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Sincere submissive in Indiana - 12/21/2014 4:43:27 AM

EssentiaIndy

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I have been around the CS website for only a few months. I realize that, in the scheme of things, that isn't a long time. However, I have realized a few things in my time there... I cannot keep my profile public for long as my inbox gets flooded with inappropriate offers. (I took the advice offered me and I took my profile public. As such, I have edited my introduction post and I'm willing to see what happens.) I'm not here to find a kinky sex partner. I'm here seeking that elusive, long-term, committed, monogamous, D/s relationship. So I thought I would take a chance and throw out an introduction here on the forums.

I'm a lady. I'm sensual and I'm not a pain slut. I do like kinky sex...I just want more.

I'm sapiosexual.

I live in Indianapolis, Indiana. Yes, I am open to the idea of relocating and I am capable of relocating for the right situation...

I'm female, 54, submissive, attractive (although I realize this is subjective, I am comfortable with myself and like my body), I don't smoke, I'm a very light social drinker and I do not use drugs.

I have tattoos. All of which can be covered for the vanilla world. I'm not ashamed of them....they are actually quite beautiful and I'm always receiving compliments on them. I didn't get my first tattoo until I was 49 and I sought to find the best tattoo artist I could before I ever let my skin receive ink.

I am not your typical "submissive"--I am confident with a solid sense of self and I'm no one's doormat. My ego is not dependent on what others think of me. I am very interested in a long-term, mutually beneficial, honest and sincere D/s relationship. I am, at my heart and core, submissive. I thrive with a compassionate Dominant. I do not, however, put up with crap or abuse.

I know that for a long-term relationship to survive in the kink community the vanilla aspects must be as compatible as the kink aspects. Morals and ethics must be comparable. You have to be willing to communicate. About everything from desires for lifestyle and dreams for the future to how often to have sex (vanilla or kinky).

There is so much more to this search than can be said in any introduction. I know that this is long, and yes, quite a bit is from my profile...but it is not all that is in my profile. I'm a deep thinker and I'm a writer by advocation. So, I apologize if this went too long.

However, I value intelligence and I really can't see wasting anyone's time. Can you?

Thank you for taking the time to learn a little bit about me.

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RE: Sincere submissive in Indiana - 12/21/2014 4:50:28 AM

DaddySatyr

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Each time you un-hide your profile, you wind up on the New Users list. take a guess where the worst of the worst go to "hunt" unsuspecting newbs?

I think you may find that the mods won't let your profile stand here (unless the rules have changed) so, your best bet might be to un-hide your profile, learn to delete and block the idiots and weather the storm until you're off the newbs list.

Good luck.

Michael

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RE: Sincere submissive in Indiana - 12/21/2014 4:59:42 AM

EssentiaIndy

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Michael,

I normally read the forum rules before I post. I have to admit, today I didn't. I just edited my post to, hopefully, be more in line with the rules.

Weathering the storm...I have to ask...why should I have to put up with the crap? Oh, right, life...

Maybe I just don't have the thick skin that is required to be on a site like this? I really am a lady. I haven't learned to NOT take offense at some of the things that are said to me. Then again, maybe that's a lesson I do need to learn? I'm trying to figure that out.

I do appreciate your information about how the "new" users interface works. I hadn't really realized that one...and it gave me something to think about.
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RE: Sincere submissive in Indiana - 12/21/2014 5:15:13 AM

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Welcome to boards. Michael is right, it happens to all newbies but the flood of messages will subside. When I was new to the site, my profile clearing states I'm collared and in a monogamous relationship with Master but that didn't stop the crazies. You can't control what others do/say, you can control your reaction to it, ignore, block and delete.

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RE: Sincere submissive in Indiana - 12/21/2014 5:25:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: EssentiaIndy

Michael,

I normally read the forum rules before I post. I have to admit, today I didn't. I just edited my post to, hopefully, be more in line with the rules.

Weathering the storm...I have to ask...why should I have to put up with the crap? Oh, right, life...

I'm not trying to sound mean but you don't have to put up with any crap. However, this site can be a good resource for meeting people; at least, it can be a pretty good screening process to decide from whom you'd like to sit across a coffee table.

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ORIGINAL: EssentiaIndy

Maybe I just don't have the thick skin that is required to be on a site like this? I really am a lady. I haven't learned to NOT take offense at some of the things that are said to me. Then again, maybe that's a lesson I do need to learn? I'm trying to figure that out.

I do appreciate your information about how the "new" users interface works. I hadn't really realized that one...and it gave me something to think about.
Julianne

Thick skin? Yep. That helps. Also, understand that some people don't communicate as well in text as they do, verbally. I have found that people who manage to send well thought-out e-mails are the exception around here (I can count the ones I've received this year on one hand).

What I'm saying is that there are decent people that just don't happen to be gifted, when it comes to writing. It is an art form, some say and not everyone is an artist.

Okay. I mentioned "artist". There certainly are a bunch of artists of the bullshit variety and if they also happen to be talented at the written word, they can be quite wily and do some real damage to your determination to find what you're looking for. Don't let that happen.

Good luck. Things will get better.

Michael

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