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crumpets -> RE: Is asking for appreciation considered topping from the bottom? (2/19/2015 10:50:17 AM)
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
I would have been mortified. I try to make my expectations known even when people think they are "unreasonable".
I think it was really my fault, for not being clear my simple expectations, from the start, and, for not understanding her understanding of the value equation, at the very same time.
Plus, it was more of a nagging feeling, an intuition, something is not right kind of feeling, than an iron clad yes:no.
With my particular personality, I can make really good decisions "if" the data lines up (my personality is to input more data than probably anyone you have ever met, coupled with high intuition that is on par with high sensing, and then that data-input is paired with decision making preferences where feeling is just as evenly on par with thinking).
Someone who is intuitive and thinking, for example, would have made the decision loooooong ago (probably within the first 10 minutes).
Someone who is sensing and feeling would also have made that decision long ago.
It's hardest for people, like I am, who are evenly sensing & intuitive and thinking & feeling when the data doesn't line up and when the feelings need to be considered.
By way of example, buying a car or house or play toy is easy for people like me, since we take in lots of data and make really good decisions bearing in mind both feelings and facts.
Choosing a prospective employer is a bit more difficult, since we take in more inputs than most and consider more outputs than most.
And, what's hardest, is human-to-human interaction since we tend to give equal weight to facts and intuition and to feelings and logic, all of which is EASY when things line up - but immensely confusing to us when they don't line up in a reasonably fitted curve.
But, I probably said too much already and lost most of you .... (slap! slap!)...
Now back to our sponsor ...
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