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to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:21:59 PM   
farmersdaughter


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Status: offline 		what is YOUR definition of Bi(bisexual)?????
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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:23:16 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		someone that enjoys both sexes...which is ok for others, but not me...won't do it under any circumstances.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:30:43 PM   
WyrdRich


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Status: offline 		     I was just having this conversation in the car....

     I have a strange take on this and define it by action, not desire.  A guy can recieve oral from another and not be across the line but doing another guy is. 

     A friend likes to say there is no such thing as a bi-sexual male, just those that will suck a dick and those who won't.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:31:55 PM   
sharainks


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Status: offline 		To me its someone who is, or at least can be, attracted to both sexes.  If you aren't then you probably won't be too interested in having sex with other women.

I'm not quite sure what you are asking though, it seems to be more than wanting a definition.  I'm not bi at all and if asked about it by a dominant simply say "The thought of being with another woman sexually is just as much of a turn off to me as the idea of being with another man is to most men".   That doesn't usually require more explanation to make the point. 


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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:31:56 PM   
farmersdaughter


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Status: offline 		can the same sex "play" sexually with eachother & not be Bi???

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:33:09 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		i would never let a guy get that close to me much less reveal myself in such a way. i never took showers with the other boys in school, i waited until i got home.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:44:43 PM   
mistressminxau


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Status: offline 		I have boys who do bi activitys and are not bi, they do it for me because l enjoy this sort of play.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:46:59 PM   
michaelGA2


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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:50:14 PM   
LTRsubNW


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can the same sex "play" sexually with eachother & not be Bi???


Uhhhmmmm....That would be a "NO!!!!".

(See above).

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:53:18 PM   
farmersdaughter


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Status: offline 		ok..the person i am have this discussion with about Bi..is telling me that almost all Masters or Doms at some time give up control so the sub can top from the bottom...i have never heard of this or the "bi" thing...i hvae been owned only once..but i hvae never met any Masters or Mistresses that do bi things but are not bi & allow their slave to top from the bottom..i guess i have a lot to learn...lol

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:53:25 PM   
stockingluvr54


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quote:

ORIGINAL: farmersdaughter

can the same sex "play" sexually with eachother & not be Bi???


Yes.... At one time I thought I might be a sissy fag once I found out I like to CD in underwear. No action from any Dommes so I hooked with another CD'r and was curious to try and figure out if I might be bi-curious? I knew that at least another CD'r would understand the underwear fetish...if nothing else. We'd agreed on oral only. I was scared to death and unsure but I'm one of those that does exactly what I say so we met. Anyways he started to go down on me...I stopped him cause NOTHING was happening down there and proceeded to keep my promise and go down on him. I left there with no trauma but I found out that I'm definately not into guys....period. I don't care what they dress up like. I suffered through that and that put the stops to my wondering if I may be bi-curious......LMAO!  NOTHING like a woman!!!!!!!!!

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:54:30 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		umm My definition, or stance would be, bi with serious hetero-sexual tenadicies. Does that make sense or count? I find all types of people attractive, but really only get the chemistry going with members of the opposite sex. imo.  riding the fence has lots and lots of perks though.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:54:37 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Why are bisexuals always looking for the same sex partner.. doesn't that make them Gay?

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:57:04 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		To me, it's being sexuall attracted to members of both sexes. Someone can "do" another person and not be bi...it becomes just a thing you do...like you could flog a man or a woman. The attraction, to me, is what makes it bisexual.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:57:40 PM   
serenebeauty


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Status: offline 		Why, what have you heard?? ::suspicious look::

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 6:59:49 PM   
DigitBox


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quote:

ORIGINAL: farmersdaughter

what is YOUR definition of Bi(bisexual)?????


I am capable of being physically/emotionally attracted to a person for reasons other than their gender.


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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 7:00:57 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Why are bisexuals always looking for the same sex partner.. doesn't that make them Gay?


Because the generalization that we are isn't true. I currently don't have a female sex partner...I have a male. Does that automatically make me het? No...and neither does me looking for a female partner make me a lesbian.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 7:02:45 PM   
sharainks


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Status: offline 		farmersdaughter I think your friend stating that "Almost all" doms give up control so the sub can top from the bottom is coming from someone who themselves has much to learn about this. 

For me being able to "top" someone kind of screws up the dynamic.  Being able to do it in the middle of a scene really screws it up.  Being told to top someone who claims to be dominant just makes me think they are a sub wanting to control what they get.


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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 7:03:00 PM   
Level


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Status: offline 		If a person of one gender has sex with another person of that gender, and they are sexual with the opposite gender, they are at the very least doing a bisexual act... and are bisexual as far as I'm concerned.
 
If a person of one gender is sexually attracted to another of the same gender, as well as the opposite gender, they are indeed bi.
 
As for "almost all dominants" allowing themselves to be topped from the bottom.... I'm not sure if this person is one you should learn from lol.

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RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... - 7/14/2006 7:05:30 PM   
DigitBox


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Why are bisexuals always looking for the same sex partner.. doesn't that make them Gay?


Hmm...

Last time I checked I had a preference for men but that hasn't stopped me from being attracted to some women.

I'd say I'm definately not hetro, and definately not a lesbian.

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