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mystic666 -> happens over and over (7/14/2006 6:40:26 PM)

I need to ask this question.  What can or should a sub do when things happen over and over.  I once had a sister slave ( i didn't really see her as such but that is another story) who left the house because of lies she told . She came back speaking of all the changes she made in her attitude and style. It was only a short few months before we all saw she had not changed at all. So she again was gone from the house. Now on the pretext of changing again and only wanting to enter the house as a casual friend she is coming around again. What should me and my sister slave do this time? Do we welcome her back and chance being hurt and the house being turned upside down yet again?  Do we leave it up to our Master and his judgement as to how to take care of this if it happens again adn she really has not changed?

 Thank you for any advice anyone here can give.



serenebeauty -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:00:49 PM)

I would assume that the pattern she has established will continue. What you do about it is obviously up to you and your particular authority/control situation, but it seems pretty clear that she will follow her pattern. 



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:03:47 PM)

Well, since you're in a set power exchange that someone else is in charge of - ultimately the decision is up to him/her.
 
However, that being said, you'd be wise to voice your opinion of the situation to your owner.  A partner can't take your ideas and feelings into consideration if he/she doesn't know what those opinions are, after all.
 
As for a strictly personal opinion - run the gal off at the end of a nail studded baseball bat, making sure that she knows you're willing to use it if she doesn't make herself scarce for the rest of your natural life.



babysburnin -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:06:42 PM)

No disprespect intended, BUT, why does not Master see this?  Is she particulary arousing, is HE particilary blind to her "games"?  Why would Master allow her back in, yet again?  There seems to be a missing piece to the puzzle...



CrappyDom -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:09:39 PM)

Let me guess, she is younger and or thinner than the rest of you?



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:10:04 PM)

I believe in giving people second chances, if I have enough reason to believe things are different. A third chance? Nope. That just reeks of a re-occurring and destructive pattern, and I have no place for those in my life.



babysburnin -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 7:12:36 PM)

Are you mocking me Sir Crappy? [;)]



slave4mzpatti -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 10:02:53 PM)

The leopard doesn't change his spots



Caretakr -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 10:13:59 PM)

Douse her in three day old fish entrails, and chase her away with a burning broom.[8D]



CrappyDom -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 11:04:23 PM)

baby,

I wasn't mocking anyone, I was trying to surmise why this idiot put up with the crap from the troublemaker



champagnewishes -> RE: happens over and over (7/14/2006 11:38:22 PM)

Sounds like more drama than i would be willing to risk taking on....but then again, i'm not the head of the house....[;)]



mystic666 -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 1:38:04 AM)

No she is not thinner or better looking. She is just as chubby as the rest of us lol.
 I know I have a deep trust issue with this woman, she has more than once attempted to put a rift between Master and his other girls.  I am hopeful that he has saw through that and is being ever watchful of that kind of thing again.
 I am prepared to take a wait and see attitude and yes i would love to tar and feather this wench because she makes such a mockery of being a slave that it just burns me up.  But i will grit my teeth , watch and then begin to get the tar hot and start chasing chickens .
 Thank you everyone for your advice and opinions.




SirCumsSlut -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 4:25:31 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mystic666

I need to ask this question.  What can or should a sub do when things happen over and over.  I once had a sister slave ( i didn't really see her as such but that is another story) who left the house because of lies she told . She came back speaking of all the changes she made in her attitude and style. It was only a short few months before we all saw she had not changed at all. So she again was gone from the house. Now on the pretext of changing again and only wanting to enter the house as a casual friend she is coming around again. What should me and my sister slave do this time? Do we welcome her back and chance being hurt and the house being turned upside down yet again?  Do we leave it up to our Master and his judgement as to how to take care of this if it happens again adn she really has not changed?

Thank you for any advice anyone here can give.



Sir and I are facing a similar situation.  I am leaving it in Sir's hands as how to deal with her this time.  Yes again, just like you, for a third time she is trying to come back.  Sir and I both see it for what it truly is, she's horny and needs a Sir fix....LOL  Seriously, I voiced my concerns of her re-establishing contact at this time (we are readying to move in 3 weeks time) and Sir took my concerns into consideration.  He will not risk mine or our unmentionables feelings when it comes to her.  He will be speaking with her today as a matter of fact, and I will know his decision regarding her when he gets home. 


My advice, you and you sister slave need to ask your Master if the three of you can talk.  Then let him know what the two of you are feeling about this other girl and what she has done to your otherwise happy family.  I am sure he will listen to your feelings and take them into account when making this difficult decision. 



bandit25 -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 4:38:24 AM)

Excellent advice.  Talk to your Master, voice your concerns. 



windchymes -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 1:33:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Let me guess, she is younger and or thinner than the rest of you?


Either that, or she gives great head.  Or has huge gazongas.[;)]

There's an old saying, if she burns you once, shame on her, but if she burns you twice shame on YOU.



eruditegirl1 -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 9:07:44 PM)

I would define why she lies....it's easy to judge her and cast her out...but people lie for numerous reasons....attention...is usually a big reason....if she is worth the effort...if you do care for her..then help her understand....but if the lies are hurtful...malicious...then it maybe more of a job for a therapist.....



Sinergy -> RE: happens over and over (7/15/2006 11:13:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

There's an old saying, if she burns you once, shame on her, but if she burns you twice shame on YOU.



I cannot help but think that submissives into fire play would disagree.

I imagine they would go "she burned me twice, she's a keeper!"

But as usual, this is just me and I could be wrong.

Sinergy



LaTigresse -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 7:03:18 AM)

I will not tollerate liars, period.

I don't see this as an issue for other slaves to deal with. I believe that, like another thread I read, having this drama continue is only a reflection of bad Master/Mistress behaviour. The head of a household is responsible for maintaining a balanced harmonious home. In my opinion to allow this person to have access to, any affect on, the household is not doing the job they have promised their other slaves they would do. Take care of the physical and emotional well being of all in their care.



mnottertail -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 7:19:51 AM)

Oh, Gawd!!!!!!!!!!!!  Why won't you talk to me?  You have ALL the moves.


Ron  



RavenMuse -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 7:22:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I will not tollerate liars, period.

I don't see this as an issue for other slaves to deal with. I believe that, like another thread I read, having this drama continue is only a reflection of bad Master/Mistress behaviour. The head of a household is responsible for maintaining a balanced harmonious home. In my opinion to allow this person to have access to, any affect on, the household is not doing the job they have promised their other slaves they would do. Take care of the physical and emotional well being of all in their care.



Well that saves on typing! What my favorate Tigger just said! Me too.



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