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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 1:48:59 PM   
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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 1:51:50 PM   
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Even the many posts on CS complaining of such should convince you that it is more than possible.

3 mins, and with a freebie (not as good as Photoshop)... and I'm hopeless at these things.




Well lookie there. You're not only a ballistics genius, you're a photo manipulation master as well. You are truly a Renaissance Man!

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 1:51:59 PM   
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If you are naive enough to think that you can't be fooled, maybe you've just been lucky.
I know many that have indeed been fooled and some now have a much lighter wallet.



You might be right but then I've used the internet to chat and meet people for half of my life. I have never been in a dangerous or compromising situation and if I ever was careless (bad offline meeting) it's because there was some haste somewhere or I violated one of my personal rules. My first encounter with an online commune was Yahoo! Spades' Zebra Cove back when it was very popular. I was 16 at the time and one of my favorite chatters who called himself "crazy, drunk and broke" fell in love with some online personality with very obviously fake pics. She had nothing but professional modelling shots of a blonde bombshell and he fell HARD and probably did send her things, I was shocked by how brainwashed he was (in my mind). Anyway someone found a picture of same model fucking a horse and that's how he figured it out. This was my first encounter with catfishing, long time ago. I also had a few friends who are computer savvy as there were many hackers and crackers on Yahoo! at the time and I had to learn how to protect myself from them as well. Catfishing is no revelation but I tell you after being on cs quite frequently for a little over a year and getting many emails that many of the subs are looking for someone who will fulfill a kink wish list for free vs relationship with mutual interests or even friendship. You attract the right fish with the right bait. If you get the wrong fish, question your bait and cast. Don't expect a lifestyle Domme to operate like a ProDomme. Don't expect a ProDomme to fall in love with you because you're hot. Don't expect a FinDomme to want to meet you offline. Etc, etc. It is very self absorbed to expect rules to change just because you're that "awesome". We make the rules, it's just how we operate and they have to know what risks are reasonable for them. Marc lost 10k on the model scammer and thankfully the guy was caught and brought to justice. But the loss was something he could afford.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 2:08:39 PM   
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It isn't even necessary to use a fake cam. Just get someone else to have the conversation on Skype.


Actually just record someone else on cam and tell them yours is broken and play the video of the recorded person in a loop. But we're making the assumption these people have actual common sense we are discussing. And also, no they cannot get anyone to do it unless it's paid work and even then, skeptical any model wouldn't think it is a sketchy request and decline unless they're operating their thing together. None of these subs are worth the trouble. For a tribute of $20? All of that? Pfft. Marc Puleo, the founder of Petmeds had something similar happen to him but he left himself wide open by being inclusive of the women he would engage. And also the timing of it. They really can do all that within the hour? Unlikely, LOL.


Pay someone? All they need is a friend who's reasonably good looking. It really isn't all that difficult.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 2:14:02 PM   
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Pay someone? All they need is a friend who's reasonably good looking. It really isn't all that difficult.


At the end of the day, sorry to say this but if it is never going offline, does it really matter? The FinDomme has no intention of meeting you, you know this, she knows this. And no, I can't imagine someone holding up a dated sign with a name and a date, sort of like an inmate unless they are really not internet aware and stupidly trusting.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 3:17:53 PM   
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All true, but it doesn't matter. I don't Skype either. People here can either meet me in the flesh or not. Personal preference.
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... Also usually it is a good idea to Skype before to meet.

Since my first meets are vanilla and in a public place it doesn't matter at all to me, even if people don't turn out to be aesthetically appealing. But again, that's just me.

Sorry. Apples and oranges, OP. If you don't think someone will show up for a professional session without Skyping first, that's a valid business decision. The "fake" moniker may just be a little harsh.

I'm the same way. I have a built-in webcam, but I don't use it. I'm not going to start camming for people.
(If my SO were assigned to another location for a spell or on a prolonged business trip, that would be a different set of circumstances.)

If I want somebody to see what I look like, I have fairly recent facial pics up on 3 dating sites (2 are free sites, 1 requires membership).
I think cellpics are adequate. Voice is important to me, so going to phone at some point is a higher priority. As is timing of phone calls, noticing call patterns, etc. Unless you're going to Skype often, you won't get the same results.

OP, since you're such a stickler for pre-verification and putting it all out there to *prove* authenticity, any reason why you have a hidden profile?

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 3:23:43 PM   
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Pay someone? All they need is a friend who's reasonably good looking. It really isn't all that difficult.


At the end of the day, sorry to say this but if it is never going offline, does it really matter? The FinDomme has no intention of meeting you, you know this, she knows this. And no, I can't imagine someone holding up a dated sign with a name and a date, sort of like an inmate unless they are really not internet aware and stupidly trusting.


Fine with me because I have no interest in meeting a Findomme


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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 3:33:43 PM   
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I'm the same way. I have a built-in webcam, but I don't use it. I'm not going to start camming for people.
(If my SO were assigned to another location for a spell or on a prolonged business trip, that would be a different set of circumstances.)

If I want somebody to see what I look like, I have fairly recent facial pics up on 3 dating sites (2 are free sites, 1 requires membership).
I think cellpics are adequate. Voice is important to me, so going to phone at some point is a higher priority. As is timing of phone calls, noticing call patterns, etc. Unless you're going to Skype often, you won't get the same results.

OP, since you're such a stickler for pre-verification and putting it all out there to *prove* authenticity, any reason why you have a hidden profile?

Smart, people can record your cam if you decide to do so. I'm not enthusiastic to perform for someone who is trying to prove his devotion to me either. FieryOpal is a good example of a Lifestyle Domme more than willing to prove who and what she is to any submissive who is serious about committing. There are others like NookieNotes who will grant friendship if naught else and others on this very thread. I am baffled by when people act like this is some impossible search when to me it seems like a litmus of excuses to stay in limbo. If you do want to stay online, you can lie to others but pretty strange when you're lying to yourself. Some women like Topping and enjoy kinky play without it being full throttle D/s. It's about networking in the right areas to find the right fit but I'm never surprised when a sub I didn't collar finds himself on a perpetual search because no Domme was "ever worthy of his gift of submission". I like doing things in my own time and that includes talking on the phone, meeting and play. I will not pander, otherwise there is no point for me If that's not OK, find someone else. Some subs are just too scared of their own shadow and hide behind vanilla responsibility or this or that for me to really empathize. My boy is wonderful and I adore him and the best part of his submission is I don't need anyone else, ever. He is enough.
ETA; The OP's profile was not hidden initially. That's a recent change.


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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 3:58:19 PM   
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talk to me or you're a fake


Maybe I missed the main point, and, while I realize that Skype started as a VOIP "phone", isn't the point of demanding the user connecti on Skype so that they can capture a video?

I mean, if voice were the only concern, there are things called telephones which work just fine for that.

The problem I have with Skype is that, I had assumed, they expect VIDEO.

Am I wrong?

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 4:11:54 PM   
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talk to me or you're a fake


Maybe I missed the main point, and, while I realize that Skype started as a VOIP "phone", isn't the point of demanding the user connecti on Skype so that they can capture a video?

I mean, if voice were the only concern, there are things called telephones which work just fine for that.

The problem I have with Skype is that, I had assumed, they expect VIDEO.

Am I wrong?



LOL! You're a clever one. If someone demands skype and asks you to get on cam you can always hide your face by keeping cam lowered. If you are uncomfortable showing your face, let them know. Maybe she's in frenzy and needs a kink fix, maybe you do too, who knows. But until something gets uncomfortable, following protocol is a good idea. I like to keep subs on their toes and usually prove themselves by how far they're willing to go for me pretty early. Especially if they promise to impress me. Multitasking me, for example is BAD. Wait until you have time to give undivided attention or I'll simply block you. Not everyone cares, but it is desrespectful to me and I have no reason to play nice.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 4:50:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
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Some women like Topping and enjoy kinky play without it being full throttle D/s.

ETA; The OP's profile was not hidden initially. That's a recent change.

Elsewhere you'd referred to a (Cyber) Fin-Domme having no intention of meeting, so much of this verifying whether a (male) sub is *real* is contingent upon the type of Domme one is, personal preferences aside.

If a BDSM provider IRT, then Skype verification might be in order to weed out HNGs. But that isn't going to protect a Pro-Domme during a session unless she does videotape subs for identification purposes or as a safety precaution. I know a Lady who has a huge spread out in the mountains with a fully stocked Dungeon, but she has a bodyguard slave (and other slaves) with her at all times.

If a BDSM provider is on line only, then the only *proof* she needs is a transactional one. It would be more likely that a prospective finsub would be the one wanting verification that she appears to be who she says she is (namely, a female, who provides camshows).

Does anybody recall whether OP's profile originally indicated whether she was in business for herself? That could make a difference on her mandatory Skype policy.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 5:14:13 PM   
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Elsewhere you'd referred to a (Cyber) Fin-Domme having no intention of meeting, so much of this verifying whether a (male) sub is *real* is contingent upon the type of Domme one is, personal preferences aside.

If a BDSM provider IRT, then Skype verification might be in order to weed out HNGs. But that isn't going to protect a Pro-Domme during a session unless she does videotape subs for identification purposes or as a safety precaution. I know a Lady who has a huge spread out in the mountains with a fully stocked Dungeon, but she has a bodyguard slave (and other slaves) with her at all times.

If a BDSM provider is on line only, then the only *proof* she needs is a transactional one. It would be more likely that a prospective finsub would be the one wanting verification that she appears to be who she says she is (namely, a female, who provides camshows).

Does anybody recall whether OP's profile originally indicated whether she was in business for herself? That could make a difference on her mandatory Skype policy.


Agreed on all counts and good point FieryOpal! And her profile did say she was seeking some sort of "business arrangement only" which could be anything, including findomming. Perhaps she was coming up against duds who were all talk, no action. That was my impression when she said "real". Not sure if she wants to actually meet them offline. I gave the benefit of the doubt despite that and her confusing OP. It makes sense that a Domme who wants to see her prospective sub on cam wants to either 1; play with you in some form or fashion. or 2; wants to verify you're the person you are representing. I like when a sub is thinking of my interests rather than his own when he is courting and waving hello on cam isn't such a big whoop. Or rather, she might want to verify the sub is kneeling while she engages. Protocol is an individual decision by the Domme. Skype is not an impossible feat. Difficult maybe, but then that's where you really get your chance to shine.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 5:51:02 PM   
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Isn't this Photoshop business getting a tad paranoid? If someone's THAT terrified of talking to a faker, then perhaps Collarspace isn't the right place for that person to meet other people? To me, those who demand Skype are using emotional blackmail; talk to me or you're a fake. It's pushy and disrespectful. Personally, I think it's kind of sad and it makes me doubt that said person can be a responsible and empathetic dom/me


I don't think it's pushy or paranoid at all. I want to know I'm chatting with the real deal before meeting so I don't waste my time. Work is exhausting so I don't want to make the effort to meet up offline and find out that ooops the man isn't at all as promised.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 5:57:58 PM   
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I don't think it's pushy or paranoid at all. I want to know I'm chatting with the real deal before meeting so I don't waste my time. Work is exhausting so I don't want to make the effort to meet up offline and find out that ooops the man isn't at all as promised.


I agree, and beyond D or s, the burden of "self protection" is on the women moreso than the men. There is higher risk meeting someone offline if you're a woman. I have had wannabe stalkers and yet I haven't become jaded about meeting people offline. I trust my judgement as everyone should through this process and that's the bottom line. It's good to have an objective scope of things which is sometimes difficult even for myself. My bestie is visiting me from San Fran next week. He called me out on using my sexuality as a weapon which caused me to find my "middle ground". He is my friend because I trust him to give me good advice.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 6:08:51 PM   
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I don't think it's pushy or paranoid at all. I want to know I'm chatting with the real deal before meeting so I don't waste my time. Work is exhausting so I don't want to make the effort to meet up offline and find out that ooops the man isn't at all as promised.


I agree, and beyond D or s, the burden of "self protection" is on the women moreso than the men. There is higher risk meeting someone offline if you're a woman. I have had wannabe stalkers and yet I haven't become jaded about meeting people offline. I trust my judgement as everyone should through this process and that's the bottom line. It's good to have an objective scope of things which is sometimes difficult even for myself. My bestie is visiting me from San Fran next week. He called me out on using my sexuality as a weapon which caused me to find my "middle ground". He is my friend because I trust him to give me good advice.


Too right! This isn't a D/s issue at all it's a one human being meeting another online issue. I met one dude who turned out to be a scary psycho, he raped me repeatedly. In retrospect I wish I could have Skyped with him maybe I would have picked up on something. Maybe not but I wish I'd at least tried. It's SCARY out there any edge helps.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 6:31:08 PM   
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Too right! This isn't a D/s issue at all it's a one human being meeting another online issue. This isn't a D/s issue at all it's a one human being meeting another online issue. I met one dude who turned out to be a scary psycho, he raped me repeatedly. In retrospect I wish I could have Skyped with him maybe I would have picked up on something. Maybe not but I wish I'd at least tried. It's SCARY out there any edge helps.


THAT is my definition of a fake Dom. Those who parade around using this lifestyle to truly cause harm to others make my blood boil. Maneuvering the internet is hard but I've done it pretty much my entire adult life and there are extra rules of self protection that apply because it's a "free-for-all". Whether the man is D or s, he is courting you. Yes, he can pull your hair and spank the hell out of you later but until he proves himself to care about you and be a well balanced individual, do not put your guard down for a moment. Watch your drink, take a picture of his license plate (pretend you're tying your shoe to not offend), do not play privately til you are ready and don't let him drive you home. Let him believe you live at your neighbor's or a relative's if you have to ride with him. Keep conversation light hearted and as vanilla and friendly as possible unless you're greenlighting him. Meet publicly is always best for first meetings.
There is a reason there is no porn of men fapping all over the internet and women running to view it. Women are the ones often sexualized so any romantic/intimate situation should be approached with that in mind first and foremost. SO sorry you went through that. *Virtual hugs*
ETA; Skype helps. It definitely breaks the ice when you're trying to get to know someone no matter the intent. Then the offline meeting is more comfortable and less anxious for either party. My current is the only sub I have ever skyped with before meeting though but I think skyping early is a good idea as soon as there is indication of chemistry and preferably sooner rather than later. You also get to know his mannerisms and facial expressions and voice and possibly even living circumstance this way in a safe setting before meeting offline.

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 6:59:09 PM   
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Too right! This isn't a D/s issue at all it's a one human being meeting another online issue. This isn't a D/s issue at all it's a one human being meeting another online issue. I met one dude who turned out to be a scary psycho, he raped me repeatedly. In retrospect I wish I could have Skyped with him maybe I would have picked up on something. Maybe not but I wish I'd at least tried. It's SCARY out there any edge helps.


THAT is my definition of a fake Dom. Those who parade around using this lifestyle to truly cause harm to others make my blood boil. He is so lucky we never crossed paths. Maneuvering the internet is hard but I've done it pretty much my entire adult life and there are extra rules of self protection that apply because it's a "free-for-all". Whether the man is D or s, he is courting you. Yes, he can pull your hair and spank the hell out of you later but until he proves himself to care about you and be a well balanced individual, do not put your guard down for a moment. Watch your drink, take a picture of his license plate (pretend you're tying your shoe to not offend), do not play privately til you are ready and don't let him drive you home. Let him believe you live at your neighbor's or a relative's if you have to ride with him. Keep conversation light hearted and as vanilla and friendly as possible unless you're greenlighting him. Meet publicly is always best for first meetings.
There is a reason there is no porn of men fapping all over the internet and women running to view it. Women are the ones often sexualized so any romantic/intimate situation should be approached with that in mind first and foremost. SO sorry you went through that. *Virtual hugs*


That's why I'm being so careful this time around. I've taken stupid risks in the past I'm just not willing to take. This time it's all about safety and if that means I have trouble meeting my next D-type so be it. Yes Skype will be a part of it, I figure if a guy won't show his face he's not trustworthy enough to meet offline. Would it have prevented my being raped I don't know but it's a tool I can use and I will. About that asshole in the end I won. A while after he raped me I started seeing him around the hospital I work in. At first I was terrified but then I got angry. As far as I was concerned he was on MY turf and I was damned if he was going to get to me. So the next time I saw him I looked him right in the eyes. At first he looked puzzled then his eyes widened in alarm and he lost his power over me. Thanks for the virtual hugs <smiles>

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 10:20:08 PM   
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If someone demands skype and asks you to get on cam you can always hide your face by keeping cam lowered.


Pardon my ignorance, since I don't "do" Skype, but, is it generally asked to be two-way? Or just one way?
That is, how does one know whether the "girl" on the other end isn't some out-of-shape guy, just like I am?

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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 10:46:21 PM   
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If someone demands skype and asks you to get on cam you can always hide your face by keeping cam lowered.


Pardon my ignorance, since I don't "do" Skype, but, is it generally asked to be two-way? Or just one way?
That is, how does one know whether the "girl" on the other end isn't some out-of-shape guy, just like I am?



It's interesting you should ask that, Crumpets.

People who know me, know that I am missing two fingertips on my right hand and that typing was never my best friend, to begin with. I have a couple of friends who hate the idea of speaking on Skype but who will listen to me and type responses. Kind of silly but that's their thing.

However, since we're talking about verification (sort of) on this thread, as I said in a previous post, typing really doesn't verify anything.

One of the reasons why I won't meet someone until I have spoken with them on the phone or on Skype is because there are subtle nuances that can be picked up in vocal conversation that can't be picked up in text.

I have a pretty sarcastic sense of humor. In vocal communication, that might work but it can lead to some ugly situations in text. Misuse of punctuation can cause other issues.

I will re-iterate (yet, again) that one can use the voice feature in Skype without activating the webcam.



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RE: Skype - 1/24/2015 11:33:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
If someone demands skype and asks you to get on cam you can always hide your face by keeping cam lowered.


Pardon my ignorance, since I don't "do" Skype, but, is it generally asked to be two-way? Or just one way?
That is, how does one know whether the "girl" on the other end isn't some out-of-shape guy, just like I am?



The thing that this thread, and other ones about how "easy" it is to fake a photo (even holding a sign with a person's name, or whatever) -- seriously, the bottom line is that most time wasters or "fakes" or whatever are not going to go through the TIME or EFFORT it takes to make a fake anything - a photo or video or whatever. As soon as it gets to that point they will vanish. Someone has to be ultra committed to a "long con" if they are doctoring "hi Akasha!" or whatever photos -- this is vastly different than just ripping off a casual candid pic anywhere from the web and saying "oh this is me!" which is more common.

The debate about whether or not it can be done is ridiculous. Sure, a guy can spend hours and hours doctoring a perfect fake "hi!" photo, but to what end? Why? So he can doctor another one the next day? Anyone sneaking/hiding their identify to get their jollies off online will pick people who are not going to ask for proof or don't care. So you end up with two hairy, overweight truckers in their underpants both saying they are a hot 19 year old blonde with a tight body and they have mutual cybersex and both think going "on skype" is too much of a hassle.

Guess what? They are happy with the fantasy. The fact that the person on the other end of the keyboard is most likely NOT who they say they are does not matter, they are not cultivating anything, it's probably a one night deal.

Akasha

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