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Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 8:38:45 AM

booklover13

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Well, at least that's the impression that many men seem to have. OK...maybe not many men in general but those who message me seem to think so.

I get messages from men who are married and whine that their wives don't want anything to do with this lifestyle. Then, there's the out-of-towners who are local for business and want to know if I'll play with them while they're in town.

Indulging in kink, BDSM, D/s...whatever, is not, in my mind, a dirty, unnatural or immoral activity between two consenting adults. If anything, folks who engage this way have figured out that it can add interest and fun to their lives and deepen the bond between them.

I don't get upset at these messages. Usually, I answer back in a humorous manner. I'm an educated professional who attends church and is well-liked in my circle of friends and colleagues. I also enjoy kinky sex in a relationship.

So, where do some men get the idea that a woman on a kink site is an immoral whore willing to jump into the sack with any Tom, Dick or Harry who invites her?

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 8:41:13 AM

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This happens on most internet dating sites, block and ignore, do not engage, do not pass go. There are good people out there but they wouldn't be special unless they were hard to find.

I link those assholes to feminist articles, most then assume I'm a man hating lesbian and leave me alone...

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:10:47 AM

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I wondered this a lot myself when I first came here. Then I learned from people who'd been around awhile that those messages generally come from guys whose time is spent mostly in their mom's basements online with bag of Cheetos in their laps

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:13:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: booklover13

Well, at least that's the impression that many men seem to have. OK...maybe not many men in general but those who message me seem to think so.

I get messages from men who are married and whine that their wives don't want anything to do with this lifestyle. Then, there's the out-of-towners who are local for business and want to know if I'll play with them while they're in town.

Indulging in kink, BDSM, D/s...whatever, is not, in my mind, a dirty, unnatural or immoral activity between two consenting adults. If anything, folks who engage this way have figured out that it can add interest and fun to their lives and deepen the bond between them.

I don't get upset at these messages. Usually, I answer back in a humorous manner. I'm an educated professional who attends church and is well-liked in my circle of friends and colleagues. I also enjoy kinky sex in a relationship.

So, where do some men get the idea that a woman on a kink site is an immoral whore willing to jump into the sack with any Tom, Dick or Harry who invites her?

Most likely they get it from religious morality, as it has warped rational societal thought throughout the ages.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:16:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

I wondered this a lot myself when I first came here. Then I learned from people who'd been around awhile that those messages generally come from guys whose time is spent mostly in their mom's basements online with bag of Cheetos in their laps

Ewwwwwwww...day-glow orange penis visual.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:18:49 AM

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Ello!

I think that there are a fair number of men that come here believing that this is the best place to find an immoral slut.

They're dicks, of course, and you'll often find them whining and bitter after a while.

I'm sure there are some immoral sluts here, and I know there are plenty of very moral sluts here as well.

As for where they get the idea... Well if you look at some of the ads that appear (although you may need to log in as a dude to see the ads I get, you may be getting bookshop ads ;-)) - they are all about dating, they all sell the idea that the dating site is full of sluts who will fuck at a moment's notice... effectively, they (not being inclined to think things through) are being sold internet dating on the very premise that it gives them access to a whole slew of wanton, moral-free, randy ferrets.

The good news is there are a few guys on here that don't make that assumption, or who will at least be polite enough to try to find out whether or not you're an immoral slut without making too many rude assumptions.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:29:34 AM

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Wait...I get lots of ads about Dommes...is that cause I'm bi?
Like all mine are for bi dommes. I get the hot tattoo lady with the great ass holding like a bloody paddle with a man in a gag looking out between her legs.

She really DOES have a great ass. But it has always seemed like they pigeon-holed me poorly based on my login info...

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:32:41 AM

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It's not just kink sites. You'll get the same treatment, if not worse, on a vanilla dating site. Some of the worst guys I've encountered were on OKC. Here and Fet you'll get messages from many guys who are just armchair doms and are grounded in fantasy, so you can take their words with a grain of salt. But on the others? Guys are completely serious.

Maybe they figure all they want is sex and sex is no big deal, so why won't this prude talk to me? What a fucking bitch.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 9:39:39 AM

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This is a fast reply.

It is not a new idea that men equate kink to being an easy lay... when they find that it is, in fact, not true they immediately scorn the woman with precious gems like this: "UR not a true sub!" or "FAKE!!"

It is my considered opinion that the above approach is doomed.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:09:26 AM

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I get that ad, too.

And...you're right about her ass. It's lovely.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:10:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gauge

This is a fast reply.

It is not a new idea that men equate kink to being an easy lay... when they find that it is, in fact, not true they immediately scorn the woman with precious gems like this: "UR not a true sub!" or "FAKE!!"

It is my considered opinion that the above approach is doomed.

I have gotten the "UR not a true sub" reply but mostly I get the suggestion that I join Christian Mingle.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:13:41 AM

YouName

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Peeps in general are becoming more slutty, girls and guys. It's the world we live in!
Other peeps just don't consider sex to be anything special, out of the ordinary, requiring tons of foreplay.
They will jump into the sack with others that they find attractive and with whom they can have friendly relations.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:13:52 AM

RockaRolla

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Wait...I get lots of ads about Dommes...is that cause I'm bi?
Like all mine are for bi dommes. I get the hot tattoo lady with the great ass holding like a bloody paddle with a man in a gag looking out between her legs.

She really DOES have a great ass. But it has always seemed like they pigeon-holed me poorly based on my login info...

Dammit, why can't I get messaged by her?

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:14:11 AM

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I wish I was an immoral slut.

I would be having way more fun.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:15:15 AM

shiftyw

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Seriously. Her ass is great...and those tatts...Is the ad for alt.com? I actually don't even know, cause I'm like BUTT

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:35:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Seriously. Her ass is great...and those tatts...Is the ad for alt.com? I actually don't even know, cause I'm like BUTT

Most of those Ads are from Alt.com but unfortunately the pics don't always match the names.
And most of the Ads are for people who are not very active on the site or not visited for months.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:35:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Wait...I get lots of ads about Dommes...is that cause I'm bi?
Like all mine are for bi dommes. I get the hot tattoo lady with the great ass holding like a bloody paddle with a man in a gag looking out between her legs.

She really DOES have a great ass. But it has always seemed like they pigeon-holed me poorly based on my login info...

I don't think it has anything to do with your designated sexual orientation because I get it all too. Every nasty image there is, every hot image there is and then some. The animated ass wiggle is one I could do without. ;)

The ones that crack me up are the ones that are images of people supposedly in my area. So many white faces and so many in one tiny little town. Who knew? *LOL* Seriously though, I know it's just an ad based on my IP address.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:37:15 AM

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What, no. The pictures never match the adds. It would be illegal I believe. Not many people know how to even make gifs.
I'd be glad if you could prove me wrong on this. But I'm pretty sure I'm right.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:37:30 AM

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Just enough to keep things interesting.

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RE: Are women on a kink site all immoral sluts? - 12/14/2014 11:45:05 AM

shiftyw

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quote:

ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Seriously. Her ass is great...and those tatts...Is the ad for alt.com? I actually don't even know, cause I'm like BUTT

Most of those Ads are from Alt.com but unfortunately the pics don't always match the names.
And most of the Ads are for people who are not very active on the site or not visited for months.

LOL- I know...like AdultFriendFinder.com

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