forward for more experiences with her.

Hmmm. I wonder if he will be back to set us straight.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/6/2014 12:20:48 AM

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Yea, I hate it when ppl come in and post something pretty incredible and then hide their profile.

The strange part is, the written English style makes me think his Asian hehe. I may be wrong.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/6/2014 4:31:53 AM

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@GM, RS's red "cage" looked more like a plush mini-luxury pet motel! I believe his slave had an ipod and cell phone, as well as other entertainments.
And I hope you are just kidding.

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It was a fully monitored dungeon and so the night porter spent an amusing 3 hours watching his very slow cm by cm attempt to free himself.

At least you didn't leave the premises. Being in a monitored dungeon setting was being responsible, but I have to wonder what if the night porter had fallen into a diabetic coma and couldn't watch over your sub for those 3 hours? That would be my concern, depending on others to care for your property properly.

I'm no advert for OWK but they have or at least did have umpteen male slaves watching over the dungeons at all time. As for going into a diabetic coma, a Domme could just as easily put her submissive in a body bag and fall and bang her head deeming herself unconscious. Saying that, I would not tie up a submissive and then go out shopping for the day. I wouldn't put my sub in a body bag with a straw to breath through and then go to sleep and I wouldn't leave my boy in a cage for the night if I wasn't assured someone was keeping an eye on him.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/6/2014 10:46:48 AM

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only 40% of the time I felt enjoyable, and I was like suffering in the rest 60% of the time

That sounds about right - in fact it sounds quite nice. I would say that there is really no point in doing the whole 24/7 slave thing if you expect to enjoy 100% of the activities. If you only want to do the things that you enjoy, then don't be a slave - be a submissive or be a bottom, pick and choose what you do. There are lots of things I do that I don't enjoy and wouldn't do if I had the choice - but some part of me, somehow, gets off on doing things I don't enjoy and it makes it feel so real and intense. The activities may not be enjoyable but the feeling of submission is.

Another point is expectations vs. reality - so many inexperienced submissives have an unrealistic idea of what it will be like and then when they do it, they are surprised about things like sleeping on a hard floor being uncomfortable. It might be a good idea to try things once or twice before you have a discussion about what you enjoy and want to do, otherwise you will not really know what you are agreeing to.

Btw - I enjoyed the honesty in your post. I doubt it will get you many friends here but you were reflective about what you did and didn't like and that's better than lying, no matter how blunt it sounds.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/6/2014 11:14:52 AM

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FR- I have not really read the rest of the thread...

1 . I didn't really believe my eyes, what I always dreamed of, had really happened, she is not a perfect beautiful woman though.
She just has to be beautiful to you and rev your engine. I suggest not worrying about societies standards of beauty and worry about your own. However, if you find her very unattractive and you don't want to be with her because of that- this is not a match for you.

2. One night after she bathed and had her body partially dried with towel, she came out and instructed me to lick her ass and body clean. I am not really into licking and I was hesitated, of course I could escape from that and licked her ass and vagina, I didn't enjoy, and I swallowed a lot of her sweat and moisture on her body. I'd like to know if it would cause any possible health risks?
Yes. In short. "Rimming" does have potential health risks. E.Coli, any STD's, and more- however- many choose to perform rimming anyways and come out just fine.

3. Although it really happened, I'd like to know - Is it really this kind of kinki woman in the world? or is she trying to look for something else by this mean?
I was alert in her home looking around and I've got mental preparation that she had some hidden cameras and threatened for large sum of cash with copies of the video of me nude in bondage...but I could accept myself as a 'kinky' star in the worst case scenarios. In addition to that, could anyone help guess if this woman has any evil plan than just simply looking for a slave, or simply because I am just too lucky to meet this lady?

I doubt she is going to blackmail you or whatever you've thought up in your head. I think that is rather paranoid. If you trust her enough to let her house you for 3 days, you should trust her enough to not blackmail you. If you're worried about that, next time, perhaps going out someplace public and meeting first is something you could try.

4. Looking back to the three days of full time training, I should comment that only 40% of the time I felt enjoyable, and I was like suffering in the rest 60% of the time. However, for many years I have been looking for this kind of lifestyle........... how can I do better to be more enjoyable the next time I am invited to training?

Perhaps this lifestyle isn't for you? I'm not sure what you mean by this? Do you like suffering? Some subs or slaves feel fufilled by serving someone's every whim, others have hard limits, and others have less Dom/sub relationships. That is up for you to determine what is right for you.

5. yesterday she instructed me to write a report explaining how I felt during the time and what is my commitment to her in the near future - whether I would like to slowly give up my job / career or work as a part time ....
I once married in 25 and got divorced two years late and luckily I have no kids, what do you think..

This one I can't answer, only you can determine what your commitment to her is.

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RE: difficult decisions at some point of life. - 12/7/2014 1:48:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

I'm no advert for OWK but they have or at least did have umpteen male slaves watching over the dungeons at all time. As for going into a diabetic coma, a Domme could just as easily put her submissive in a body bag and fall and bang her head deeming herself unconscious. Saying that, I would not tie up a submissive and then go out shopping for the day. I wouldn't put my sub in a body bag with a straw to breath through and then go to sleep and I wouldn't leave my boy in a cage for the night if I wasn't assured someone was keeping an eye on him.

Oh, that's good--sounds like a large and/or well-organized dungeon set-up. I have no doubt you look after your sub(s) in a caring manner. I tend to be an objective fretter, in that I don't get anxiety ridden, but it is disconcerting to hear when some driver lapses into a diabetic coma with a schoolbus full of kids on board. So yes, this could happen to anybody at any time, and nobody can possibly take every precaution. I happen to be a proponent of not taking unnecessary (read as foolish) risks. It comes with parental instinct territory, for me.

@orgasmdenial12, sensible advice given and hopefully the OP will take it under consideration.

@shiftyw, OP's screen name would indicate that he is 30, but I suppose this was his first rimjob. Soap & water should have sufficed for her. An alcohol or disinfectant-based mouthwash to rinse right afterwards, for him. OP, your mouth has more germs in it than a vagina, and what is it with the sweat-aversion (exuding from freshly bathed skin pores)? Prissy, much?

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ORIGINAL: yc1984

She told me to get back home to think about her ideas and she said she won't force me into full-time after many years, she said as a permanent slave of her, I will also have to have her name tattoo on my body as an indication of her property, but it's all only an early stage of suggestion.

Although I am not an advocate for slave contracts, the one feature which I find of practical value is the one-year term, renewable upon option. However, OP is not ready for this either. Whatever you do, yc1984, do not get tattooed. DO. NOT. GET. A. NAME. TATTOOED. EVER. Not even a spouse, because most marriages don't last forever. Your mom is your mother forever. You child is forever your child. You are not a forever slave or a forever piece of property.

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