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Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 9:12:14 AM   
shiftyw


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In play- not D/s- do you prefer some resistance? a bit of a fight back? Or do you prefer compliance?

Most people I've been with have been into a bit of resistance.

As a sub, do you prefer to resist or do you quietly get into bondage?

I don't have very many specific questions, because I'm mostly interested in different views of this. To me, submissive implies less fight more compliance, but I could be way off base.
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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 9:35:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do not resist, as his sub it's my place to comply and he doesn't like resistance so resistance would not benefit either one of us, especially me. If he wanted resistance in play, I would comply with that too but it would feel so fake to me because I'd be acting, not being who I am.



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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 9:41:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like to resist, with the goal of getting my partner worked up enough to eventually take me down.

Unfortunately, my boys aren't much into this kind of exchange. One prefers compliance, or as he would say, that I be serious about things. The other has mostly been on the sub side and isn't used to being/playing on the other side of the slash, but he's expressed an interest in changing that.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 10:46:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

In play- not D/s- do you prefer some resistance? a bit of a fight back? Or do you prefer compliance?



Depends on my mood. If you prod the lion too much though it will bite your fuckin' head off, so proceed with caution.




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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 10:53:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm compliant. In actuality, there are times where he would enjoy some resistance, because it's hard to take down someone who is already down. But when the ropes come on me, I just melt into them.

I have been known to stand on a loose end, which earns me a quick spank or two, but that's not resistance. Just amusement for one and all.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 10:54:27 AM   
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< Message edited by NorthernGent -- 12/14/2014 10:55:00 AM >

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 10:56:48 AM   
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Resistance. So HOT!!

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:02:48 AM   
YouName


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Status: offline 		Shocker, I expect both. I love it when it comes to flirting, even with vanilla types. Just to see who will take subtle control. So for me it extends up and above being a submissive or enjoying it as a dominant.

But as a bulky tall guy there needs to be some balance there and that's provided by mental initative. It's like freaking dungeons and dragons, your initial stats and then the rolls (circumstances) decide things. >.< Being a nerd is cool now..right? Relinquishing and taking control...

But hey, I'm part of that Little Group so I'm sure this doesn't apply to all of you.

It might be fun to find someone that can keep the pressure going continously or someone whom I could leash more permanently. But I haven't stepped into there yet and I don't feel anyone I've met could be Confident enough to do that to me nor am I Confident enough to do it to someone else. But in that case I Think compliance would be the natural state of things, including during play although not to the Point where it becomes boring.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:05:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I prefer compliance. That is what is sexy to me.

BUT, by resistance, do you mean a bit of making it clear it's not the ideal for you? Because I do like that. I like all forms of communication, as long as I am obeyed when I give my commands. And that I am obeyed happily (for the obeying, if not for the action itself).

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:06:18 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I'm compliant. In actuality, there are times where he would enjoy some resistance, because it's hard to take down someone who is already down. But when the ropes come on me, I just melt into them.

I have been known to stand on a loose end, which earns me a quick spank or two, but that's not resistance. Just amusement for one and all.


This is usually an issue I face, now.
I usually have my hands around the rung in the headboard ready to be cuffed. I think he would prefer a little more fight, because often he asks me what the point of cuffs are if I'm going to embrace them so.

One of my ex's would be like, you're too submissive, you should bite back, and resist more, thats more fun. Another ex was way into bratting coupled with age play- and I'm pretty sure couldn't get it up without some sass and fight from me back.

Sometimes though I for sure egg him on and try to get him to take me down.

I should mention- while not into rape play, I am into wrestling, biting, clawing...and I think there is a distinction.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:10:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like resistance play.

All my partners loved it and so did I.

It's just hot.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:20:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Ok, I know...I'm making a thread actually about kink...shocker!

In play- not D/s- do you prefer some resistance? a bit of a fight back? Or do you prefer compliance?

Most people I've been with have been into a bit of resistance.

As a sub, do you prefer to resist or do you quietly get into bondage?

I don't have very many specific questions, because I'm mostly interested in different views of this. To me, submissive implies less fight more compliance, but I could be way off base.


You know, this is going to sound really bad but I am a lot "softer" with female subs than male subs. I never thought about the why but especially in a vanilla context, I tend to flatter, compliment, I essentially turn into a guy trying to woo the pants off the girl. Sorry if this is blatantly sexist but it's true, LOL. I have always said I would have made an amazing bf for someone. I am a protector and I don't mind resistance from a female sub, I might think it's cute. Wrestling is fun too but it really depends on the sub. Sometimes I love compliance, sometimes I would like to have more resistance, I never feel challenged enough. But I don't like brattiness, like just trying to ruin my day because you're peeved at something I did or didn't do. Or thinking you have some sort of leverage over me (that'd be the day!).
I can't even really properly answer the OP because all of my domming experiences have been so varied. I like trying new things and dislike repetition/ predictability. I suppose the challenge has to be worth the reward for me? But I have so much going on in my vanilla life I need someone who can understand that and not add to the stresses. Unless the plan is to absolve me of these responsibilities and for me to be willing to trust you to not screw up what has been a well oiled machine. Not you per say shifty, just generally speaking.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 11:47:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like both, I love being completely compliant at times and I like a bit of resistance too, it is just hot.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 12:42:36 PM   
RebeccaR


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Status: offline 		Resistance always.
Resist till I'm overcome and forced to submit/comply. Consensual play that looks like and, to all intents and purposes, isn't.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 1:06:34 PM   
InHisHeart


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

This is usually an issue I face, now.
I usually have my hands around the rung in the headboard ready to be cuffed. I think he would prefer a little more fight, because often he asks me what the point of cuffs are if I'm going to embrace them so.


I never know what he's going to do so he puts my hands/legs where and how he wants them or will tell me what position to get into. I never assume I know what his next move will be or what he wants me to do next. I made the mistake of assuming a few times in the beginning of our relationship and was quickly taught to never assume that just because he does/says/commands X that Y will automatically follow. If he tells me to get against the wall, I stand against the wall, I do not raise my arms or spread my legs for the tethers to be put on me unless he tells me to or he lifts my arms, spreads my legs to place them on me. He's a stickler with wanting me to be focused on every little detail of his commands and never jump the gun.


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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 1:37:03 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		We are a lot less formal than all that, he wouldn't punish me based on an assumption. It is also, for me, rarely based on an assumption and rather just how something happens, we are go with the flow kind of people. Our play is rarely planned. In fact, often he is just grabbing a toy out of the drawer and going with it. He isn't "training based" and more "this just gets us off, and isn't that serious" based.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 1:41:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		He likes the idea of wrestling but he's a head taller and has 50 pounds on me. I'd lose immediately anyway. Unfortunately, when he wraps those big hands around my neck, all thought of fight leaves.
I'm shallow like that.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 2:17:09 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		We play the catch me if you can. I'm faster, wiggly, etc. But he is a huge man, 330 lbs, 6'6"- I stand no realistic chance, so all that resistance is short lived on my part. And as soon as he has me pinned down, to the victor goes the spoils.

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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 2:17:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I feel submissive to someone I prefer what feels right at the time.  If my mate desires resistance, I resist.  If they want to quietly slip into compliance, I comply.  Because I am submissive I submit to the one who inspires submission, even if that may take the turn of resistance.

If I am playing, I do what feels right at the time.  In other words if I am on a date and things are developing into romance, then they play out as slow romance.  No resistance because I tend to go with the flow.  If things are building to being overcome by passion, then I probably will feel the urge to letting someone take me hard, with resistance, mostly because I enjoy rough play. 

Strict bondage does not happen for me unless I really trust them.  If I do trust them those feelings of submission are easy to access.  Bondage which is just being held down and hand restrained is good for rough play.
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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Ok, I know...I'm making a thread actually about kink...shocker!

In play- not D/s- do you prefer some resistance? a bit of a fight back? Or do you prefer compliance?

Most people I've been with have been into a bit of resistance.

As a sub, do you prefer to resist or do you quietly get into bondage?

I don't have very many specific questions, because I'm mostly interested in different views of this. To me, submissive implies less fight more compliance, but I could be way off base.


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RE: Resistance Vs. Compliance... - 12/14/2014 2:22:26 PM   
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