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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 4:31:29 PM

GoddessManko

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I'm confused what does this have to do with the title of this thread?

Not sure what you mean...getting out to a munch? Or this or that I said to camille? Hmm...has nothing at all to do with it. I just posed a question in relation to a picture I saw on FL and the discussion evolved into something else.

Also thanks for your reply IHH, same here. Main reason I traveled many times a year and met thousands of people in said pursuit of exploration.

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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 4:48:36 PM

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Well...acceptance of the responsibility was all I could do...I was the dominant and in charge.

But...it WAS really, really, really hot. Playing in front of just two people with the ability to allow her to cum (which you could not do at the BDSM club in Denver at that time), watching a FemDom tease her femsub to the brink over and over before finally allowing her to cum, the inspection of both submissives afterward. My girl damn near swallowed me whole on the way to the coffee shop! It was great!!
But...the next day? Not so much.

You accept responsibility outside of play as well? Meaning for her having bad days, her impatience, her dissolution for no apparent reason? Or you accept them for what they are, "her being human" and try to resolve the matter knowing she is the one being illogical. Also do you respond to this behavior or ignore it? I tend to ignore brats. It irks me. It is bad enough my entire family, including my mother depend on me for a litmus of things, from money to personal favors. I can't be fucking arsed with such antics from my sub.

ETA; Also thank you for your response and perspective DesFIP, it is appreciated. I try to understand how this lifestyle is interpreted to others. I have played solitarily with my sub for a long time so I don't know how things really work within a community, nor the status quo.

I know this answer sounds evasive...but it really is not meant to be.

My responsibility extends to decisions I make. I don't make all decisions for a submissive, whether they're completely mine or a friend who's asked me to help in some aspect of their lives. A decision that my submissive makes is one she is responsible for. E.g.: She spends her money on something she really can't afford and then wants my financial help AFTER the fact....um yeah, that'd be a "no". I'll help her figure out what she needs to do, help her sort through her options, etc.. That is...of course...barring unforeseen circumstances.

And...if you'll read my profile...you find I have no tolerance for brats either.

One other thing you mentioned earlier...I know men and women are different. Psychologically. Biologically. I Am understanding of those differences and supportive of them. But, if you're my submissive and your period just started or your having a bad menopausal day...or someone at work pissed in your Cheerios, unless you can show me where it's my fault, don't think aIm going to best the brunt of your misplaced anger for long.

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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 8:19:49 PM

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I don't feel limited by my approach to the lifestyle, because I approach it as me.

Sure, I'm a Dom. I'm also a single father working full time. Does that impact my ability to explore, yup, you betcha. Does that bother me, no, because being a Dom is only one facet of my life. Being a father is another. Being successful in my career is another thing still.

That said, you can't let some parts of your life become excuses for not venturing out or exploring new things. You still have to grow as a human being - just, selectively, in a practical manner that accounts for all the other hats you wear.

It's good that new experiences affect you with a sense of wonder, OP. That's awesome. Never let that part of yourself go, or then you'll truly be inhibited. But don't allow yourself to feel diminished by the things you've never done. There are some things you might never do. It doesn't make you less of a person. Life has limits, time the biggest limit of them all (and for many, geography is a close second). It's ok to acknowledge that you won't do or be certain things in life, and important to embrace and appreciate the things you do have.

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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 9:55:47 PM

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I am generally quite adaptable and have always gone with the flow of what ever is happening at the time, so no, I have never felt like I was limiting myself.... in terms of play.

I have limited myself in other ways, jobs, education, experience. But sexually I have always gone with whatever was happening. With a few exceptions, like bi-sexual experiences, or poly-fuckery. In those things I have no desire to partake because I know me and my triggers. Has nothing to do with keeping things fun and light, it has to do with knowing myself exceptionally well.

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On FL which sort of embodies my feelings about this lifestyle. It had the caption, "*insert name here* isn't a masochist. But she reacted quite strongly to being forced to take four needles through her nipples while strapped into a gas mask, and wearing *insert name here*'s nipple stocks to make things extra sensitive. Submission can do wonderful things."
Do you ever feel like you are limiting yourself in any way by not being explorative in the lifestyle or are you quite happy with keeping things fun and light? "The Bird of Hermes is my name, eating my wings to make me tame" is true about me because my desires are so very broad and all-encompassing. To be honest, even placing labels on things is rather difficult. And I'm very big on the mental aspects of BDSM. I just am curious about how others feel about this and forgive the distracted sort of OP presentation. Thoughts?

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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 10:27:01 PM

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I don't feel limited by my approach to the lifestyle, because I approach it as me.

Sure, I'm a Dom. I'm also a single father working full time. Does that impact my ability to explore, yup, you betcha. Does that bother me, no, because being a Dom is only one facet of my life. Being a father is another. Being successful in my career is another thing still.

That said, you can't let some parts of your life become excuses for not venturing out or exploring new things. You still have to grow as a human being - just, selectively, in a practical manner that accounts for all the other hats you wear.

It's good that new experiences affect you with a sense of wonder, OP. That's awesome. Never let that part of yourself go, or then you'll truly be inhibited. But don't allow yourself to feel diminished by the things you've never done. There are some things you might never do. It doesn't make you less of a person. Life has limits, time the biggest limit of them all (and for many, geography is a close second). It's ok to acknowledge that you won't do or be certain things in life, and important to embrace and appreciate the things you do have.

Ha, well I think we can all relate to the "have other things going on than kink in life" sentiment. I am going to do everything I desire to do to be honest. I do not limit myself geographically, the only thing that might impede me is severe illness, maiming or death but I doubt I will ever limit myself. I feel compelled not to do so. I have lived a lot, so it's hard to find "new" and "interesting" things at this point so when I do I'm very happy. Sort of like seeing most of the western hemisphere. I want to experience two things, true love and travelling further out East.

To Missokyst, thanks for your thoughts. Pretty awesome you're malleable when it comes to kink and very explorative. Having limits is reasonable of course, everyone has limits. For me it's bathroom blah primarily. Secondarily castration.

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RE: I saw the most beautiful picture - 1/28/2015 11:28:22 PM

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Do you ever feel like you are limiting yourself in any way by not being explorative in the lifestyle or are you quite happy with keeping things fun and light?

That's not the way I'd put it. I like to explore, but I certainly have limits and there are things that in no way appeal to me which I don't want to explore. Like the needles-through-the-nipple photo that was so compelling for you would be of zero interest to me. I have absolutely no interest in or curiosity about needles, and don't find those kind of images erotic or interesting.

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