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LadiesBladewing -> RE: to Bi or not to Bi...that is the question... (7/14/2006 10:54:45 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
What I have expereienced is that women will be hooked up with a male.. and then constantly looking for a female partner/slave/sub what have you.
Can a bi-sexual ever be satified? Do you find Bi-sexuality more acceptable in females than males?
I actually find this kind of sentiment quite rude. SR and I have been together for more than a decade, in a committed relationship. We had two male partners, who have since died, and haven't really gone looking for any more since. We've met a few, but frankly, LEB and PDB (both bi, and all four of us in a closed, committed relationship) set a standard that nobody since has been able to match, and the encounters never went beyond one or two dates.
We have servants, who come here to serve without any sexual component to their service. Like a fine ladies' maid or butler, they provide exemplary service (or are taught to do so if they do not know how), but that service is not sexual.
I am bisexual. I am also a monk. I spent years learning disciplines that enable me to either express or re-direct my sexuality. At the moment, I am channeling all of my energy into the books and workshop I am writing with a co-author, and into my schooling and supporting my mate in -her- schooling, and caring for our family. This is probably not a lot different than your situation, in dealing with -your- mate.
SR is bisexual, but her primary interest, sexually, is men. Even with that, she doesn't go looking for a male partner. The few who have come looking for her haven't been able to grasp that she and I are in a committed relationship, and to take one of us is to take both of us (one even saying "yes, I understand completely -- we'll get her a nice apartment, and you can come live with me in my beachhouse... sheesh!). Needless to say, she's thrown them back like the poor catch they were... without me even having to say a word. If she wanted an outside lover, I wouldn't care. After all, I love her, and have no fear about her love for me -- but -she- chooses, time after time (she is an attractive woman) to make what -we- have her priority.
Yes, if someone or someones incredible came along who fit well in our family, and whom SR and I could both cherish the way we cherished PDB and LEB, we'd certainly welcome them. But we're not out cruising the bars for guys -- nor even spending a lot of time worrying about the ones outside of bars. We are ladies, first, and committed to one another and our family first.
ZWD
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