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Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 8:31:29 AM   
ChrisDomLA


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Status: offline 		I should say most people, in general, lack self-discipline. I met a female submissive through Craigslist a while ago and we have been talking about her moving in with me. So we tried a "trial period." She starts whining that reading one paragraph from the Lord's word is too much for her. It's too hard. Can you believe that?

Self-discipline creates magic in our lives. All our dreams can come true if we practice self-discipline.
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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 8:38:34 AM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		Is it that she lacked self discipline or didn't want to read the text because that is not her belief system?

I can believe that. I bitch whenever someone makes me read the bible- but I'm an atheist.

You weren't compatible- move on- sweeping generalizations based on that tiny sample size aren't good for anyone. If you're finding it true of everyone you meet- the common denominator is...you. So try to figure out why you're attracting that.

How quickly into the relationship did moving in together become something you wanted to try? How did you not realize she had issues with discipline before trying to move her in?


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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 8:50:55 AM   
littleladybug


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Status: offline 		If someone felt that I lacked "self-discipline" because I had issues with reading Bible passages at his behest, the nicest word I could use is that we are "incompatible".

Yup, I can believe that people like what they like, and won't necessarily deal with things they don't.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:11:00 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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Perhaps you should focus more on finding a submissive who enjoys reading the Bible, rather than forcing your brand of Christianity on someone who might not see it the same way you do.

Just a thought

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:17:57 AM   
PeggyO


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Status: offline 		I am a submissive. Over the past few years I have had the self discipline to, among other things, train for and complete a marathon. I've run two Tough Mudders. I work out 6 days a week. I am currently training to climb Mt. Rainier in August.

OP, you have a lot of gall telling me I lack self discipline.

What's your level of self discipline?

What challenging goals have you set for yourself and completed?

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:19:25 AM   
catize


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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:37:12 AM   
MalcolmNathaniel


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Status: offline 		I tried to give you a warning last night on that other thread.

You just insulted everyone on this board. You insulted all the subs because they pride themselves on their discipline. Worse you insulted all the dominants twice: once by telling them that they can't maintain discipline in their subs and a second time by insulting their subs.

One of the things, in general, that subs look for in dominants is someone to protect them. You just pissed off a lot of overly protective humans.

My suggestion is to go and read those fucking scriptures yourself. You obviously don't understand them, so how the hell can you be training others?

I suggest you start with Matthew 7:1-3 KJV , "Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?"

Also, note that some of us are not Christians. My religion is a bit harsher towards people who would hurt my family (and my girls are my family, make no mistake about that.) Here's another verse of scripture for you. 1 Samuel 15:3 "Now go and smite Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and spare them not; but slay both man and woman, infant and suckling, ox and sheep, camel and ass."

Still think you are very experienced and are capable of teaching scripture?


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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:40:08 AM   
oldspankster


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Status: offline 		Some good advise here.

If I was moving someone in to live with, I would have discussed more than just her submissiveness.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:47:51 AM   
camille65


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChrisDomLA

I should say most people, in general, lack self-discipline. I met a female submissive through Craigslist a while ago and we have been talking about her moving in with me. So we tried a "trial period." She starts whining that reading one paragraph from the Lord's word is too much for her. It's too hard. Can you believe that?

Self-discipline creates magic in our lives. All our dreams can come true if we practice self-discipline.


Hmmm. I think you might be better off at one of those Christian Domestic Discipline sites since your Christianity is so important to you. It may be easier for you to find someone more in line with your belief system.


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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 9:59:26 AM   
littleladybug


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Status: offline 		What would Master Richard say about this?

Might he suggest that you try to find someone other than on Craigslist?

Just a thought.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 10:00:57 AM   
Spiritedsub2


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Status: offline 		You're an 18 year old boy who fancies himself a dominant and claims to have lots of experience. You've just alienated your target audience with your clueless and clumsy attitude. Try Craigslist. Lots of energetic Christian submissive girls on there, I hear tell.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 10:01:05 AM   
orgasmdenial12


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Status: offline 		The only Lord whose word I read is my Dom - and he doesn't write much ;-)

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:08:54 AM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: ChrisDomLA

I should say most people, in general, lack self-discipline. I met a female submissive through Craigslist a while ago and we have been talking about her moving in with me. So we tried a "trial period." She starts whining that reading one paragraph from the Lord's word is too much for her. It's too hard. Can you believe that?

Self-discipline creates magic in our lives. All our dreams can come true if we practice self-discipline.



When one opens one's mouth with the specific intent to ram one's foot down one's gullet like an endoscope and one does it with surprising consistency... one should begin to examine whether or not to open one's mouth at all.

Kid, you have so much to learn about life in general, let alone BDSM. I read your profile and I have to admit, I laughed out loud at the fact that you underwent "One Day of Intensive Training" with some random dude you met at your local BDSM scene... and you thought this was enough. In fact, if he thought that would be enough... that is all you really need to know about that guy. That is kind of like thinking that attending one day of flight school makes you a fighter pilot.

Forcing someone to memorize scripture if they do not share your belief system is ridiculously disrespectful. You aren't going to convert people by forcing your God down their throats... see recorded history for examples. If you really want to convert people, live what you believe.

Speaking in sweeping generalizations is pretty much a bad idea in most cases. If your submissive lacks self-discipline, that says more about you than it does about them. If you are this uber-dominant from your one day crash course, you should know that if your sub lacks self-discipline, that you can help them with that. Those kinds of personality flaws can be corrected over time but it takes patience, love, and understanding, all of which you are in short supply of having. You also have to have someone willing to change that lack of self-discipline before you even try.

You are 18 years old, contrary to what you may believe, you do not have life all figured out... of that I assure you. Because you don't have life all figured out, I can pretty much say that you don't have the BDSM lifestyle all figured out either. So, if I may offer some advice... slow the fuck down. A good dominant is a good listener. You need self-discipline to be a good dominant, you appear to lack patience... never a good sign. Before you try to move a submissive in with you, find out whether or not you are compatible with them... unless, of course, you like to rush into things and make big mistakes... then go for it.

In the General BDSM section there is a book list at the top of the posts... I would normally post a link for you but I am not going to do that... because you should find it on your own. Being a dominant is not an add water and stir kind of thing, you need to learn about what to do and what not to do and in the process, you get to discover a great deal about yourself. Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and it is best that you learn that now... rather than later.

I am sure you have all the good intentions in the world, but all the good intentions in the world are not going to help you if you have no idea what it means to be a dominant.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:14:59 AM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: Gauge

attending one day of flight school makes you a fighter pilot.



I've seen you're handy work, Gauge.



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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:21:23 AM   
AlabamaPrincess


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Status: offline 		Wow....Just, WOW. I cannot believe you had the balls to insult every person on this forum. And let me tell you, the same way PeggyO did.....I served 8 years in the military as a cop and bomb dog handler. This included 4 months in the sandbox searching for explosives on people and vehicles who not only had ZERO respect for women (like you) but who also wanted to kill me. This also means I spent 8 years trying NOT to get blown up. And you want to tell ME that I have NO SELF DICIPLINE? How about you take a step back, regroup, and LEARN.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:26:25 AM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

I've seen you're handy work, Gauge.




Ahhhh... you found my brochure.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:28:09 AM   
ChrisDomLA


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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12

The only Lord whose word I read is my Dom - and he doesn't write much ;-)



You're misguided. You're Dom is not the Lord.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:29:04 AM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: AlabamaPrincess

Wow....Just, WOW. I cannot believe you had the balls to insult every person on this forum. And let me tell you, the same way PeggyO did.....I served 8 years in the military as a cop and bomb dog handler. This included 4 months in the sandbox searching for explosives on people and vehicles who not only had ZERO respect for women (like you) but who also wanted to kill me. This also means I spent 8 years trying NOT to get blown up. And you want to tell ME that I have NO SELF DICIPLINE? How about you take a step back, regroup, and LEARN.


Hey OP... you were just PWNED.

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:30:38 AM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: ChrisDomLA

You're misguided. You're Dom is not the Lord.


Kid, frankly, you have a difficult time seeing the forest because all of the trees blocking your view... don't you?

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RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline - 2/25/2015 11:32:09 AM   
littleladybug


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ORIGINAL: ChrisDomLA


quote:

ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12

The only Lord whose word I read is my Dom - and he doesn't write much ;-)



You're misguided. You're Dom is not the Lord.


Actually, my Lord knows the difference between "you're" and "your".

Seriously though, if you want to find someone to submit to you, focus on someone who fundamentally believes the same way you do. I've found that it is far easier, and far more fulfilling, that way.

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