FieryOpal
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
99% of the people I met online are blind meets too. As I don't need pictures to decide to meet a person, if I get pictures, it's because they voluntarily send it without me asking, as I never ask for it. For me, it's about intellectual stimulation, if that someone intellectually stimulates me, I'm gonna love him or her, no matter what he or she is physically.
It's very hard for insincere and fake people to work so hard and mentally stimulate me. It really takes genuine mutual connection, so that's how I believe I maintain a zero no show record.
For me, a picture is the worst proof that someone is real, as anybody can steal any pic from facebook now and claim that is them and it will look real.
On top of that, some insecure indiot men love to send pictures of themselves 10 years younger. Lately, I've been bumping into alot men sensitive about their age, even if they were only in their 40's. Which is crazy. One guy introduced himself as above 30 yr old. And I asked him.., exactly how old are you? Then he said 43. I was like WTF, why would you even mention 30? Then he response was, but I certainly still look like I'm in my 30's. Like seriously, damn insecure! I find this super weird since I always state that I like older and mature men.
I have to ask, were those totally blind meets where the guy had no idea what you looked like either (other than description)? One of the purposes for asking for a picture (for me) is to garner additional clues about the person's behaviorisms. There can be a lot to be "read" into a photo. Also, the fact that the person provides a dated picture gives you insight into his/her character.
If he's not going to be honest about his age, what else is he not being honest about? I get this a lot, older men trying to pass themselves off as much younger. Sometimes they'll come back and tell me, "Well, I really am your age, I just say I'm 10 years younger because the women our age are only interested in younger men." Not only is that not true, but it tells me that these men are on the prowl for much younger women who wouldn't otherwise consider a man that age. How, then, do I know which is the lie and which is the truth either? Starting off your first impressions by lying is not a good sign and will disqualify a person.
The other biggie for me is that I examine astrological natal charts. If this doesn't jive with the date I've been given, then I'll get suspicious that I was given bogus data. That, in itself, will tick me off. Once confronted, I either get a corrected date or I never hear back from that person because he knows he was caught red-handed. (The former has happened 2-3 times; the latter has only happened once.) I may not get a verifiable name, but I'll be damned if I don't have the right chart to compare with mine. The one time I made an exception in doing this, happened to be the time I let myself get fooled by a guy who was going by pics that were up to 10-15 years younger than his actual age. I felt like I was having drinks with my grandpa, is how I've described it before. What gets me, is that I was already making an exception for his age to begin with!
OP, it's only been 2 years since I've been looking on line. A couple decades earlier, singles were using ISO-In Search Of classified ads in the backs of magazines and newspapers. We did old-school letter writing. For 3 years in a row, the same millionaire I'd met on a date who had the audacity to grind up next to me while we were dancing, had listed himself as being 49. I met my first openly declared submissive male this way, but unfortunately I felt no chemistry with him. We did become friends, though.
I've met about a dozen men. Not from this site, four of them went under consideration, and two became my subs at different times. From this site, I've had two on-line LD relationships (just messaging, nothing else, one for 3-4 months & the other for nearly 5), but neither of those ever got off the ground.
I've never been stood up. I would prefer to meet someone in person first at this stage.
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He must have been using his dad's picture! 
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