LadyHugs
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Dear Mystic666, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I'll agree with LaTigresse's posting.
As a dominant, I would inform my slaves as to what I am seeing in other slaves. Being aware that I am aware, at least gives my slaves an understanding that I am on top of things. Of course, the slaves see things dominants don't see and should feel free to advise me.
I dislike liars and such. How the person returned and now the third time, sounds like the old thinking of 'third try is the charm.'
That said, perhaps unknown to the slaves, which is causing all the upset, is why the dominant may be putting effort into a liar and drama. Only that dominant will know what his/her intentions are. Perhaps what is being witnessed is an effort to change the pattern of lying or having to lie of one girl. Lying can be seen as a habit, as to mask behind as the truth is unwelcomed in vanilla settings or such and just wanting to be accepted.
Habitual liars find it comfortable to lie. If they can see it isn't necessary to lie anymore it is a freedom they find scary; as it has been a part of them for so very long. I hope this is the dominant's intention but, again his/her slaves should know him/her best.
Perhaps he doesn't see and sees only potential jealousy, envy of two women and sees this third as fresh observation into his/her household.
Communication is the key and a 'round table' discussion might be the ideal ticket to put the whole matter onto the table and let everybody speak.
Being able to voice concerns, facts and such; gives more weight than assumptions and judgment without knowing where everybody stands on the matter or the intention of the dominant. If indeed the dominant is not doing their job in keeping the slaves in his household happy--then he is to be informed, given an opportunity to give a remedy to this situation and grow from it.
What is difficult for dominants is to know the behind the scenes of slave to slave interactions. The slave 'grape-vine' is very powerful. What we cannot see during slave on slave times, is if it is a power struggle, envy, falsehoods, jealous behavior, personality conflicts, attitude/behavior issues by the original two vs. the one or vice-versa.
Perhaps this one lass won't be a good fit in one poly household but, a good fit in another. That needs to be mentioned. A happy home really is finding the right recipe for who creates the desire to have a happy home.
The last one into the home really has a hard time fitting in at first. But, lies shouldn't be tolerated by slaves no matter if first in or last in.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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