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AlabamaPrincess -> RE: Is asking for appreciation considered topping from the bottom? (2/25/2015 11:31:06 AM)

I met a girl once who told me flat out, she thrived on having her ego stroked. And it was very true...the more often I or someone else noticed what she did (beyond daily adult living) the better she performed, and the more she did.

For me, I don't require a thank you after every meal, or for cleaning house. It's my job and I do it with pride. But I do feel appreciated by Him. I get snuggles after dinner, I send a happy man off to work, and I sometimes hear him bragging about me to his buddies. Really, that's all I need. Now if I go above and beyond with something special? Then yes, a thank you would be great.



crumpets -> RE: Is asking for appreciation considered topping from the bottom? (2/28/2015 8:52:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AlabamaPrincess
But I do feel appreciated by Him.

I would agree on the emphasis of "feeling" appreciated, whether or not words are spoken.
A simple pat on the head, or a kind word, or even the typical orgasmic groans of a happy partner is appreciation enough for this submissive.




DesFIP -> RE: Is asking for appreciation considered topping from the bottom? (3/3/2015 9:18:01 AM)

Someone else touched on 5 Love Languages. And that's the problem here. People who thrive on acts may not realize or be practiced in verbal affirmations.

For someone like that, I wouldn't automatically assume that a stilted affirmation was insincere. It might just be being uncomfortable with something new and need practice to become easier at it.

It helps for both of you to discuss what your love languages are. And to give positive feedback when someone is learning yours.



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