ExiledTyrant
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Hi, all! I know this is a long profile, but I'd appreciate any opinions. IMHO, it might be not kinky enough for here, def not enough for FL, and way too kinky for Match, OKC, etc. I'm not a munch or public play person at all, since I'm totally private about this part of my life and not really a "play" person anyway. I feel a little bit between a rock and a hard place, especially since I can't post a photo. Anyway, I feel like Collar is my best shot for finding the right person for me. Tell me what you think!!!
First, you do have a great profile.
Second, I take issue with only one thing; you are far too flexible. I would absolutely love you to find the relationship you are looking for because my compersion has no boundaries. I feel that you are going to encounter a lot of false starts with your flexibility. You need to make a laundry list of the "No fucking way" stuff to avoid the false starts.
From a vanilla perspective, you paint a good picture, but it is always our idiosyncrasies, the under lying nature of who we are and the fulfillment we need (in this case "Kink"), that will make or break our relationship. WIITWD is attractive because we tend to put our inner monsters on parade. That level of honesty is quite desirable because the things that could break a vanilla relationship are upfront and in the open, we just have to learn latter how they deal with dirty socks is something we can cope with.
So your flexibility is admirable, though I'd rather see you "define" yourself more and succeed rather than remain amiable and fail at numerous false starts. I've been a member of this site since it went live and I've met some wonderful people, and I've met some awful people, but it wasn't until recently that I really defined who I am, drew my lines, and found my girl.
Jus sayin
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ETA; I reread your profile all the way through and my only critique would be not to put a requirement in a Domme as far as contact. For me, I would pull back if I saw that on a sub's profile. Not saying you intended it that way but it is a demand and typically something I would see on a Dominant's profile, not a submissive. Though I understand the filter, I think a Domme reaching out would fare better to write logically and make remarks about your profile therein or herself and her personal life, than to be demanded to read a profile all the way through. We get hundreds of emails typically so skimming is usually the gist of it though yours was a joy to read. Some Dommes actually believe reaching out to subs violates the "Leather Code" to give you a heads up so if one reaches out then indeed engage if you seem to have common interest, whether it is from reading her profile or her introductory letter. But I encourage you to be the one to be proactive and reach out. Here all male subs are on equal footing until there is reason for interest/intent. There are many professionals like yourself though their profile is indeed not as well written. Best of luck!
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