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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 7/27/2006 1:39:09 PM

LaTigresse

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Yes, I wish I could say I never bought into one of those games but I will admit I do have a few souvenirs from taking that trip a time or two. Fortunately I caught on fairly quickly except for the one time....ouch and OUCH!
Now, I don't even consider anyone from the net seriously until I spend real face to face time with them. AND, unless I am heading their way, they are going to have to come to ME. My time is important, my vacation days are limited. I give them a little time to get to know the kind of person I am via a few emails and then a few phone calls. If they don't want to come for a visit they may, if they hold my interest, stay a casual "hey, hows things" type internet friend. If not, I make no excuses but.........bye bye.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 7/27/2006 2:57:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: wantitnow569

Good afternoon all.....
i hope this is not too presumptious or forward on my part, but i guess the time has come where i need some assistance..... My "Master" has this odd little habit of disappearing for days and sometimes weeks at a time... Although, they are always followed up with really great reasons and apologies for his disappearance; i guess i'm currently at a point where i am trying to figure out what i should be doing....i mean should i push Him to prove his rationale for His absence or should i let Him go?
*sigh*
Thanks,
want it

I am a Domme who on occasion will "disappear" for a week or two
every now and then.

Sometimes I just need some space,some quiet time,
or some alone time with slave bishop.

However....My worms know this,or most do.Some know how to get a hold of Me at anytime if it is an emergency.

On the other hand there are submissives who sometimes need to take a break and revaulate what they want.I dont get all upset if I dont hear from them.If a month goes by...then I get worried and send out a search party.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 7/29/2006 5:43:35 AM

SirDarkside357

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I don't want to come off as cold or cruel, though I am often both.....but come on now, you already know what you should do. If a person has an honest reason for being gone then cool...but for being gone as often as you seem to say he is????? I use to work at a job that could take me away at a moments notice....you know what? Most of the time I had enough time for a phone call or email before "poofing"...... and the few times I didn't, my slave was aware enough of what I did for a living that she understood...seems like you don't know enough.....communication is very important in any form of relationship....get it, or get out...... but that's just my opinion.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 7/30/2006 9:47:19 AM

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Is there trust?

Is there honor?

"Never make someOne your priority, when you are only Their 'option"
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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 7/30/2006 1:11:23 PM

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I can't help but think he's probably cheating.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 8/2/2006 1:20:54 AM

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Not everyone who does this is cheating.
Some people are really, really shy and get cold feet.
A lot of people are just rude and inconsiderate.
There could even be serious problems in his life.

But it is a sign that he is inconsiderate. The first time it happens, you explain you won't accept it. You need to give people a chance as some people think it is acceptable behaviour, except of course when other people do it to them. Seriously, some people have never been told that standing up someone is very rude. A lot of people just put up with it.

The second time, you have to go through the painful task of re-evaluating the relationship and learning to live with the fact they do not think of you with the level of respect you think of them.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 8/12/2006 6:07:59 AM

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He can only say "I'm sorry" so many times until you realize He is Sorry! Kick his sorry ass to the curb.

There is no excuse for letting someone worry about you.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 8/12/2006 11:34:25 AM

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I went through a situation like this fairly recently. He wouldn't tell me where he lived for several months. When he finally did, he ended up moving 3 months later. Now, he's in a vanilla relationship where he is actually dating the woman......he didn't take me on a single date in 8 months. Some men are real jerks. What really sucks is, the person who was wronged seldom has the opportunity to show them how it feels.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 1/9/2007 1:50:08 PM

natasha66

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wantitnow569

Good afternoon all.....
i hope this is not too presumptious or forward on my part, but i guess the time has come where i need some assistance..... My "Master" has this odd little habit of disappearing for days and sometimes weeks at a time... Although, they are always followed up with really great reasons and apologies for his disappearance; i guess i'm currently at a point where i am trying to figure out what i should be doing....i mean should i push Him to prove his rationale for His absence or should i let Him go?
*sigh*

Having been there myself, and suffering, i say....DUMP HIS ASS. And do it now....

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 1/11/2007 4:13:49 AM

slavebitch82

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Same thing is going on with me. I can't figure out if he's ready to be done with me, or just trying to manipulate me.

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RE: Case of the dissappearing dom?? - 1/11/2007 7:40:04 AM

delyla